Dalicia lynn.. Nice way of putting the
doctor's appointments..
~baby~g~.. I think you should really
listen to dalicia lynn.. Sure it may seem
she's being a b*tch but the truth is..
She's only being honest..Telling exactly
how it is.. In the detail lol..
(doctor's appt)
we know what it's like to be young and
pregnant..And we're just letting you know
what to exspect.. It's not an easy road..
We're not saying your stupid and that you
don't know anything about the
responsibility were just letting you know
what we've gone through so far.. I think
you need to find out if your pregnant and
then go from there.. And if your not
pregnant I would seriously consider
protecting yourself.. Good luck
Joined: 15 Aug 2003 Posts: 183 Location: babenhausen, Germany
Posted: 08-07-05 05:11am
~baby~g~
wrote:
ok, I know all of these
things..I'm not stupid like a lot of other
teen girls out there! I know these
things..And yes I have a car & such
& will be getting my license soon.
And as for school..I'm homeschooled so I
would still be able to graduate & do
something with my life. Trust me I know
all these things. As for the doctor..I
know what they do..I was with my brothers
girlfriend through her whole pregnancy
with my newborn niece. If I did need any
help there would be plenty of people there
to help family, friends & the same
with my boyfriend. Even if he did step
down & not stay with me..I could do
it. I know what that's like also because
my brother is in jail until september
& my family & I have helped
raising his 2 children..I'm not dumb, ok?
So plz don't compare me to other people
that you've talked to. Thanks & have
a great day!
you didn't even stay on subject. This
about you knowing you'd get pregnant if
you didn't use protection, but you went
and did it anyway. Shes giving you
advice, you don't need to be prissy.
If I lived close to this girl i'd punch
her in her face a good 10 times and tie
her legs closed. :d
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Alessandra1202
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Aug 2005 Posts: 48 Location: ohio
Posted: 08-08-05 12:41pm
Punching people in the face......Sounds
like a great mother to me!!! And boy do
you sound like youve been through it all
and know so much..I'm sure you know no
more then this girl as you dont have a
baby yet so why are you preaching......
Doctor bills are very expensive can cost
over 40,000 for a c-section but if you are
here to inform then do so without
critisism.......
And you cant get on her case about car and
money you just stated your father pays
your insurence....Try making a house
payment paying all the bills car and
insurence and all the rest that come with
a family and a house..........Not easy
as I am sure you are meaning to say...But
you could be nicer and good mature mothers
dont cuss and threaten and talk as nasty
as you......
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broadcastedlife
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Aug 2003 Posts: 183 Location: babenhausen, Germany
Posted: 08-08-05 14:07pm
alessandra1202
wrote:
punching people in the
face......Sounds like a great mother to
me!!! And boy do you sound like youve
been through it all and know so much..I'm
sure you know no more then this girl as
you dont have a baby yet so why are you
preaching......
Doctor bills are very expensive can cost
over 40,000 for a c-section but if you are
here to inform then do so without
critisism.......
And you cant get on her case about car and
money you just stated your father pays
your insurence....Try making a house
payment paying all the bills car and
insurence and all the rest that come with
a family and a house..........Not easy
as I am sure you are meaning to say...But
you could be nicer and good mature mothers
dont cuss and threaten and talk as nasty
as you......
its insurance. She's trying to make a
very good point. I do not agree with some
of her words somrtimes, but shes looking
at the facts.
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Alessandra1202
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Aug 2005 Posts: 48 Location: ohio
Posted: 08-08-05 15:22pm
Like I said before she may be trying to
state the facts but doing it in a rude and
disrespectful way is not helpful.......
You can state facts and come accross a
little more decent.......But I also feel
that who is she to preach when she is just
16 herself and her child isnt even here
yet.....So she shouldnt really be getting
on these young girls
like many of us have said before these
teens are here for help! Not to be put
down! They need help and advice and thats
why they are hear..Not to be preached to
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broadcastedlife
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Aug 2003 Posts: 183 Location: babenhausen, Germany
Posted: 08-08-05 15:25pm
alessandra1202
wrote:
like I said before she may
be trying to state the facts but doing it
in a rude and disrespectful way is not
helpful.......
You can state facts and come accross a
little more decent.......But I also feel
that who is she to preach when she is just
16 herself and her child isnt even here
yet.....So she shouldnt really be getting
on these young girls
like many of us have said before these
teens are here for help! Not to be put
down! They need help and advice and
thats why they are hear..Not to be
preached to
i understand. Everyone just has diff.
Opinions.
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~baby~g~
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2005 Posts: 221 Location: Ohio
Posted: 08-08-05 20:55pm
I agree with alessandra1202..I didn't come
here to be preached to & to be told if
I lived near you that you would punch me
in the face. Hah yeah right hun maybe
you're the one that needs to be growing up
a little! Go look in the mirror &
preach these things to yourself before you
say them to me & other teenagers!
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~baby~g~
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2005 Posts: 221 Location: Ohio
Posted: 08-08-05 20:57pm
Oh & I really don't call this advice
she's giving me ppl..
Yes, my dad does pay my insurance, that's
why i'm telling this little girl on here
that it's difficult, at least i'm not
afraid to admit that it's hard.
But hey, I have a car and a job, I pay my
car payments. I do still live at home
with my parents, it's not even legal for
me to move out yet, and when it is i'll do
so.
I'll have my parents support, which is why
i'm telling this girl it's going to be a
lot harder than she thinks, what's she
going to tell her mom? "mom I got
pregnant on purpose, pay for the diapers"
i pay for my unborn babies needs, I dont
have my moms support to where she's buying
everything that's needed for my child, me
cussing or being a b*tch has nothing to do
with what type of mother i'll be, nor does
my age.
My mom is a social worker, i've seen cases
that are realistic, this girl has
everything going through one ear and out
the other. I've seen babies getting taken
away from teen moms, they have no choice.
The law overpowers you and if someone
reports you for being an unfit mother,
then that's it sweetheart.
You never realize how scary and real it is
until you actually see it with your own
eyes, I am going to be a teen mom, i'll be
17 when I have my child, but at least I
can face the facts, im not going to tell
you its going to be easy, yeah your baby
will be the most beautiful thing you've
ever seen. But babies are very needy,
something I understand, and maybe you do
aswell.
But I know I won't think half the things I
do until my baby is born because that will
be real to me, but I wont back out on my
flesh and blood, I wont hand him/her to my
mom if it doesnt stop crying, hell, my
sister is 19 and still does it to me and
my mom.
I'm not saying im going to be the best mom
in the world. But I won't back down on my
baby, nor will I be in such a situation to
where I couldn't support myself, or my
child.
And just to make things fair, my way of
saying things may be disrespectful to some
of you, but to me i'm typing, you dont
know my face expressions nor do you hear
my tone of voice, im not getting an
attitude with anybody, i'm stating my
opinion, take it or dont but you'll see
how it turns out in the end.
I do have a lot of growing up to do before
my child is born, I have 6 months to do
so, but just remember i'm not the retarded
one whos asking if i'm pregnant because I
didnt use protection the first time I had
sex, everything i've said that's immature,
put it together and I bet you it won't
ever sound as dumb as the question you
asked on here.
If I said what you did above, I would be
so embaressed, lol.
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Alessandra1202
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Aug 2005 Posts: 48 Location: ohio
Posted: 08-09-05 09:37am
No question is a dumb question and that is
the purpose of being here.....Teens need
answers i'm sorry but not every teen is as
educated or as sexually experienced as
you....They have a right
and saying "retard" wasn't very respectful
and not called for!!!!!
You are right you do have a lot of growing
up to do so why dont you try doing that
for you and your child before you come
here preaching! Then come back after you
have struggled a little with your child
and post all the facts you want to help
these teens.....But post nicely so they
want to hear you out and maybe you could
really help save them...I am sure you
could but noone wants to listen to you
when you are rude
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Steph92904
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Aug 2005 Posts: 28
Posted: 08-09-05 11:01am
If you think that bad of it you shouldnt
have the baby or give it up. Not that im
saying doing that is right. I am 17 and
aout to have my baby in the next weeks
yeah I have to give stuff up but its not
gonna ruin my life.
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jaydynsmomi
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jul 2005 Posts: 118
Posted: 08-09-05 13:24pm
Whoa? 40,000.00? Mine was only 8500.00..
My insurance company would have killed
me if it was that much!!
This girl put a post for help, yes. I
gave her my advice, now the story has
changed around and she's saying she wants
a baby and she basically got pregnant on
purpose, that's a whole different opinion
on things, sweetheart.
It's different if you can support yourself
without your parents helping you out, I
could support myself, but I know it would
be harder, and cost more if my dad didn't
pay my insurance.
Half of you girls are comparing me to this
one, the difference between her and I are,
I never tried to get pregnant on purpose,
i'm young but was responsible enough to at
least be on birth control. Hell, I have
my whole life to have babies, why ruin my
fun now?
I got pregnant for a reason I believe, I
was on birth control for 6 months then I
got pregnant. That's no stress on my back
because at least I tried my best. I met
my guy when I was 12, i'm now almost 17
and we would have still been together,
which makes my situation totally
different.
I'll raise my baby knowing it happend for
a reason, knowing I didn't mess up by
keeping my baby because I know it was the
right thing to do.
I won't raise my child knowing I brought
it into this messed up world on purpose, I
wouldnt have been a teen mom because I
think with my head and not whats inbetween
my legs.
God had a different plan for me than what
I had for myself, and I do nothing but
respect that.
If you have a job and make good money,
then go ahead and have a baby, but money
doesnt buy responsibility, it doesnt buy
love. It buys diapers and formula.
I hope you grow up and understand that
sooner or later.
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vanessalouanne
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2005 Posts: 2269 Location: ,
Posted: 08-09-05 15:44pm
I have to agree with darcylynn on a lot of
the things she says. Although I
understand where all of you are coming
from in saying that people are not going
to take in your advice, however good it
may be, if you saying it in an aggresive
manner. Heck there is a lot of the time
when I want to say to these 13 year olds,
keep your damn legs shut, but I dont
because I know it wont do any good and
they are not going to listen. In a lot
of ways I admire your honesty. In life
you really have to pick your battles
because you cant go around fighting
everyone. I think a lot of people missed
your point with your last couple of posts.
I havent and im proud to know that you
are being responsible. You know what im
sure you will be a good mother and I am
glad you know whats ahead of you. It
seems like you have a good head on your
sholders. I wish you luck with
everything. I think its just age that
teaches you how to deal with people. I
mean im only 19 so its not like im trying
to come of as some real mature older
person, I just know that how I treated
people at 16 and how I treat people now at
19 is a lot different, and you know what
how I treat people at 21 is probably going
to be a lot different then now ( and so
on) I just think that you really do need
to take all advice into concideration,
just as you tell other girls. Yeah it's
tough to hear it but maybe you do need to
say things nicer..That way people are
actually going to here it. Like I said I
think you have really valid points and are
a smart girl, it's just that your going to
catch a lot more flies with honey.
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vanessalouanne
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2005 Posts: 2269 Location: ,
Posted: 08-09-05 15:47pm
Oh yeah and ive been married for a year
and my dad still pays my insurance, I
offered to take it over but he wants to
and since he gets a much better rate
because of multiple car discount and his
age, im not going to refuse....Hey you got
to take what you can get. Im not to
proud to admit im still a daddy's girl.
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broadcastedlife
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Aug 2003 Posts: 183 Location: babenhausen, Germany
Posted: 08-09-05 15:50pm
vanessalouanne
wrote:
oh yeah and ive been married
for a year and my dad still pays my
insurance, I offered to take it over but
he wants to and since he gets a much
better rate because of multiple car
discount and his age, im not going to
refuse....Hey you got to take what you can
get. Im not to proud to admit im still
a daddy's girl.
i'm paying for car payments and car
insurance and I gave the car to my mother.
So would that make my mom a daughter's
girl? Haha.
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vanessalouanne
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2005 Posts: 2269 Location: ,
Posted: 08-09-05 15:53pm
Lol..I guess so! Hey we've got to take
care of our own right? I figure i'll be
putting my dad in a real good retirement
home one of these days so what goes around
comes around right? Lol.
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broadcastedlife
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Aug 2003 Posts: 183 Location: babenhausen, Germany
Posted: 08-09-05 15:55pm
vanessalouanne
wrote:
lol..I guess so! Hey
we've got to take care of our own right?
I figure i'll be putting my dad in a real
good retirement home one of these days so
what goes around comes around right?
Lol.
shes going throug the middle of a divorce
right now, and having alot of money
problems. Shes trying to take care of my
13 year old brother as well. I cant drive
here for another year so I decided she
needed thecar more than I did. Its ok,
because now when my husband gets back from
iraq, we're getting a 2006 ford fusion. I
am totally hyped about that, haha.
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