I had a 3rd ultrasound today at 7 weeks
pregnant since they couldn't detect the
heartbeat last time I went. There was
still no hearbeat and the dr's say that I
am about to miscarry since the yolk sac is
now beginning to fold in and is no longer
round. I feel sad about it all. I've
only known I was pregnant for just over 2
weeks now but already I have built my mind
up to everything and it's so disappointing
for both me and my husband now that this
has happened. What makes things worse is
that I still feel fine.
They told me about the 3 options, waiting
for natural miscarriage, the d&c or
taking some pills(?) to progress the
miscarriage. I said i'd probably rather
just wait for natural miscarriage so they
are going to have me come in once a week
for the next 3 weeks to check how things
are progressing. If nothing happens by
then they recommend d&c.
I spoke with my mum on the phone today
about this. She had a miscarriage before
and opted for the d&c at the time.
Friends had told her that having a natural
miscarriage can mean severe stomach cramps
and really heavy bleeding. Now i'm not
sure whether I should have just opted for
this and then it would all be over and
done with much quicker and painlessly.
Does anyone have any experience or advice
on either miscarriage and what kind of
pain is involved, also, how heavy is the
bleeding. What about having a d&c -
what to expect?
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Diamondmama_19
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jul 2005 Posts: 1 Location: dallas, tx
Posted: 07-11-05 13:44pm
:( i'm very sorry to hear about that. I
have a 11 month old little girl and I
remember that when I found out I was
pregnant that was all I was worried about
for the first tri. Just beleive in
miricales. Hopefully you'll be blessed
again soon.
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seksiHily
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Joined: 04 Apr 2005 Posts: 1015 Location: MN
Posted: 07-11-05 14:40pm
Im sorry.
I dont know why they would tell u that
because u usually cant hear the heartbeat
at 7 weeks anyways.
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CAMOBACK1
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Jun 2005 Posts: 35 Location: SC
Posted: 07-11-05 14:45pm
I don't think I would have heard the
heartbeat. What they were expecting to
see was like a little flicker to show that
the heart was beating. They say this
should show by now. If it was just that
they'd probably have scheduled me to come
back again to check later. It was more
the fact that the yolk was folding in on
itself that signalled a failed pregnancy.
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El
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Mar 2005 Posts: 476 Location: Melbourne, Australia
Posted: 07-12-05 01:00am
I've just read through the whole situation
(both posts) - how awful for you and your
husband.
I'm really sorry.
I have absolutely no experience of
miscarriage or d&c's or anything, but
I think if it was me, i'd wait and see
what happens naturally, just in case there
was the slightest chance that they are
wrong, or the dates were wrong or
something.
I guess if you did end up miscarrying, and
it was very painful or distressing, there
would be nothing to stop you going to
hospital for help, or having some serious
pain relief prescribed.
Waiting, and then going through it awake,
and experiencing the whole thing (if it
definately happens) might help with the
grieving process afterwards. Do you know
what I mean? Instead of just waking up,
and having the whole thing over and done
with, like nothing ever happened.
To you it was your baby, even if
technicaly, it didn't develop- you still
had a picture of your baby in your head,
and expectations, and everything that goes
along with it. It might be good to see
the process through naturally. It might
be good closure.
I wish you and your husband all the best,
I sincerly do. I hope everything works
out ok for you, whether this baby ends up
developing after all, or whether you'll be
trying again sometime soon.
Take care of yourself.
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justacanadiangirl
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Joined: 19 Nov 2004 Posts: 1803
Posted: 07-12-05 02:55am
seksihily
wrote:
im sorry.
I dont know why they would tell u that
because u usually cant hear the heartbeat
at 7 weeks
anyways.
i heard hearbeat starts at 6 weeks...
And hun i'm so sorry to hear about what's
happening to u. But I guess all I can say
is, just keep up hope and it will be ur
time when it is supposed to be ur time.
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lil_blaze2004
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Posted: 07-12-05 05:01am
I saw the heartbeat with my son at around
5-6 weeks did not hear it though untill 11
weeks.
As for miscarriages i've had 2 and the
first one was spontaneous, meaning it
happened early on and they did nothing
after. The second one, happened
naturally too but I had a d&c after to
clean out any remaining stuff. The
second one hurt more but I think it was
cause I was further along then when I had
the first. The d&c did not hurt
though and I felt fine afterwards
(physically)
i am so sorry for your loss and hopefully
things will get better.
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mum2beee
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Joined: 29 Jun 2005 Posts: 99
Posted: 07-12-05 10:47am
Hey ya, I had a miscarriage I was about
5-6 weeks.. It all started off really
light bleeding so I see a midwife who
booked me for a scan on a monday (in feb)
and the bleeding got worse so I went to
bed early one night (it was a thursday) I
woke up with very bad pains in my stomach
nothing would make them go away then I
went to the toilet and the blood had got
alot worse! I went to the hospital who
put some kind of clamp up me and pulled
some clots out they was almost certain it
was a miscarriage then I went for the scan
monday and I had lost it.
But i'm preg again now- 9 weeks and it
does go through my mind it may happen
again. Things may not look good for u at
the moment but i'm positive it will all
work out for u. Good luck hun, take care
x x x
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leah23
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jul 2005 Posts: 42 Location: adelaide
I Had a Miscarriage On Tuesday Posted: 07-14-05 04:30am
:( I am really sorry to hear about all of
this that is happening to you at the
moment. I cannot say I 100% know how you
feel as everyone handles things
differently. I can say though that it
hurts alot and not to be afraid to let out
your emotions. If it does happen which I
pray for you that it doesnt..You will
probably feel so many emotions that you
wont know where to begin...Love, just go
through each one as it arrives becouse
that is the only thing that you can do.
Do not listen to insensitive people as
there is alot of people out there that
just do not understand or do not know what
to say. Remember if relevant that it is
not just your baby it is your partners as
well and they will probably grieve to
often in a different way though..Males
huh.. A particular doctor is still trying
to tell me that I wasnt pregant even
though I hardly consulted her... medical
question her! A woman knows her body and
knows the changes that occur when pregnant
and also when she is miscarring she knows
to. Trust your body. My miscarriage
hasnt been an unbearable pain but there is
some pain involved. Im trying to go
through it naturally but if the bleeding
doesnt stop within a week I will consult a
gyn and possibly get a d&c. Women
gyns are probably better to consult
especially if they have had children
themselves. Take care my thoughts and
prayers are with you xo
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CAMOBACK1
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Joined: 22 Jun 2005 Posts: 35 Location: SC
Posted: 07-14-05 16:41pm
Thanks for the replies.
The day after finding out from the drs
that they expected me to miscarry I called
the dr back to say i'd changed my mind and
had decided to opt for the d&c. That
was last tuesday. They can't schedule me
in till this tuesday. I began bleeding
slightly yesterday - I mean there's hardly
anything to see. I've also had slight
stomach pains but really nothing worse
than a normal af. I want to get this all
over and done with asap so I still think
it's best to go ahead with the d&c.
As for emotions, well i've had my ups and
downs over the last couple of days. I
think I am handling it well although i've
been upset and teary a few times. I
think I am over the worst of that but
don't know how i'll feel before &
after the procedure on tue. So far I
don't feel nervous about it but I haven't
been in hospitals too much and normally
that kind of thing gets me up tight. My
husband is trying to be understanding and
i'm trying to be patient with him cause I
know his grief is different from mine.
Sometimes I just think that men don't get
it though.
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sxcgirl_me
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 372 Location: Sydney - Australia
Posted: 07-14-05 21:00pm
Camo, im really sorry to hear about the
baby.
I've had a d&c before and I was
absolutely terrified, but after I woke up
(being sedated absolutely knocked me out)
I just felt a bit tired and that was it.
Dont be scared and just remember if it
didn't happen, theres a reason for it :)
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leah23
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jul 2005 Posts: 42 Location: adelaide
Posted: 07-14-05 23:26pm
I know hun, sumtimes men just dont get it!
That is because women are from venus and
men from mars... Sum crap like that.
I have stopped bleeding for now... And am
not sure about a d&c. My gp who I
only consult once through my whole ordeal
told me yesterday that she didnt believe I
was preg and that I was maybe having a
phantom preg.
Well maybe I am a loony tune but I do know
my body and the changes it was going
through.... It is safe to say I will no
longer have her as my gp... health
forum.... Im finding it real hard to deal
with my anger... Any ideas?
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breezy2
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jul 2005 Posts: 13 Location: portland
Test Posted: 07-14-05 23:34pm
You can rule in or out phantom pregnancy
simply by taking a home pregnancy test, it
still will show some hcg even after a
miscarriage, even a faint line meant you
were pregnant
as far as the original post goes, the
d&c can provide some closure for sure,
and remember you may go through postpartum
depression to some extent because your
hormones are going ripped away suddenly
even if it's just a miscarriage
a lot of the sadness is real, some of it's
chemical, and it means it takes longer to
heal from a miscarriage and so your loved
ones should understand that and be
supportive as you normalize over time, and
it can take several months
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leah23
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jul 2005 Posts: 42 Location: adelaide
Thanks Posted: 07-15-05 02:12am
Even being on here and getting responses
is helping to some degree.Xo
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3angelsmommy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jul 2005 Posts: 3 Location: California
Posted: 07-19-05 20:03pm
Leah 23 -
what is with these docs??? :roll: I
am 5 weeks pregnant (from lmp) and was
told yesterday that they really aren;t
even considering me pregnant right
now...In the same breath practically he
told me I mght be very early since he
thinks he measured somehting in my uterus
that could have been a sac measuring 5wks.
1day. No heartbeat seen - still to
early. But my hcg is very low. Anyway, I
may lose this baby too :cry: (it would be
my third loss) and this doc acted as if it
was no big deal I just wasn't pregnant. I
took 3 hpt's all 3 were ++++ I am
pregnant and I get no thought that it
phased him at all. I am to have another
quantitative hcg done next monday and see
him the following monday (august 1st)
unless I begin to bleed before then. What
an ass! :evil: anyway, just wanted you
to know you weren't alone! I know first
hand right now what you are going
through.
