First off: my girlfriend was raped almost
exactly a year ago to this day, from what
I remember, and about seven to eight
months after this rape occurance, she
basically heard a rumor that the guy that
raped her had hiv. To her knowledge, he
did not ejaculate inside of her, but
there's always a chance because of precum,
right?
She heard this rumor on the bus. It was
a girl who had previously dated this guy
and he had broken up with her for someone
else, and she simply commented "he has
aids: you can just tell." obviously, this
statement is something that someone would
say in a vengeful mood towards one that
had previously hurt them. Am I wrong?
So here's the rundown: she had went to a
clinic for an ear infection, and she was
having dry mouth as a symptom.. Which is
a symptom of both hiv infection, diabetes,
and other illnesses such as depression,
which she also has. The nurse mentioned
testing for hiv and diabetes, but we do
not know for sure, as she cannot remember.
She also had asked before and they said
they wouldn't test for it. Let's just
say the doctors there don't know what the
hell they're doing, so we can't even rely
on them.
Now here is what i'm worried about: when
she moved in with me, we had unprotected
sex every night for about three nights,
and they were extremely long, passionate
sessions, and she was on her menstrual
period (we had waited eight months to
finally meet up, as we met over the
internet, so please understand our
desperation) and yes, at the time, I
thought she had came up negative for hiv
as she had told me she was tested. She
later then became confused as to what
exactly had happened at the clinic she
went to, and we both started getting
worried, especially me. She often has
the gut feeling that she doesn't have it,
therefore saying that I don't have it, as
I have not had unprotected sex with anyone
before. I am currently in love with
this female and no matter what (hiv
positive or not) I am staying with her.
That does not matter to me.
We have started using protection, but I
know that I put myself at a very, very
high risk of infection with the menstrual
blood and all. We had the unprotected
sex for three days straight, though.
The only symptom i've noticed myself are
bits of fatigue. The rest of it is pure
panic and anxiety. She's often fatigued
as well, and it bothers me to hear about
it, because I become very, very scared
that it's just another symptom of hiv.
We took a home access test, and i'm
paranoid that we didn't do something
right, even though results won't be
available for another couple of days. I
am so worried that I have hiv, and because
of such an occurance that wasn't even this
girl's fault, and it makes me so upset
just to think of the fact that I might be
hiv positive due to something that
shouldn't have even happened, and wouldn't
have, if she wasn't held down and raped.
Basically, I am extremely scared as to
what is going to happen and what results I
am going to get, or if she even got it in
the first place. By the way, when she
was raped, it was two guys at the same
time: one held her down, while the other
did what he wanted to do. Then, they
took turns. But to her knowledge,
however, they didn't get off in her.
Someone help me. I already have
rapid-cycling bipolar disorder and
borderline personality disorder, and i've
been sent manic too many times in the past
week due to this worry. I cannot stop
worrying. It haunts me in my dreams and
haunts me during the day. I can't enjoy
anything, and the only way to calm down is
to use anti-anxiety drugs that I am
luckily prescribed. Someone help me..
I'd be so happy with this girl if I could
just find out if she is hiv positive or
negative, and I wish I could find out the
chances. This rape with these
particular males only happened once, but
it was, of course, unprotected.
Please, help.. I've read too much about
this illness, and what it could do to
complicate my current mental illnesses in
a dangerous manner, possibly leading to
psychosis. Also, other symptoms she has
gotten.. Yeast infections and urinary
tract infections, however.. That has all
gone away with medicine, and it runs in
her family. Her mother and aunt get
them all of the time, so I can't really
determine if it's hiv due to that.
first off: my girlfriend
was raped almost exactly a year ago to
this day, from what I remember, and about
seven to eight months after this rape
occurance, she basically heard a rumor
that the guy that raped her had hiv.
To her knowledge, he did not ejaculate
inside of her, but there's always a chance
because of precum, right?
She heard this rumor on the bus. It
was a girl who had previously dated this
guy and he had broken up with her for
someone else, and she simply commented "he
has aids: you can just tell." obviously,
this statement is something that someone
would say in a vengeful mood towards one
that had previously hurt them. Am I
wrong?
Hi, I want to tell you what you hear is
not always true. People just love to
start caca also if there jealouse. What
you need to do is just get tested. There
are clinics that do it for free if under
18 and plan parenthood doee it for a small
fee. In order to get thta doubt out of
your mind facing it is the only way. I
understand u have anxiety cause I have it
to. I am also blessed with a perscribed
drug, but you dont want to depend on that.
Some have to I choose not to and I fight
it every day. If he had unprotected sex
thats a reason to be alarmed. She needs
to be checked and those docs are stupid
for saying she doesnt need to. What the
medical question planet are they from.
These days hiv is on the rise especially
in ny, near where I live. Your not wrong
for wanting to hurt them, I use to feel
the same. I had a similiar situation
where someone said my ex had aids and u
know what he doesnt, but everyone said it.
Why b/c people suck like that. You just
have to face the fear thats the only way
youll get closer. Thats my honest
opinion. And for standing by her let her
know that, you live together die together.
It doesnt matter b/c you both have each
other.
So here's the rundown: she had went to a
clinic for an ear infection, and she was
having dry mouth as a symptom.. Which
is a symptom of both hiv infection,
diabetes, and other illnesses such as
depression, which she also has. The
nurse mentioned testing for hiv and
diabetes, but we do not know for sure, as
she cannot remember. She also had
asked before and they said they wouldn't
test for it. Let's just say the
doctors there don't know what the hell
they're doing, so we can't even rely on
them.
Now here is what i'm worried about: when
she moved in with me, we had unprotected
sex every night for about three nights,
and they were extremely long, passionate
sessions, and she was on her menstrual
period (we had waited eight months to
finally meet up, as we met over the
internet, so please understand our
desperation) and yes, at the time, I
thought she had came up negative for hiv
as she had told me she was tested. She
later then became confused as to what
exactly had happened at the clinic she
went to, and we both started getting
worried, especially me. She often has
the gut feeling that she doesn't have it,
therefore saying that I don't have it, as
I have not had unprotected sex with anyone
before. I am currently in love with
this female and no matter what (hiv
positive or not) I am staying with her.
That does not matter to me.
We have started using protection, but I
know that I put myself at a very, very
high risk of infection with the menstrual
blood and all. We had the unprotected
sex for three days straight, though.
The only symptom i've noticed myself are
bits of fatigue. The rest of it is
pure panic and anxiety. She's often
fatigued as well, and it bothers me to
hear about it, because I become very, very
scared that it's just another symptom of
hiv. We took a home access test, and
i'm paranoid that we didn't do something
right, even though results won't be
available for another couple of days.
I am so worried that I have hiv, and
because of such an occurance that wasn't
even this girl's fault, and it makes me so
upset just to think of the fact that I
might be hiv positive due to something
that shouldn't have even happened, and
wouldn't have, if she wasn't held down and
raped. Basically, I am extremely
scared as to what is going to happen and
what results I am going to get, or if she
even got it in the first place. By the
way, when she was raped, it was two guys
at the same time: one held her down, while
the other did what he wanted to do.
Then, they took turns. But to her
knowledge, however, they didn't get off in
her.
Someone help me. I already have
rapid-cycling bipolar disorder and
borderline personality disorder, and i've
been sent manic too many times in the past
week due to this worry. I cannot stop
worrying. It haunts me in my dreams
and haunts me during the day. I can't
enjoy anything, and the only way to calm
down is to use anti-anxiety drugs that I
am luckily prescribed. Someone help
me.. I'd be so happy with this girl if
I could just find out if she is hiv
positive or negative, and I wish I could
find out the chances. This rape with
these particular males only happened once,
but it was, of course, unprotected.
Please, help.. I've read too much about
this illness, and what it could do to
complicate my current mental illnesses in
a dangerous manner, possibly leading to
psychosis. Also, other symptoms she
has gotten.. Yeast infections and
urinary tract infections, however..
That has all gone away with medicine, and
it runs in her family. Her mother and
aunt get them all of the time, so I can't
really determine if it's hiv due to
that.
