I Cant Have An Orgasm From Intercourse. Is This Normal? Posted: 07-15-05 19:34pm
Im a 21 year old female who has been
having sex for about 4-5 years now. And I
have never had an orgasm from sex. I can
however from oral or masturbation, which I
am very thankful for because ive heard
some women cant even achieve that. I
thought that maybe it was because I have
to be comfortable with someone or
something but ive been with my bf for
about 1 1/2 years and I really love him
and am very sexually comfortable with him.
Hes very caring and has tried everything
to help me have one, weve tried different
positions and techniques but I still can
not achieve an orgasm. Is this normal?
Is there anything I can do to have one?
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rae_06
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Oct 2004 Posts: 219 Location: Iowa
Posted: 07-15-05 19:45pm
I have the same problem. Im 17 and been
sexually active since I was 12. Im
pregnant now :s...Me and my boyfriend have
tried everything but nothing really works.
Me masterbating usually works so I do
that when we mess around but I just wish
I could have an orgasm when having
intercourse.
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iwatchedthesky
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Joined: 15 Jul 2005 Posts: 17 Location: Michigan
Posted: 07-15-05 19:46pm
Yeh I can have one from masturbation or
from oral but id really like to have one
from sex. Good luck with the baby!
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dutchman
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Joined: 19 May 2005 Posts: 44
Posted: 07-16-05 02:41am
Well.. I have heard many women have this
problem..
My girlfriend however has multiple orgasms
while having sex with me.
You seem normal as you have orgasm through
other means..Anyway it would be better to
experiment a bit with your current partner
or maybe even changing your partner and
see if you notice a change.
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iwatchedthesky
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Joined: 15 Jul 2005 Posts: 17 Location: Michigan
Posted: 07-16-05 10:28am
We have experimented and I have had other
partners..Quite a few..And its always the
same thing. I still cant have one no
matter what we do.
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dutchman
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Joined: 19 May 2005 Posts: 44
Posted: 07-17-05 04:43am
Well..I think then you should contact a
sexologist. People like me who are here
in the forum, may not be that competent to
answer your query.
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Mary1120
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Joined: 21 Jul 2005 Posts: 3
Posted: 07-21-05 17:05pm
A lot of women just can't achieve orgasm
from sex.. It's quite common. The best
advice I can give you is try new
posistions to enable clitoral contact as
well as vaginal. Sometimes in women (me
as well) we need both clitoral and vaginal
stimulation to achieve an orgasm. I
don't want to be to graphic but there is 1
posistion that's always been talked about
to do this. You could try taking your
legs and putting them up on his
shoulders.. This allows him to move up
closer to your body therefor the top of
his penis rubbing against your clitoris.
Or if you don't want to try new posistions
you could always try getting a vibrator to
put over your clitoris during sex, use
your hand to stimulate it during, also
i've heard 'penis rings' are effective.
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armychick83
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Joined: 23 Jul 2005 Posts: 6 Location: PA
Posted: 07-23-05 02:25am
Try masturbating while he is inside you,
this works for me and it makes my
boyfriend feel better when I orgasm with
him instead of masturbating on my own
after he orgasms. A lot of women have
this problem.
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lord k
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Joined: 11 Jul 2005 Posts: 1
Posted: 07-23-05 04:02am
I've used an erotic form of hypnosis to
ease orgasm..Even trigger it hands-free.
For some it can be quite usefull.
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Happiness03
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Joined: 23 Jul 2005 Posts: 333
Posted: 07-23-05 11:42am
I used to have the same problem when my
fiance' and I started having sex. Really
the best way is for me to be on top. This
way I can control the rhythm and motion to
what feels best for me! Another good
position is have your bf sit on the couch
then get on top, this one is my favorite!
I hope this works for you. Just don't get
frustrated and talk to your bf about
holding off until you can orgasm.
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fatfamily02
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Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 3050 Location: Georgia, USA
Posted: 07-23-05 13:02pm
I am a 43 year old grandmother, and
believe me I still am very sexually
active. I have always had the same
problems. I can count on my hands how
many times I have achieved orgasm with
intercourse.
I do believe that my problem is hormonal
or physical in nature, but I think the
emotions change the outcome. I have to
feel really close to him, and very
passionate at the time, which iv'e never
felt until him. And believe me I have
had my share of experiences, if you know
what I mean
my husband is not premature ejaculater at
all, but it is still most impossible. He
either encourages me to "help myself" or
takes care of me afterwards.
I do not ever encourage him to take care
of me first for I truly enjoy the 'real
thing" best. I really need the outer and
inner stimulation, to have the intercourse
orgasm. I have many times 'almost'
received hands free orgasm just from
concentrating, but never while making
love, just when i'm alone. Have never
quite made it though.
I truly believed I was strange, I hear
about multiple orgasms for women all the
time, too bad it couldn't be me! He he
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beachgirl
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Joined: 28 Jul 2005 Posts: 4 Location: FL
Try Something New. Posted: 07-28-05 10:49am
Often I hear that being on top is what
does the trick for those who have a harder
time reaching climax during intercourse.
For me however, I have always found that
being face down with a pillow under my
tummy (to create a proper arch) and having
my legs closed was the most effective way
to be satisfied. I also use one hand
to touch myself (and feel him slide into
me). This always gets me to orgasm,
and I can almost never cum any other way.
It may seem complicated but you may as
well give it a go! It's my favorite
position and has always been one of my
partners as well. Also, I was
surprised to find out that being face down
with a pillow under you has been know to
be one of the most comfortable positions
for woman (at least that is what I heard
on a radio talk show.)
if that doesn't work, my best advice to
you would be to think about how you most
enjoy masturbating on your own, and how to
incorporate intercourse with that.
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Granps
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Joined: 12 Nov 2004 Posts: 225 Location: Arlington, TX
Iwatchedthesky Posted: 08-01-05 20:18pm
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