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iwatchedthesky

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I Cant Have An Orgasm From Intercourse. Is This Normal?
Posted: 07-15-05 19:34pm

Im a 21 year old female who has been having sex for about 4-5 years now. And I have never had an orgasm from sex. I can however from oral or masturbation, which I am very thankful for because ive heard some women cant even achieve that. I thought that maybe it was because I have to be comfortable with someone or something but ive been with my bf for about 1 1/2 years and I really love him and am very sexually comfortable with him. Hes very caring and has tried everything to help me have one, weve tried different positions and techniques but I still can not achieve an orgasm. Is this normal? Is there anything I can do to have one?
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rae_06

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Posted: 07-15-05 19:45pm

I have the same problem. Im 17 and been sexually active since I was 12. Im pregnant now :s...Me and my boyfriend have tried everything but nothing really works. Me masterbating usually works so I do that when we mess around but I just wish I could have an orgasm when having intercourse.
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iwatchedthesky

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Posted: 07-15-05 19:46pm

Yeh I can have one from masturbation or from oral but id really like to have one from sex. Good luck with the baby!
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dutchman

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Posted: 07-16-05 02:41am

Well.. I have heard many women have this problem..
My girlfriend however has multiple orgasms while having sex with me.
You seem normal as you have orgasm through other means..Anyway it would be better to experiment a bit with your current partner or maybe even changing your partner and see if you notice a change.
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iwatchedthesky

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Posted: 07-16-05 10:28am

We have experimented and I have had other partners..Quite a few..And its always the same thing. I still cant have one no matter what we do.
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dutchman

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Posted: 07-17-05 04:43am

Well..I think then you should contact a sexologist. People like me who are here in the forum, may not be that competent to answer your query.
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Mary1120

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Posted: 07-21-05 17:05pm

A lot of women just can't achieve orgasm from sex.. It's quite common. The best advice I can give you is try new posistions to enable clitoral contact as well as vaginal. Sometimes in women (me as well) we need both clitoral and vaginal stimulation to achieve an orgasm. I don't want to be to graphic but there is 1 posistion that's always been talked about to do this. You could try taking your legs and putting them up on his shoulders.. This allows him to move up closer to your body therefor the top of his penis rubbing against your clitoris. Or if you don't want to try new posistions you could always try getting a vibrator to put over your clitoris during sex, use your hand to stimulate it during, also i've heard 'penis rings' are effective.
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armychick83

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Posted: 07-23-05 02:25am

Try masturbating while he is inside you, this works for me and it makes my boyfriend feel better when I orgasm with him instead of masturbating on my own after he orgasms. A lot of women have this problem.
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lord k

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Posted: 07-23-05 04:02am

I've used an erotic form of hypnosis to ease orgasm..Even trigger it hands-free. For some it can be quite usefull.
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Happiness03

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Posted: 07-23-05 11:42am

I used to have the same problem when my fiance' and I started having sex. Really the best way is for me to be on top. This way I can control the rhythm and motion to what feels best for me! Another good position is have your bf sit on the couch then get on top, this one is my favorite! I hope this works for you. Just don't get frustrated and talk to your bf about holding off until you can orgasm.
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fatfamily02

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Posted: 07-23-05 13:02pm

I am a 43 year old grandmother, and believe me I still am very sexually active. I have always had the same problems. I can count on my hands how many times I have achieved orgasm with intercourse.
I do believe that my problem is hormonal or physical in nature, but I think the emotions change the outcome. I have to feel really close to him, and very passionate at the time, which iv'e never felt until him. And believe me I have had my share of experiences, if you know what I mean
my husband is not premature ejaculater at all, but it is still most impossible. He either encourages me to "help myself" or takes care of me afterwards.
I do not ever encourage him to take care of me first for I truly enjoy the 'real thing" best. I really need the outer and inner stimulation, to have the intercourse orgasm. I have many times 'almost' received hands free orgasm just from concentrating, but never while making love, just when i'm alone. Have never quite made it though.
I truly believed I was strange, I hear about multiple orgasms for women all the time, too bad it couldn't be me! He he
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beachgirl

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Posted: 07-28-05 10:49am

Often I hear that being on top is what does the trick for those who have a harder time reaching climax during intercourse. For me however, I have always found that being face down with a pillow under my tummy (to create a proper arch) and having my legs closed was the most effective way to be satisfied. I also use one hand to touch myself (and feel him slide into me). This always gets me to orgasm, and I can almost never cum any other way. It may seem complicated but you may as well give it a go! It's my favorite position and has always been one of my partners as well. Also, I was surprised to find out that being face down with a pillow under you has been know to be one of the most comfortable positions for woman (at least that is what I heard on a radio talk show.)

if that doesn't work, my best advice to you would be to think about how you most enjoy masturbating on your own, and how to incorporate intercourse with that.
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Granps

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Iwatchedthesky
Posted: 08-01-05 20:18pm

Iwatchedthesky, check out comments in "orgasm...Squirting"
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