Miscarriage

First let me say how sorry I am that you are going through this. I have had 2 pregnancy losses (a ruptured ectopic pregnancy and a miscarriage) and am now waiting to see if my current pregnancy is viable or if it will end in another miscarriage. :( lots and lots of virtual ((((hugs)))) to you!

Okay - as to your questions. You may or may not need the d&c - I realize by now you have probably found out. With my miscarriage they checked me after the bleeding ended and all had been cleared out of my uterus, if that had not happened they would have given me the d&c.

Secondly - your emotions are going to be on a rollercoaster for awhile. The ormones your body had produced for the pregnancy will still be in evidence for awhile and that can make you crazy - crying one minute and fine the next. Plus just the emotions of such a loss. I mean, you just lost a baby - maybe sometimes you feel it was very real, and others you feel sort of removed since the pregnancy didn't progress very far - but it is all very normal!!

I am 3 years past my last miscarriage (it was august 29th, 2002) and I still have days when the thought of losing that baby angel makes me cry. But right now, your hormones, and the newness of your loss account for most of the emotions. Talk to a friend, eat some chocolate, watch a good movie, let yourself feel the pain, cry, scream, and think of a way to bring closure to you - I have an alter with my angel collection and candles on it. I sitin front of it when I feel weepy and think, cry, etc. There is also a wonderful group called honored babies - I have been a member since my ectopic in 2001 - the women there are amazing, and have all lost a child - they are a wonderful support group. If you need some semi-anonymous support - check them out!! Honoredbabies.Org

remember - you will get through this and you will have good, bad, and awful days - relax, and know its normal. I wish you peace and healing, and I will say a prayer for you and your angel baby.

Chandra

Thanks for the replies.

I had a full miscarriage at home on sat night sun morning. It was awful and the worst pain i've ever felt. It started around 11 pm. I had no sleep since I practically sat on the toilet the whole night cause the bleeding was so bad with hug clots/tissue passing too. By 7 am on sunday morning I was so weak and feeling sick etc that I passed out twice which was quite scary for my husband. After that I began to feel slightly better. I went to the er aroun 9 am to get everything checked by which time the bleeding had almost stopped and my cervix had closed.
I ended up not needing the d&c which I suppose was good after going through all the rest. I just got some pills (4) to take on monday to help clear what was left in my uterus. I think most of the emotional stuff I have gone through now. Up and down hormones, moods, crying etc etc. Been there.
I hope I never experience this again but know if the same situation does arise again i'd be opting for a d&c straight away. This was just too awful.

Camoback1 ,

I am sooo sorry you had to go through all of that. Take some time to heal. If you ever want to just write to someone who has been there - just to have an ear to lean on - feel free to email me at shahar2 9@hotmail.Com - just make sure you put something in th subject line so that I know where you're from! Again, lots an lots of ((((hugs))))

take care,

chandra
mommy to angel kirin given her wings 8/11/2001
mommy to angel astin given his wings 8/29/2002
"some people just dream of angels, we hold three in our hearts."

praying for our little earth angel!