Are there any parents out there who have
sons/daughters who have died of this
horrible disease?
Christmas of '94 my older son told us he
had hiv (he couldn't say aids.) I told
him to move home immediately.
He was home for 8 months and then had to
go into the community health center.
Private nursing homes wouldn't take aids
patients at that time.
He didn't want me to tell anyone about his
illness. I told one friend whom I
thought was a good friend, and she stopped
seeing me.
One day my son was talking to me about
what he'd want me to do after he died and
he told me not to have a funeral because
no one would come. I'll always remember
those words. I cry whenever I think
about it. It's so sad.
I eventually did tell everyone about his
disease and when he died we received
beautiful letters from his high school and
college friends. He would have been
very proud. He just didn't know how
highly people regarded him when he was
alive. It was too late, but it eased
the pain a bit.
He died at the age of 32, in '96. What
a loss.
My younger son shares a home with me. I
divorced in '03.
I had cancer but the disease I want to see
done away with is aids. It strikes such
young, vital men and women.
I don't care about my disease. I want
the young ones to have a chance.
I find it difficult to believe in god, but
I will say to all of you "god bless you."
flying solo
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Sybil
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Joined: 18 Jul 2005 Posts: 7 Location: Chicago
Posted: 07-20-05 09:30am
Your post touched my heart. My uncle
died from aids in 1987. My family was
great while he was sick. 2 of my uncles
(his brother-in-laws) took turns going out
of state to the hospice he was in after he
could no longer be cared for at home. I
admire them so much for this. My
grandmother, his mother, brought him home
to live when he needed to be there and our
family rallied around him. The hospice
he was in was located in boston, and I
have heard that they were wonderful to
him. There are really no words I can
think of to comfort you. I have grown
children of my own and I know that if one
of my sons was terminally ill from
anything it would be devastating. I
believe that your son, like my uncle, and
all of the men and women who have died
from this terrible disease, are now free
from the pain of their illness, and they
are not forgotten by those people who had
their lives touched by them. There is
an aids quilt that had panels done by
family members of aids victims. Contact
a local hospice that helps aids patients
and post a notice on their bulletin board
for other family members and start another
quilt to help keep your spirits up.
Drug companies are supposedly working hard
to find new treatments and there are
people searching for a cure. Pray for
them as I will pray for you.
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Flying Solo
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Joined: 12 Jul 2005 Posts: 15
Mother's of Aids Victims Posted: 07-20-05 10:46am
Sybil...Thank you for the lovely reply.
I don't think people realize how many are
affected by aids either directly or
indirectly.
Thanks again for the encouraging words.
Flying solo
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Sybil
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Joined: 18 Jul 2005 Posts: 7 Location: Chicago
Posted: 07-20-05 10:54am
You're welcome. If you feel down and
just need to talk, e-mail me anytime.
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Good Advise
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Joined: 30 Apr 2005 Posts: 105
Great Job! Posted: 07-24-05 21:06pm
Classic words!
Well written, well done!
Let's put an end to this crap already.
One day we'll talk about other things.
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mayjor_brat2002
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Joined: 27 Jul 2005 Posts: 2 Location: fl
Posted: 07-27-05 18:26pm
Wow i'm in a simiular situation I just
found out one of my realitives has hiv.
But I haven't seen or sopken to in over in
almost 6 years and I don't know how to
react cause all I feel in hatred
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 07-27-05 18:36pm
Just a word of hope for you all out there,
my uncle was diagnosted with hiv 16 years
ago. He was a horrible drug addict and
im sorry to say that he has done so many
horrible things in his life that I cannot
forgive him. He has the mental capacity
of a four year old from all the heroine he
took but has been healthy and is still
alive and well. If he, who is still
alive and kicking can live with this many
others out there can as well.
Good luck to all of you.
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Flying Solo
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jul 2005 Posts: 15
to Mayjor_brat2002 Posted: 07-27-05 19:02pm
Who do you feel the hatred toward? Are
you just disappointed that your relative
has the disease or the fact that he or she
may be gay?
Flying solo
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sandyallen
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Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 07-27-05 19:25pm
Please take that word "hate" or "hatred"
out of your vocabulary, it is soooo
negative, it just eats you up inside, I am
sure if you look deep down hard enough or
long enough you will find something good
in that person, I am sure their was one
time that he was a good person, addicts
have no control just like alchoholics or
someone that is tooo far gone with
alzheimers, it is the disease, not the
person, it can be difficult passing on
under some situations and their are other
times when we are ready.
I am very sorry that you had to lose your
son with aids. I wish they could find a
cure for a lot of this stuff including
aids, cancer, alzheimers and a lot of
other things. I have lost so many
friends and family with this and that, I
do not look at what they pass on with, I
just tell myself that they were tired,
there heart was tired and it was there
time.
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 07-28-05 11:32am
I have nothing against people who have
aids and I dont have anything against
people who are homosexual, im not going to
go into reasons as to why I feel the way I
feel towards him, im not even going to go
there and people who do not know the
situation can not tell me how I should
feel towards him. I was simply trying
give support to these mothers and tell
them that it is possible to live after
diagnosis, there coming out with better
drugs and "cocktails" to live with it.
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 07-28-05 12:22pm
Sorry I just realized that you guys
weren't talking about me! Just ignore
what I wrote.
