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I think it depends on what state you live in......Like....In my state the age u can move out is 17....It would be hard though with a baby

In kentucky, you can get married at 16 if you are pregnant without your parents consent, then you would almost be forced to move out

2 days ago my mom and me got into a fight cuz she said I turned the air conditioner down and I didnt..Me and my bf had only been here for about 45 min. And the whole time we were makin food to eat for supper. We thought it was a health forum in the house too...Thats after we had gottan home from this horse thing goin on in coon rapids. My mom started yellin at me, like freakin out, like usual tho, and I told her im sick of her cr*p and I was gonna move out and so she slammed the door. Me and my bf went into the bedroom to get ready to go to sleep and she came in yellin at me about stupid stuff like why the hell huds mom was here and then hud started getting after her, I was like oh my god. He thinks I dont deserve this stuff she pulls and pretty much my whole family hates her and never comes around and she always wonders why. Then when she kept yelllin and yellin I told her I was moving out again and she said "fine! Pack up your sh*t and get the hell out!" the next morning I got up and my teddy bear was in the toilet, how immature. So me and hudson took a shower and went to his house and I stayed the night there last night and my mom never even tried callin. I just dont know what to do. Hudson is 21 and isnt working because he quit his job in jan. Because of his back and hes going to be getting back surgery sometime in a month and I dont even work, cuz im trying to get my comm. Service done from getting caught with alcohol in jan. And I got 40 hrs. Then I ended up getting 30 more. So when I get done with comm. Service I get off probation and I can get a job. My comm. Service has to be dont next month sometime and I think i'll just pay for it. I have a bank account and I dont know how to get my money out, its in kansas and I live in iowa...I have quite a bit of money and I want to get about $200 out to pay my comm. Service....What would you girls do??????? I dont know what to do or ne thing, im confused :s and my mom is always drunk after she gets off work at 5 and she always tells me she is gonna do whatever she wants to with my kid! :( I want out of here!!!!! My family tried takin me away from my mom when I was about 6, me and my brother both. But my brother is always gone, he is 15, he cant stand her....What would you do?????

Call your bank. Transfer your funds to a bank closer by and set up a checking account. Contact wic (if there is one in your area). See if you can't find a job which after you had the baby you could bring it along, i.E a daycare. If it is necessary get on welfare. You need to get your life together before you bring this baby into this world. Find an apartment that has cheaper rent (but is still safe for the baby, for example clean air, no mold ect.) find out if there is things that you could do to make the rent cheaper, like your boyfriend could to landscaping or something of the sort. This is your life, and you can make it what you want to be. If you dont want your mom in your life or this baby's then take control of the situation. You can make things work if you want them to. Dont depend on your mom or boyfriend or any other family members, although let them help if they want because you are going to need all the help that you can. Tell your boy to get back to work as soon as he is healed because he sounds like kind of a bum. If he hurt himself in january and hasn't worked since with a baby on the way there is something wrong with that. I dont care if you work at mcdonalds a job is a job and you cant relay on the system to take care of everything.
It is up to you what kind of life you want. I wish you luck because its not going to be easy but I have faith you can make it work.


Good luck.
Vanessa

Check out emacipation laws in your state.

I really feel for you in the situation you are in. 17, pregnant and having trouble at home! When I was 17, I didn't get on with my parents, always rowing and telling them I was going to leave....I managed to move out when I was 19 and I can tell you, it was really tough....And I didn't have a baby to think about.

If I could offer you some advice I would advise that you talk to someone, a support line, teenage support service (do you have samaritans over in the us, or childline or social services).

You are going to be going through the hardest time in your life...Although I am in the process of ttc, I know that when, (if) things happen, I will need all the support I can get, and I know that I will be leaning on my mum to help me through the first few months.

You are so young, your hormones are in termoil not only being pregnant, but because of your age. I was very suicidal when I was 17 and continued to be unsettled until I was about 25. Try stepping back from the situation and understand why your mum is being the way she is. Perhaps, she is worried that you won't cope, or she won't be able to cope with her baby having a baby.

I hope that you get the proper support that you need. Keep posting and let us know what happens.

Good luck.

As far as getting money out of your bank in kansas, you can write a letter to the bank and ask to close out your account. When you do this, they can cut you a cashiers' check and mail it to you. The only thing about transferring money from one bank to another is you may get charged a fee, because they may classify this as an electronic wire. And when it comes to your mom treating you like that, I am sorry to hear that! It sounds like you are just miserable! In the mean time, would your boyfriend's parents maybe help you guys out until you can find a more permanent place to stay? Just hang in there, things will work out! :)

Well where I live if you have a stable job nothing like mcdonalds or anything but a well paying job you can become an imancipated minor. But your pregnant so I doubt you can get a job, try living with some other family member.

That wasn't nice.

I know how it feels to want to do something and feel trapped at the same time. But she can do it if she really wants to.

There is a way where there seems to be no way

Stop your doing it whining..And grow up.


If it is that bad..Move out..Get a job ..Pay your own bills...And support yourself and your kid[/quote]


it seems like just about every topic, no matter what it is, this person always makes such a rude comment. The best way to deal with it,is just ignore it, and hopefull they will see what a child they are, get bored, and stop. Until we can get this "child" kicked out for being irresponsible and abusive of this forum, just hang in there guys. It's really ashame that people can't be a little bit more mature! It does say before entering, that you have to be over the age of 13!

Havent heard from you--are you doing okay

aall these forums just turn into shooting matches and we loose sight of the one in need.

Hows the baby--how are you doing--?

Any new ideas what to do?

Let us know k??

Yeah, ignore the nasty comments =o)

i would say, just sit back, and take a deeeep breath. I know your emotions are probably running high along with your mothers. Your mother probably feels alot of the burden because she wants to take care of you and the baby. It is probably just very very tense right now. You are going to need your mother, believe it or not. I think you will regret trying to move out right now. I know its going to be tough, but you can do it! Just try to cool down fights by not responded in a negative way. I know I know, easier said than done! But you will probably find that once that baby is born, you will need your mom more than anything! I wish I could go live with my mom! But me and my boyfriend live together, pay our own bills... I am more financially stressed being pregnant than I am anything else! Good luck!


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Sorry I havent been replying. Our computer broke down, hacker got into it I guess and had erased software that we needed. We just got the computer back yesterday but I was at my boyfriends, I stay there a lot anymore, but mom calls and misses me and wonders when im gonna be home. I talked to my mom about moving out and she said wait until the baby is born, which is going to be around january 1(when baby is due)....So she can collext money on me or whatever. She really didnt get pissed about me saying something about moving out, I was surprised. My bf and his parents dont want the baby staying here either tho because my mom drinks every night and I dont want the baby around that. Hudson is getting back surgery in iowa city here in the next 2 weeks,so after that he'll be able to get a job again....He has such bad luck...The other day his hrose went walkin away from him and kicked him in the face,i wanted to shoot the horse! He did I 180! I make fun of him now, just cuz its funny to pick on him..Whenever he starts makin smarta$$ remarks that the horse needs to kick him in the other side of the face..Lol he doesnt think its nice....Well thanx for everyones replys I really appreciate it! :)