Im 13 And I Want a Baby!! Posted: 07-20-05 15:02pm
Hiya I know you will think omg shes making
a big mistake and she is stupid....But
listen I dont care what others think bout
me its my choice to have a baby I just
want some advice on telling my
parents!!!
Im not pregz yet.....But if I do get pregz
den I will need to tell my parents yes
they wont be happy and yes im still at
skool but we can work round that.
I dont want a lecture from loadz ov u on
here but please give me sum advice.
As goes for my spelling its slang sorry if
you cant read it.
Cya xx
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Kate917881
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Jul 2005 Posts: 113
Hi Posted: 07-20-05 15:11pm
I know you don't want the people here to
lecture you about having a baby.. But do
you honestly think there just going to say
"oh it's ok that your only 13 and want a
baby" i'm sorry if you think that but your
sadly mistaken.. I'm only 17 and i'm 16
weeks pregnant.. It's not easy.. The
added stress on your body alone isn't
good... Your body is still growing and
maturing, and getting pregnant would just
add to the stress.. What do you plan on
doing to financially support your child?!
And what about your boyfriend .. What
does he have to say?! It seems you
already have your mind made up..And no one
can change that.. Or tell you that you
can't have a baby yet.. I just hope you
way all the consequences before
continueing.. Your young yet..Live out
your life and then go ahead and have a
child...When you can financially support
it.
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babyrae
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 2957 Location: Manitoba, Canada
Posted: 07-20-05 15:14pm
If u came for support to tell ur parents u
want to get pregnant.. Ur not at the
right place. There are teens here who
have kids, have been pregnant and we know
how hard it is. Ur 13!!!!! U havent even
finished puberty! U want a baby for the
joys of it.. Sure it looks cute when u
push em in the stroller and when u dress
em up, but can u pay when they get sick?
How bout the chicken pox? Trying to put
your baby in daycare so u can try and
finish school? How bout not going to
prom, or a dance, becuz u cant find a
sitter.. Or even to a friends party or a
sleep-over cuz u cant have a sitter and ur
sposed to be grown up after u have a baby
so u wont be able to do those things
anymore.. Sorry, but if u tell ur parents
u want to have a baby, I hope they say the
exact same things on here that we're
saying.
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xxelliexx
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 37
Posted: 07-20-05 15:24pm
Hey look I know im to young to have a
baby....But I would find a baby sitter I
have lots of family that would most
probably help me through this.
If I moved to live with my dad his gf has
a business and she looks after kids from
0-11 and you have to pay yes and it is
cheap and it is gd and im sure she would
help .....I no she wouldnt agree with me
having a baby at 13 but trust me they
would have to get over it. :!: :!:
oh and for the cost of the illnesses its
completely free for under 16's
i could get a paper round so I could earn
money....Not much wages but it would build
up. :!: :!:
i hope to get support from my family and
as for school I dnt no.
I would lose my friends I know and at the
minute I dont have many because im not ni
school and my x has takn them away from
me!!!!
:!: :!:
i wouldn't mind not goin to partys and
sleepovers and even if I was a one of im
sure my mum would babysit!!
Thanks
ellie x
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Kate917881
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Jul 2005 Posts: 113
Hi Posted: 07-20-05 15:28pm
I know you don't want the people here to
lecture you about having a baby.. But do
you honestly think there just going to say
"oh it's ok that your only 13 and want a
baby" i'm sorry if you think that but your
sadly mistaken.. I'm only 17 and i'm 16
weeks pregnant.. It's not easy.. The
added stress on your body alone isn't
good... Your body is still growing and
maturing, and getting pregnant would just
add to the stress.. What do you plan on
doing to financially support your child?!
And what about your boyfriend .. What
does he have to say?! It seems you
already have your mind made up..And no one
can change that.. Or tell you that you
can't have a baby yet.. I just hope you
way all the consequences before
continueing.. Your young yet..Live out
your life and then go ahead and have a
child...When you can financially support
it.
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Kourtney08
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 May 2004 Posts: 937 Location: Alaska
Posted: 07-20-05 15:32pm
If you can answer yes to *most* of these
questions, then I wont lecture you.
Do you have a job?
Do you have a car?
Do you have a license to drive a car
with?
Do you have your own house/apartment, etc?
Because if you plan on living with your
mommy and daddy and having them pay for
you to raise your child, then you have
some major issues.
I had a baby at 18 and it was hard for me,
I couldn't imagine purposely putting
myself through that, at a mere 13 years
old.
*shudders*
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Kate917881
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Jul 2005 Posts: 113
Posted: 07-20-05 15:32pm
Sry bout my post repeating.. My computer
had some malfunctional issues.. Kinda
like me ..Lol
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xxelliexx
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 37
Posted: 07-20-05 15:40pm
Heya I cant answer yes to any ov them but
I wont rely on my parents!!
My parents have a car so I cud get around
a little in tht but not as much as I wud
be able to wivout a baby.
I wud give up everythink ov my own for my
baby even my computer!!
Kk
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Kate917881
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Jul 2005 Posts: 113
Posted: 07-20-05 15:44pm
I tried to warn you in my 1st post about
how people would respond to your post..
And it's not that they are trying to be
mean or anything.. They are just pointing
out the obvious problems with having a
child so young.. You say that you could
get a paper route to pay for your child..
Do you honestly think that you'll make
enough money to buy diapers, formula,
clothes, pay for doctors visits.. If so
thats one high paying paper route.. So
what about a boyfriend?! Your pretty much
saying you don't have one.. So your just
going to go have unprotected sex with
someone.. Just to get pregnant.. You
could get more then just a pregnancy from
that.. (std's) look.. Your young yet..
You've got your whole life ahead of you..
Sure baby's are cute and cuddley.. But
they are expensive to.. They require alot
of responsibilty..And at 13 thats not a
responsibility you should have .. When I
found out I was pregnant I was
scared...And I know it's not going to be
easy..It's going to be hard.. Hard enough
at 17..Let alone at 13.. Just trust us..
We really do have your best interest at
heart..
If you so feel the need to be responsible
for something.. Get a pet.. Atleast then
you still have your freedom..
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xxelliexx
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 37
Posted: 07-20-05 15:50pm
Hiyaz I can undetstand wot ur sayn
basically im to young.
I wouldn't just sleep around btw dis lad
wants to have sex wiv me n I sed yh n he
sed we wud use protection hes not ready to
be a dad yet but im not boverd no more!!!
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Kate917881
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Jul 2005 Posts: 113
Posted: 07-20-05 15:59pm
Yeah we are saying that your to young..
And were not trying to be mean about it..
But it's just..Most all of us know how
hard pregnancy is.. Let alone raising a
child.. It's just.. Enjoy being a kid..
Hang out with your friends.. Go to the
mall and the movies.. Just enjoy you
childhood while you still can..And when
the time comes..And your financially ready
to take the responsibilty then consider
having a baby.. Basically just have fun
in life being a kid.. Before being a
mommy.
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xxelliexx
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 37
Hi Posted: 07-20-05 16:30pm
Hi agen....Well I know im to young and I
will need help rainsing a baby I will be
able to trust me.
I dont realy have a life at the moment I
have a family thats been through a lot
lately and my x hit me and everything and
he coursed so much trouble. As goes for
my m8z and school well...Im kickd out ov
my old skool now lookn for a new one :?
And my m8z have totally fallen out with me
becus im not goin bk to the same skool as
them and most ov them have been takn away
from me by my x.
I fink I shud have a baby now if I dnt I
will hve one wen im round 15 and then
everythink in ma family life wil b bk on
track den I will have to breakt the n ews
to them tht im pregnant and then my family
will fall apart agen.
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cherriegurl
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Joined: 11 Jul 2004 Posts: 1218 Location: Washington state
Posted: 07-20-05 17:48pm
Ok I dont care if u dont want me to
lecture you.. Im going to anyways! Your
being completley selfish. You are not
thinking about the little baby that will
be coming into this world, or thinking
about the people who will be supporting
her, because im sorry at 13 a fricken
paper route would not support an infant!
Also does the boy you will be having sex
with know you want to get pregnant?
Because if he doesnt then that is
horrible. And if he dose then he is an
fool! Well there is my lecture, now go to
the play ground and play on a swing
instead of in a bed with boys!
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babyrae
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Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 2957 Location: Manitoba, Canada
Posted: 07-20-05 18:10pm
Whoooa that is totally selfish! And no u
will not be able to get around in ur
oarents car, hell u wont have a license
for 3 more years! And to just have a baby
with some guy who wants to have sex with
u? U know how wrong that is?? Thats sad!
That child will want to have a dad, see
his dad.. That child will want a father
role model. And dont just say ull find a
boyfriend down the road. Its not the
same. To have to tell ur child u had him
when u were 13 cuz u were bored??? And ur
family has been thru hell? Well why put
em thru more hell by telling em u want a
baby! I cant even believe how selfish ur
being! And when u asnwered my questions,
it all had to do with, ur parents paying
for this and ur friends watching the baby,
well hun, ill tell ya something! U'll
have a lot of people offer to watch but
when u have the baby and its take to ask
them, u'll notice a lot of people arent
willing! And sure, u say its free under
16, what happens when u turn 16 then huh?
Suddenly u got bills.. U wont be able to
go to college.. Nope! Cuz u prolly
wouldnt have finished highschool being a
single parent and all.. Ur kicked out of
school? So how can u have a kid when u
cant even make it thru school??
Sure u could get a babysitter.. But
wheres the money to pay that baby-sitter?
Ud have to get a job and that job alone
would cover the food, diapers, cost for u
and baby and living.. U wouldnt have any
extra money to go out to a movie, go pay a
sitter.. Nothing!
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bd1012
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2004 Posts: 1998
Posted: 07-20-05 19:51pm
I have to agree with everyone here..
Theres no way in hell you could raise a
baby at your age.. You think you have a
right to mooch off your parents? If they
wanted another baby around their house..
They would have their own.. A baby is not
like a dog or a cat.. Its' alot harder..
And you don't have a right to ruin that
boys life your screwing around with by
getting pregnant on him.. That's just
wrong. Let me tell you this.. Babies
are very very selfish.. They don't care
about your wellbeing.. They want what
they want and when they want it.. How
they want it and if they don't get it..
They will scream bloody homicide or at
least cry all day long until they get what
they want.. You think they care how tired
mommy is or if mommy needs to do her
homework?? Hell no!!! You've got the
rest of your life to have a baby.. You're
13 yrs old.. Enjoy being a teen, make
some friends if you dont' have any.. Go
out and do what 13 yr olds do.. No need
to tie yourself down now.. Trust me.. If
you don't live now.. You'll regret it
later down the road... I'm 18 and I
wasted my teen years because i'm very shy
in real life and was scared of people and
just hid in my room after school.. I
can't truly say i've ever really had fun..
Teenager type fun.. You don't want that
for yourself. If you are that bored and
want a child that bad.. Then babysit..
That way you can have something to do..
You'll know what it's like to take care of
a baby and you'll make a few bucks too.
Tell you what...I promise not to lecture
you about having a kid...When you can
learn to spell it's "what" not "wut".
How could you raise a kid if you can't
even spell half decent.
I'm sorry to sound rude...But having a
child at 13 is very selfish of you. I'm
17 and 7 weeks pregnant. And as much as I
am going to love my baby and take care of
it...I still regret making choices that I
did...And I have a boyfriend who loves me
and will be there for me, and is happy to
have a kid. But it was also selfish of me
to make a baby like this...Because I am
unprepared, and I have a supportive mom
who will help me finish school and help me
take care of this kid...But that isn't
fair to her either, she shouldn't have to
bare my responsibility...Bringing a kid
into the world when you don't have money
put aside, or can't financially support
one, isn't a good option.
Why make the same misstakes that we have
made? Learn from us...Yes having a kid
can bring joy to anyone...That's what
babies do...But they also bring a lot of
unwanted stress. Stess that is multiplied
a cazillion times, especially if you are
13. If you like kids so much,
babysit...Find a nice family in your
community and babysit for them, you get
all the joys of a kid, without the added
burdens of money...Then in 5-7 years think
again about having a kid. Enjoy life
while you still have one to spend on
yourself and not someone else.
Not to mention 13 is way to young to be
having sex...You're still a baby yourself!
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Kourtney08
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 May 2004 Posts: 937 Location: Alaska
Posted: 07-21-05 02:33am
Wow. You honestly need to educate
yourself before you ever bring a child
into this world. I'd honestly be scared
if you had a child.
You couldn't answer yes to any of my
questions, therefor you don't need to be
having a baby.
13 year old girls accidently getting
pregnant is one thing, but to purposely
bring a child into this world when you
can't provide for it is selfish, you're
already not giving your child the best,
and you don't even have a child. You
should want your child to have the best.
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justacanadiangirl
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Nov 2004 Posts: 1803
Posted: 07-21-05 03:26am
Ok, i'm not gonna repeat everything these
other girls have said but I do agree with
them. U are being completely selfish.
But I will say this. How do u plan to
support ur baby? Ur 13! U can't get a
job for 3 more years. As for
transportation, that's 3 years too! How
are u supposed to feed and clothe this
baby if u can't make any money. And don't
say ur parent. That is .N.O.T their
responsibility! Don't ruin ur life and
that boy's life just because u wanna play
mommy. Go get a doll. Or try baby
sitting.... U should be having sex at ur
age anyways....What is this world coming
to ladies?
