Im 13 And I Want a Baby!!

Im glad things worked out for you I got preg at 15 too I am now 23 and just got married a month ago, yes to the father :lol: we have been together for 8 years and are ttc #2, your right most teen fathers dont stick around, I guess we got the good ones huh? :lol:

Lol I guess so!

There's no need for anyone to get pissed off because of my comments, especially on a forum.

The difference between you and me are..I tell it straight up and how it is, i'm not going to tell the girl to go ahead and have sex, make a baby and live your life because obviously, the girl cant even support herself. If she would have said she has a job, goes to school and can support her child then my opinion would of been totally different.

I think if you can support yourself and a child then go ahead and have one, more power to you, but a girl that says she can get a job, a paper route. Is somebody that doesn't even deserve a chance at bringing a baby into this world until she's much older.

Her life is messed up from what she's told everyone on this forum, and I personally thing it's wrong that she would want to drag an innocent unborn child into it.

I don't think young girls realize how expensive it actually is, sure maybe they have helped raise their brother or sister, bought them stuff. But honestly, was she there 24/7? When her sister or brother was balling their eyes out, she had "mommm" to call to, just to help her out. You can't do that when you have a child of your own, unless you want the baby to end up calling your mom, "mom"

being a mom is hard, period. Being a teen mom without a job and not knowing half of what you're talking about is even harder.

I see some of you comparing me to these girls, let me fill you in. I have a job that i've had for over a year. I make good money and even though I could support a baby with that money, I couldn't do it without my moms help (living on my own) I go to school and I have a car that I pay payments on every month. I still live at home with my parents, but would I be able to support myself as much if I didn't? I'd have to pay electric bills,gas bills,water bills,rent,food, not to mention all the diapers, do you know how fast babys grow out of their clothes? And to top all of that off, baby's want things just as much as we do, toys, a bike,piano lessons,gymnastic lessons maybe.

Without my mom's support i'd be in a hell hole, I know this, because I think with my head. I'm not going to tell myself that everything is going to be okay, when I clearly know it's going to be hard.

Most girls realize how tough it is with the baby's father in their life. Mine died at the age of 16 years old, he's now 17 and I have no support from him, but from his mom.

I'm a 17 year old mom to be, with a job and a good education and I still know everyday how tough it's going to be for me to cope with my situation.

This girl is 13 years old, no job, wanting a baby when she can't even support herself.


If you haven't gotten the point now...Then you're the ones that shouldn't be posting, not me.

Why are you so mad?! I know what your saying bc im a teen mom and I dont think a 13 yr. Old should have one eather or at least plan for one! You just seam very very angrey... Why?

Im not comparing and I dont agree with what she is doing I think it is very stupid but im not going to judge her because I was stupid and got preg at young age too, I just dont like that you pray for her to get aids or herpes that is not a very mature thing to say, I dont disagree with your point I just dont agree with the way you say it

I'm not angry.

It just literally makes me ill seeing that a 13 year old girl wants to have a baby when she should be playing with barbie dolls.

I'm not judging her. I'm telling her how exactly it's going to be if she doesn't get it through her head that she should wait. She could wait until shes married to have a baby and could give it a much better life, and if she still wants a child at 13 knowing she could give it a better life later. Then that's really selfish of her.

Yes I under stand and I agree 110% with what your saing. And alot of 11-15 year old girls want to have a baby, they think they know how it is going to be the whole 9 yards. Thats one reason I told her to go and get a baby sitting job. Maybe it would change her mind a bit being around the same kids day after day or week after week you know? Because thier true side would come out and she would see a *glimps* of what a mother is like. I know she can not get the realy feeling of a mother untill she is one but maybe it would hold her off a bit. And a baby needs to brought into a loveing *family*, not a teen girls fanticy. It needs more then just a mother, im not talking down on the women who arent with thier babys father, there a logical explination for yall. But a baby does not need to be *planned* when the father sticking around isnt sure. & when the guy you are having sex with does not know what you are planning. A baby should be planed ( I know not all of them are, mine wasnt ) and both the mother and father planning for the new baby. I dont mean to insult any one if I did that was not my intentions at all, sorry if I did.

I think it depends what type of situation you're in to be wondering if the father would stick around or not, in most cases they wouldn't. Teen love doesn't last and if it does then it's not very common.

I just know if I was 13 and wanted to have a baby, me putting myself in this girls situation, I wouldn't want to do that to myself,my family or the person that I thought I loved. I find it disrespectful and selfish, especially if I did that to my family.

If my situation was any different than it is now, I don't think i'd be as strong as I am and I don't think i'd have a positive attitude, but i'm glad i'm not one of these teens saying that they're babies dad left them and how they deny the baby, I will be a single mom for the simple fact that my love passed away, and my child will grow up knowing this.

Like I said in my previous posts, if she could afford a child, and didn't look up to her parents, then it would be a different situation, therefor i'd have a different opinion. Any girl or person that says they can afford a baby by a paper route job is obviously not capable or responsible enough to have a little one, she's not responsible right now, maybe in 6 years it will be different.

If I had the choice to have a baby now or wait 6 years down the road, I would have waited. But I didn't have a choice and believe things do happen for a reason, except when you bring them upon yourselves (not using protection and getting pregnant) I used protection, and I still got pregnant.

Think of how easy it is to get pregnant and not use protection, not to mention std's and all other stuff you save yourself from, because it only takes 1 time, and that 1 time can change your whole entire life, unlike getting pregnant. You can't go back and fix things if you have aids or herpes, etc. That's something you'll live with for the rest of your life.

People are jumping at the back of my throat complaining about how my posts suck and how rude I am, but my posts are honestly the only ones that make complete sense, along with a few other people on this forum.

Heya thanks for all your replys well im not sure what im going to do right now I will most probably wait!
I know why your getting at me now and thaks for that.
Yeh im only 13 and I shouldnt have a baby and to be honest I dont fink it will happen just yet.

Thanks

Glad to hear that.



***being brutally honest, and being a health forum are two different things. I can understand saying if you continue on this path you will get either hiv or someother std...Saying you pray to god it will happen is something completly different. ***

Maybe me being brutally honest is being a health forum to you, but not to me or other people.

People have different opinions and if you don't like that, then don't read it.

Hey im not trying to lecture you but I had my first baby when I was 16 and my second when I was 18.Let me tell you that kids are very hard to take care of.I had to struggle to get where I am today.I had to work 2 jobs just so I can get my kids everything they needed.I had to give up my whole life.Dont get me wrong,i do love my kids to death but being a single parent is no fun.I had many sleepless nights and had no help from anyone.Its the hardest thing ever and I wish I would have waited.You are so young,you have your whole life ahead of you,dont mess it up now.You need to have a full time job ,a car, your own place and dont fofrget the benefits.You are in for a rude awakening.

Good for you hun,
i started at the very beginning reading this post, and you have come a long way. You also had to put up with cruel people, and very sweet and kind people. You must of had a tough time, but it is good to see in the end that you are not ready. And im very happy you made a very mature decision. Because hun it is sooo tough, and you have to make so many sacrifices. Nothing is about you it is about your baby. I got pregnant at age 15 due to date rape, and hun it was a long hard cold journey. I did a whole pregnancy all by myself, and lost everything. I didnt belive in abortion, but I knew at 15 I could not support a child and I could not rely on my mom (she was a drug addict). So was I going to be selfish and make my child suffer a life I had to live everday, and sometimes I didnt want to be here! Its making an unselfish desicion not doing what best for you! Its whats best for that baby! In the end I found a wonderful family for my daughter (i did open adoption). You dont know pain until the inside of you is torn to peices and pain, because you miss your daughter, but like I said it wasnt about me..It was about my baby growing up to have everything I know she deserves from life. My daughter is now 2 years old, and I still see her all the time. My life has changed drastically since I was 15. I now 18 own my own house, my own car, and im getting married in 2007. Hun I belive that that is when you are ready, ready to have a baby with someone you love. I am currently 5 weeks pregnant, but hun I am ready for this. It just makes me cry when girls say they are pregnant at 13-15, just the thought of a baby suffering, or abortion, or having to do adoption makes my heart hurt. So good for you, wait and enjoy your fredom of being a child!

Jerrrrrrrry! Jerrrrrrrrry! Jerrrrrrrrry!

Just because girls are 13-15 and pregnant doesnt mean they're baby will suffer. My friend is 15 with a 3 month old and she's the best mom i've ever seen.

Most people have been telling the girls over and over again (including myself) to wait. But it's about how this girl was saying she could get a paper route as a job. And she knows she could give her baby a better life if she waited a few years down the road, but still wanted one. I don't know about you, but I think anyone of that nature and anyone that's so selfish the way she is, then I wouldn't even allow that person to be a mother.

The baby comes first, and any mother would know this...I don't expect a 13 year old that wants a baby to understand this.

Look I wasn't meaning to insult you or your friend. I am intitled to my opinion, and I have experienced it first hand. You should have read the rest of my post before you commented. And yes I agree that she was being selfish, but she decided to not have a baby right now.

If you wanted a baby at 13 and everyone b*tched at you, would you say you'll wait just to make them shut up?

I would.

Look regardless of that, she said she wasn't going to have a baby. And who knows maybe she is sincere, how would you know if she wasnt? So this topic is basically over. We do what we can to give her advice, and its up to her to listen or not.

She made this post so people could listen to her and she could listen back, that was the whole purpose of this post was to give advice, giving and taking advice is obviously listening.

Like I have said a thousand times before, you honestly can't expect every post to be a positive one.

Is she wants to have a baby more power to her, but it's beyond selfish to get pregnant on purpose when you know if you waited you could give it a better life.

I doubt she'll wait, but she'll find out how it's like, and will most likely regret it. Even though she'll love the baby to pieces, it's not a puppy. If you get tired of it, you can't give it away.

Get my drift?