Look people, lets not be harsh yer right
yer.... There has to be some reason why
she wants a baby so try asking her because
that will be at the root of it, I wanted a
baby when I was her age ok im only fifteen
now and pregnant but the point is, I
wanted a baby then for someone to love
e.Tc... And it didnt matter what people
said but if i'd have done it I dunno what
i'd have done!
I know you probably think these people are
just saying its hard to stop you, trust me
their not! Im 15 ok I had to find out by
myself buy tests then go to the doctors
who was a man ... Which is embarassing
then you have to tell your bf which is
hard and just because they say they'll
stick by you doesnt mean they will! Which
again is hard because ok you have your
parents and friends but it still feels
unfair... Then doctors appointments where
you dont always get accepted which makes
you feel proper bad! Coz people will
judge however harsh it is! ...
Then there's just being pregnant which can
make you feel really ill .. Im lucky I
havent but people do really bad and I
still get really bad backache you have to
leave school even if its just for a bit
like me ... I didnt think i'd mind but I
do! The thought of them there having fun
of my ex bf doing what he wants its not
nice!
And then theres times where you get upset
and just cant cope and ive got loads of
support yet I feel like that and I havent
even had my baby sure I love it to bits
but if I could turn back the clock I
wouldnt do it so early i'd be out clubbin
with my mates and stuff ... If you like
kids think about babysitting or something
like that have an aim it'll help trust me
good luck ...
If you ever wanna talk just ask for my
addy im just a normal lass like (bit on
the chavvy side though)
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxamberxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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xxelliexx
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 37
Posted: 09-02-05 10:25am
Hiya amber have you got msn? If u have
could I have your addy plz?
15 year old who want to have a baby so
they could love something is part of them
being immature and young.
Ellie knows she could give her baby a
better life if she waited until she was
older, but instead she wants to have a
paper route job to support it by. Thats
selfish and ridiculous.
If you're going to be selfish and just
think about yourself when it comes to your
own flesh and blood, then i'd hate to see
the decisions she makes while her baby is
growing.
Most 18 year olds arent responsible enough
to have a baby, no matter if you have a
brother or sister, it's different from
having your own.
But i'll let ellie ruin her life,and i'll
let her get sh*t on. Because shes an
immature little girl that needs her ass
beat.
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bryans_girl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jul 2005 Posts: 28 Location: grande prairie, AB
Posted: 09-02-05 17:20pm
Elle what do your parents think of this??
I honestly can't see anyones parents
thinking its okay for there thirteen year
old daughter to try to have a baby. In my
own opinion I think its wrong, and I dont
think you are thinking at all. Why don't
you just wait? Babies are not toys to
comfort you when you are lonely. They
have many needs and they don't care about
yours at all. I just want to know how you
plan on feeding and paying for doctors
appointments, because paper routes are not
gonna cut it. In one week you can go
through about 100 diapers. Maybe you
should talk to a counsellor or your
parents, because you don't seem to believe
anyone here when they say how hard it is
or how much babies cost. Hopefully they
can knock some sense into you.
I'm 17 and have bought everything for my
baby and still don't think I realize how
expensive it is.
All the things I think are expensive now
isn't going to be anything in a few years
when my son is asking for a bike, or
etc.
Kids are dang expensive, but I know i'll
spoil the little thing even if it leaves
me broke poor.
In her situation I think it's so awful.
If my kid wanted a kid at 13 i'd have a
cow and set them straight. It brings
tears to my eyes even thinking that a 13
year old can support a baby, just because
you can put diapers on your dolls and hold
them correctly doesn't mean anything
important when it comes to having one of
your own.
Babies are needy and I hoenstly don't
think a 13 year old is ready physically
and emotionally for that.
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southern_sweetie01
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Aug 2005 Posts: 5 Location: Russell, Arkansas
Posted: 09-02-05 21:56pm
Hey look I know you want a baby and
everything but that would just not be the
best thing im 13 myself and I lost my
verginity when I was 12 which I totally
regret and now that im 13 I did at a point
want a baby because of all the crap that
was going on in my life that was really
stressful on me and then I started to
think to myself that just having a baby
would put more stress on my family and
even me with my problems but yes I
understand that you want one I still do
but im going to wait... You have to think
about what is best for you and for the
baby... I hope you dont decide to get
pregnant and you take everyones
advice...
Ashley*
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southern_sweetie01
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Aug 2005 Posts: 5 Location: Russell, Arkansas
Posted: 09-02-05 22:00pm
Also maybe you should be around a new born
baby or just a baby and really see if you
want one because after my sister had one
just recently that really made me not one
just because all the crap she is going
through staying up all night with him and
everything and she is 18 and she is having
problems so being 13 would even be
harder.....
Ashley*
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xxelliexx
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 37
Posted: 09-03-05 04:41am
Well I dont know if im going to have a
baby, my parents dont know about this and
im not really botherd if I dont get
anyones support from here.
Maybe I shudnt come on ere anymore or I
get is lectured!!
I will find a way to help pay the stuff
for the baby....I could get beinfits dont
tell me I cant becus I can my bf has
alredy said this.
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bryans_girl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jul 2005 Posts: 28 Location: grande prairie, AB
Posted: 09-03-05 14:55pm
Well than you shouldn't have come on here
in the first place. Of course you were
going to get lectured! Your thirteen
years old and you want to have a baby.
People don't want to support a thirteen
year olds decision to have a baby, because
you are too young to deal with it
emotionially, finacially, and physically.
You expecting your boyfriend to stay
around after the babies born? Nuh uh not
gonna happen. You guys are young too
young. Why don't you just go buy a dolly
and play parenting on that, because at
least you aren't putting a real baby in
harms way. You don't realize the strain
being pregnant puts on your body. Some
one your age can't handle that, and I can
tell you this right now you will most
likely have to have a c-section, because
your body just can't handle it. You just
aren't getting this whole money thing kid.
I haven't even had my second child yet,
and he/she is already costing me alot of
money. You have to buy a crib, buy
diapers, buy blankets, buy clothes, buy
baby monitor...Etc and thats before the
babies born. And already thats over 400$.
So come on now start thinking clearly..Is
your paper route going to pay for that?
Or are you going to put it all on your mom
and dad? I think its time for you to sit
down and think.
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xxelliexx
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 37
Posted: 09-03-05 15:22pm
Hiya agen lol
well I have thought about the money
situation....I have already started saving
up I have £300 in my savings account and
my bf is saving to im not sure how much he
has yet.
Im not even pregnant and I have that much
already I think thats good.
Yes im only 13 but its my choice!!!!
How do you know you'll boyfriend will
stick around? Boyfriends come and go and
a child is forever.
I guarantee you'll scare him off sooner or
later, just for the fact that the
responsibility is so difficult, for an
adult. And you're only 13. You cant even
support a baby, you dont care if your on
welfare or not.
A good mother would give her baby the
best, not be selfish and want it because
its some new toy. Your baby will end up
getting taken away from you for bad
parenting. And you say you can get
benefits? They'll call social serices on
any 13 year old child who is getting
benefits from the state.
Don't believe me? Have a child and find
out for yourself, because its you who is
going to put up with that emotional
stress, it's you who's going to be crying
like a little girl because we were right
and you were wrong.
But hey, it's your life and your choice.
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oh_mommy
Supporter
Joined: 04 Sep 2005 Posts: 3738 Location: vancouver island, bc canada
Thanks: 6
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Posted: 09-04-05 04:04am
So 13 is kinda young (sorry to say) I
think im even to young.. Im only 16 1/2 I
maybe preg. Not sure. Either way I will
be happy but a little upset I will have to
give up alot, and my boyfriend will have
to get a job. But for you, do you think
your child would have a daddy? Im sure it
would perfer to have a father in its life.
If I were to gave go preg, when I was 13
I would have asked my mom to be its mother
because I dont like adoption because the
fact of knowing I have a child out there
would kill me, and I dont believe in
obortion. But it would be nice to be a
young mother for one reason.. You would
have more in commen with the child.
Joined: 09 Jul 2005 Posts: 28 Location: grande prairie, AB
Posted: 09-04-05 16:52pm
Wow 300 in your savings account..Hmmm that
will last 2 weeks..Ya thats about right.
So what do you plan on doing the other 18
years you will be a parent? Dalicialynn
is right. You will get your child taken
away, and i've seen it happen to a girl
who was 18. It's called neglect. If you
don't feed your baby, and have a proper
place to live. Say good-bye to your baby.
Three hundred is not going to go far at
all. Thats almost the cost of a crib. So
how do you plan on paying for everything
else? Like clothes, formula, bottles
diapers...Etc. Seriously you should give
your head a shake. Its alot harder than
you think. There are people out there
that plan to have babies and can afford
it, but it is still hard for
them...Especially emotionally. Ya your
right it is your choice...It's just to bad
your baby won't...
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sammy_listens
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Sep 2005 Posts: 8 Location: canada
what Posted: 09-04-05 17:13pm
Im sixteen years old and want a child
too...But I wanna wait til im older....I
know you want a child and I can understand
that but you will miss out so much...I
know u say I don't care.But u will...Like
when ur friend has a birthday party and u
can't find a babysitter u can't go...I
have two older sisters who have had
babies. It was the hardest thing for
them. They had no friends. They were
frowned apon. And I was there with them
hearing everything people would say about
them. You have plenty of time to have a
baby...And if this boy really loves you
then he can wait too....Trust me on this I
know I wanted a baby too. But after
seeing the teen pregnancy that my sisters
went thro made me see wat I would be
giving up...
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Danielle_P
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Sep 2005 Posts: 20 Location: liverpool
Posted: 09-05-05 18:22pm
Hey im 16 and im 27 weeks pregnant I have
wanted a baby since I was 10 but trust me
I wish I was neva pregnant now even if u
do want a baby just at least wate until ur
a bit older then u yourself will be
telling other girls not 2 get pregnant its
a verry hard thing an I dont meen haveing
the baby I meen being pregnant but if u do
its ur choce and wen I told my mum I just
wrote her a letter and she neva shouted or
anythink but she cryed and she was verry
dissapounted and I did not get pregnant on
perpus I was on the pill wel any way good
luck with whateva u do luv danielle xxxx
p.S if u eva need any 1 2 talk 2 my addy
is lady
bugukok@hotmail.Com
Any 13 year old that is getting benefits
from the state to take care of a baby
would get called on, there's no doubt in
my mind. You're child will get taken
away, then you'll have illegal problems
with how old your boyfriend is, and it's
even very possible to get your mom in
trouble for bad parenting because you're
pregnant at such a young age.
To all of you who don't know, my mom is a
social worker, and i've seen this happen
to many teens. It's not a great thing to
see, it's really difficult for me and I
just watch the cases being settled.
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vanessalouanne
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2005 Posts: 2268 Location: ,
Thanks: 1
Thanked:0
Posted: 09-06-05 19:08pm
Read the new people magazine.. There is
an article about a 14 year old girl and a
22 year old man who is being tried for
rape and they were married with the
mothers consent. This guy is now facing
50 years in jail.
But hey what does that matter...Who needs
the daddy anyways right? She is a
independent 13 year old women... :roll:
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young_mom
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Sep 2005 Posts: 69 Location: Canada
Posted: 09-06-05 20:10pm
You may think it is a walk in the park but
I am 16 and 5 weeks, I had to tell my
family and listen to what they had to
say... My baby was not planed but I would
never do anything to get rid of it, but
your only 13 think about what your
doing... You can't raise a baby let alone
raise your self... Like what do you plain
to sleep with all the guys or what :?:
what are you going to do about a job your
13, papers are not going to pay much... I
was pregnant at 14 and lost the baby
becasue my body could not handle it... So
if that happens what are you going to do
:?: keep getting pregnant? Because you
are not thinking about the baby or anyone
else you will hurt... Your only thinking
about your self...Well it is not up to me
or anyone else but we are trying to help
you :!: ... Why don't you stop and think
about everything :idea:
ashley
mommy to be :d
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~baby~g~
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2005 Posts: 221 Location: Ohio
Posted: 09-07-05 00:52am
Hun, i'm not trying to be mean or
anything, so don't take anything I say the
wrong way. Seriously, what are you
thinking? When you're 13 you shouldn't
be thinking about sex, you should be
hanging out with your friends &
crushing on guys..Goodness! I was 15
when I lost my virginity & honestly I
don't regret it, because I really love
& care about my bf. Are you the
same with yours? I doubt it..You're 13.
You'll be with more guys before you
find the guy you're going to marry..That's
the guy you should have your children
with. If someone gets pregnant then
it's meant to be..But you shouldn't be a
13 year old girl trying on purpose to get
pregnant..I have a few 13 year old girls
that look up to me & call me their
sister..I also I have a sister that's
almost 13..If I found out they were
pregnant, or had sex, I would freak out
& start crying. Babies are a
gift..They aren't a toy that you can take
back to the store if they cry to much, you
can't turn them off, hand them over to
their mom..You are their mom!! And you
think the guy is going to stick around?
Lol how old is he? There's isn't to
many guys out there that would stick
around if their 13 year old gf got
pregnant. Duhh! Babies are
expensive..They need plenty of diapers,
wipes, clothes, toys, car seat, crib,
blankets, bottles..Soo many things..Plus
they grow fast...There goes more money for
clothes. I mean I thought I was
pregnant once, but I wasn't, it isn't time
for me to be pregnant..But when that day
comes I will be ready. You won't..No
matter how much you say you will..
It sounds like you need someone to talk
to..Email me
