Im 13 And I Want a Baby!!

Ellie,

you know what, i'm not going to lecture you. I know myself, when I was 16 and wanted a baby, nothing was going to stop me. Just know that you can't always rely on your parents or people around you. I got preg with my 1st baby at 16, and my grandmother kicked me out on my 17th b-day (2 mo before I had my son). She and my mother had nothing to do with raising my child(ren). I became preg with baby #2 at 17 (when baby #1 was 4 mo old) she was born when I was 18. I became preg with baby #3 when baby #2 was 8 mo, and I had him at 19. I have worked 2 jobs most of the time, just to support my fam, and barely have any time for them. I recently had baby #4, and that has given more strain. I would have been much better off had I went to college, and gotten a career before having children. But I can't say i'm unhappy either. My hubby's cuz had her 1st child when she was 12, her mom raised it as her own, and when his cuz turned 18 she got custody of her child, but she is messed up from having a child so young. She is now 20 with 2 children and trying to get her childhood back. Her daughter is only 8 and is expected to get up in the morning and get herself ready for and off to school, so in theory she is giving her child the same life she had, and it will be a rotating door from here on.

If you do decide that regardless of what you hear, you are going to have a child, I wish you luck, because you are going to need it!

I was 18 and I wanted a child, but honestly even then I wasnt ready.
Im just telling you I kno I thought I was like you do, but I wasnt. And I had graduated high school.

Xxelliexx

please use regular english and not slang it's so annoying!

Anyways you need to wait 'til you're older before even
thinking about wanting to have a baby.
I'll be 21 in like one week and i'm 3
months pregnant...It's the best
feeling in the world, but when you
are ready. I've been married to
my husband for about nine
months, we have our drivers license, our own
apartment, two cars, he works
but I don't at the moment.
But you don't have to necessary
be married to have a baby but
you should be in a
serious/committed relationship....Be able to
bring in decent money....Have a place of
your own, at least one car, your drivers license, etc.
And most importantly enjoy your
own childhood.
I could get a job making at least $8.25/hour that's how much
i was making at the grouphome.....And so can my husband.
I'm sure anyone can make that much if they wanted to but
bottom line you can't rely on mommy and daddy
to care for your baby, take them to all their Dr. Appointments,
that's gonna be your responsiblity!
So really think before you act.

I say let her tell her parents and if they have any worth they will take care of that problem in a hurry. Seriously, why would you want a life of welfare and people looking down on you? You need to take a long hard look at your life before you bring a child into this world and ruin it's life along with yours. Now I don't want you to think that I am against young mothers wanting children, because I am not. If you are prepared for a child . I.E. Stable income, health insurance, love, a good place to live with a good school district, a car, two parents, college money for your child, maturity on your behalf, ect. Do you really want to have a child and then never see it because your working three jobs? Whats the point of that? Why not wait until you can be a stay at home mom and buy your child the cool toys and cute clothes and drive your baby to the doctor. But again tell your parents because if they do there jobs they will get the idea of having a baby when you probably just had your period out of your head real quick.

Yeah I agree with you there. I mentioned I ain't working right now but i'm with my husband in our own place and the real reason I ain't working at he moment is to enjoy my pregnancy and to be able to stay at home w/ my baby once he or she is born.....I'll probably go back to work once my baby is like one or two depends on financially how we'll be doing....But if you plan on mooching off your parents thn that's just way different!

I agree and you should be able to stay at home and enjoy being pregnant. I mean enjoy it while you can because you only go through the experiance maybe a couple of time in your lifetime

Wow..Alot's happened since I left for a day.. But everything that has been said is so true..And I totally agree with everyone... No need to be selfish..Instead be a kid yourself before having one.

:? Ok I want u to know im gonna be 17 when my baby is born...N right now its not easy on me as it is...Im 23 weeks pregnant...And as much as I love my kids father to death...He left...He left...Yea...Hes 21 n he said it himself he cant handel a baby...Right now I cant iether...Ive been haven second thoughts..N going threw some ruff times...N I cant answer yes to alot of those ?'s she asked u...I dont have a licence...Its hard fo me to get back n forth to app. N belive me I have alot of them...I walk 10 miles sometimes when I have a doc app. Becuz I dont have transportation...My sons father wanted me to get an abortion...I dont belive in them..Right now I lost my job n im collecting...But thats not gonna last...First off...A crib 320$$ a theme fo the baby 100-200$...Form.13$ a can!.... Its not fun...I love being preg yes I do admit but I also will admitt I got alot of family who is baccken me on this becuz they know I dont belive in abortion n adoption(my sons father is adopted)... But my mom is the only parent I have becuz my father left us to..Just like my sons...Allready stated its not gonna be easy...N shes not helpen me support it...But idk hun I just dont think youll be ready fo a baby at 13 if im not ready for one at 17 n theres people older then me who still arent ready for them...But if ne one can e-mail me with advice on copen n how to deal with the baby when hes born n thing my e-mail hunnie4life143@wmconnect.Com or u can im me at thugish420babe...Thank u n im sry fo the lecture

I will have to agree with everyone here, if you didn't want a lecture, then why did you say you wanted a baby, something deserves a lecture, but i'm not going to lecture you!!! I'm just going to tell you a story about me and my boyfriend...
The story is that we were in love... So in love, we spent everyday with each other, we were together 2 and a half yrs. At that time I was 17 and he was 16 going to be 17. I thought I had everything going, but I didn't know what going to happen to me in a few years, all I knew was I wanted to be a famous journalist, or another robert frost. And he wants to be a machanic.
But all thoes ideas changed the day that I got "knocked up" persay, I felt horrible, bring a new life into the world when I have nothing to offer it, nothing at all, but my love. The first thing that I thought of is, "what the hell am I going to do?" " will I still have time to be a kid, will I have support?" I was thinking of the wrong things, I was thinking of myself and not the little wonders that was in me! First I was scared, but I knew something for a fact, i'm not going to be stupid and have an abortion no way!
I would have to get money, sure he had a job at the 99 cents store, but we needed money, the only way by doing that is going to go get a new job a full time job, I would have to put my life on hold for my kid, atleast till he is ready to take care of himself! I was thinking I will have to be a grown up and give up everything and gain something beautiful, but I couldn't do it alone, I knew for a fact that I wasn't going to be able to rely on my family for long, I will have to rely as well on my boyfriend and his family.
But there was a little problem there, he wanted nothing to do with it what so ever....He wanted me to have an abortion, I said, "no"! But he had his way ither way.... A few weeks later I had a miscarrige, I regret it everyday of my life. I do wonder what would of happened if I was a mother, would I be in school still, trying to finnish up what I lost? Would I been able to raise it right and be a good mother? Would I have been a writter like am trying to be?
I've seen movies like "ridding in cars with boys" or "for keeps?" they were both pregnant teens with one goal in mind trying to finnish school to be a writter, and seeing how they struggled to get where are, the struggles are going to be painfull. You may say school doesn't matter to you now, but when your kid asks you what grade leavl did you finnish, in your head you're going to feel stupid...Then your kid is going to follow by example, drop out and try to be a parent at 13...Maybe he will, maybe he woun't! Now you don't want that for your kid.
Don't grow up with your kid, be there and support him when he needs help on homework, finnish school so you can tell him, "that's easy" not, "i didn't go to high school to know what you're asking me" everyday I wonder what could of happened if I had him, and sometimes I keep thinking it was a good thing, cause now I can finnish everything and give my next child all my attention and love more than ever!
Because I finnished, now i'm where I wanted to go! I realized I was being selfish to this life form in me, I was giving him nothing, I wouldn't be able to give him much till I was on my feet to do so.
I'm finnishing everything that I wanted to get and i'm with the great boyfriend that I can ever ask for, we own a auto repair shop in big bear (well his parents own, but are going to give it to him soon) called the carrige shed...We're just doing fine, we're getting married and going to have a baby, real soon! Think about before you decide, in the end it's up to you, but please concider! Remember it's not just your life that you're carring, it's not your hand you're holding, make the choice and wait....

Have you even thought about after you have the baby? Your body will have stretch marks....You cannot support a baby at the age of 13!!!!!

Your 13 why? Really think about what your saying, having a baby will change your life, you cant go hang out with your friends or go to the mall anytime you want sweetie, youll have to stay home and take care of this kid. And are you just ahving sex with random guys to get pregnant, you can get hiv and stds, and you might not remember who got u pregnant if u get pregnant, its very selfish, thing of what u will be putung your family through, alot of stress for u and them, not to mention embaressment when ppl ask them about the baby, they have to tell ppl its there little girls baby. Youll have to wake up at 3 somthing in the morning and calm the screaming child, you cant continue school, how is that gonna work, is someone really gonna voluntire to babysit , I dont think so, you should live your teen years having fun with friends and being normal teen without having to worry about a kid, if u have a kid youll lose all of that, what about senior prom do you really wannamiss out on that its abig deal, and hightschool graduation, when that kid grows up youll have to explain this to him or her, about how you just wanted a baby, you didnt think of anything else. What about medical bills food clothing, that exspensive do u think yourmom and dad will say sure go ahead and make us gradparents we'll take care of everything, oh an sure u can do what u want and go out anytime, well hanle everything,, bulshit that not how ur family will react.

Im sorry but everytime I read the title of this post I keep imaging a little girl throwing a fit and stomping her foot. Lol I just get such a funny visual.

You need to wait...I am not one of those ppl who like telling other what to do but you only 13 years old....Do you know how hard it is to raise a baby? Probably not. I am 18 and I had to take care of my little brother when he was born in I was only about 6 and I didnt have a nice childhood I have to make sure he went to head start and doc appointment like he was my own...

Listen to these people they no how it is to have a child...You dont

becky

Course I know wot its like I raise a child I have 2 younger brothers and I have to baby sit them both now for 6 weeks becus my parents r workn and its the summet holz!!! Think bout it

No I been thinking of it you think of you...Your to young you need to enjoy being a child pre teen whatever you want to call yourself....I understand that you raise your two brothers but you havent had a child your self yet. You need to just chill..

P.S

honestly I am not trying to tell you what to do but its up to you I just think you should wait..

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take care

becky

You can't even spell half of your words right.

Your a kid wanting to have a kid.

Grow the medical question up.

Riiight so you pay for their medical bills?
Take them to school
*drive* them places? :roll:
why not play mommy with them?

She never responds when anyone talks about the money aspect of having a child.

Im not replying to this no more becuase I dont fink there is a point.