Im 13 And I Want a Baby!!

Can you say retard!!! :roll:

Well well well....I just have a lil bit to say! Chrissy you really need to get the truth out and not a load of caca, like babyrae said didn't you hear about the 13 and 14 year old girls with children????? They were allowed to keep there kids and it was there choice.

Luckily I never got pregnant when I shagged my x bf 6 times in 3 weeks unprotected yes I know im a stupid lil health forum and at the time I only thought about myself. When I thought I was pregnant I told my bf and yes he did leave me but for a different reason.......Luckily I never got pregz.
Later that night I told my parents what I had done not very happy at all but my mum shouted n screamed at me all night saying your having an abortion bla bla bla but the next day she had changed her tune.

After that day I was traumatised I was scaired worried n frightened...I began to feel sick all the time sleepy cravings but I got my period and yes I still took a test and the test red negative.
I havnt had sex for nearly 2munfs now and yet is till think im pregnant, I get called every name under the sun at school by my so called m8z and its mostly 2 or 3 ladz that are still carrying caca on sayn im pregz when im not they say your gettin well fat whens the baby due but im not putting any wait on. :?

There are lots of smart young ladies here. This ellie girl is definately not one of them. She lil broad probably can't even wipe her own azz let alone a baby. She babysat her brothers?? What an fool. You are "watching" them, not caring for them. Obviously she was getting it on while her rents were away. That may be the problem, she needs attention. That may be the motive for this dumb azz forum post. No one is going to give her the time of day once she has a baby. She is going to look like a dummy pushing a raggety stroller, wearing dirty clothes and the baby will also look like it needs a meal. You can't even work booboo. Get yourself a hobby, like coloring.

Hi, im new here. If someone wants a baby that badly, for whatever good/bad reasons, no one will be able to change that persons mind. Only learn from your own mistakes, by then it's too late, but some people have to learn the hard way right.

I feel sorry for you ellie, like others must do. These girls have been through it already, have given you great advice from their experiences, I hope you've really listened and understood what they said.

Its been mentioned a lot about how can she afford a baby etc. Shes in the uk, where compared to america, its much easier to be a teen mum on your own or not. The government benefits these people get each week are enough that most dont bother getting jobs. They dont need to work at all. The benefits system also pays all the rent money for these mothers to live in their own state/council owned apartment or house. So that takes care of the money issue, having your own place to live in, childcare costs. (no need to work obviously no childcare needed) they only have to get a part time job once the child/children are at school age of 4 or 5yrs. Benefits still cover majority of apartment/house rent payments. So the only thing she wouldnt have from the list someone said she'd need, is the car and licence. Some can even afford this, due to the high amount of benefits it's possible to claim in their country. (high compared with most countries. Maybe thats why the uk has the highest rate of teenage pregnancies in all of europe, as it's made easier for them.)

whatever happens ellie, goodluck with it, I wish you all the best.
Allie

Well this ellie..Is sooo full of caca and lies..Its noteven funny..In an earlier post she claimed to have a baby..In in an later post she claims she wants to lose her viginity... I don't think she knows much of anything but how to lie. Face it kid your not matture or grown up enough for a baby...In my oppinion the baby would be taking care of you. :roll:

Hey I just have to say something...Brunettebabe im not full of lies and health question.
First of yes I want to have a baby and I did lose my virginity and I didnt use protection neitha did the lad I had sex with at the time was my bf I never got pregnant.
Its my choice what I want to do you cant make my mind up for me ok.

Yeah....I am beginning to think this all a joke too. Some little girl lost her baby doll and mommy and daddy doesn't care so she decided to get attention from us. Well, it worked because she got 17 pages of replies. I don't believe there is a a little girl (11) that is dumb enough to want a baby. She is totally bogus!

Ok....Your only 13!!! Girl you need to think before you do anything like that!!! I'm out of school...No I dont have a job just yet i'm married also..And guess what? Yup i'm only 17!!! I'll be having a baby in 9 months (yay!)...But your only 13...You dont even know how to have sex! Your only 13!!! Only!! If I was you I would just have fun and be a kid! Not have one! Why dont you get a damn doll? Act like its your baby! Do you want pain? Hello!! Having a baby hurts! Its not like a pet you can buy and call it your baby? I'm not saying this in a mean way or anything...I know you want a child..You dont even have money!! Let alone you havent hit high school! Dont even have a car!...Do the right thing...Get done with school. Find the right man...Get married if you want to...And then have a baby..When your working and have a car and some money! And then your man would be there! So you wont have to worry about having a baby a lone...You would have somebody there with you. And if your having sex...What is wrong with you? Want to be called a little ho? Want to get hiv? Or any type of std? Take care of your self...Dont go around having sex with just anyone...And just make sure hes the right one...(when your much older!)....:( take care of your self plz! Your still a little baby your self....:(
-lydia-

Ellie you are young. You need to remember all the things it takes to raise a baby. You arent old enough to drive or have a real job. Why dont you just wait until you are 18? Are you starving for attention or something? Join drama clubat your school.

...This makes me sick to even read your post....God you are 13 ...Finish growing up ...You are still a baby ...You sure don't need one...Oh yeah and the slang ....Thats immature....Another reason not to get pregnant...You aren't even old enough to know that slang is for "little kids" that think they are cool and gangster or something ..Whats cool about that? You tell me because I seriously don't understand....If you do get pregnant I am so sorry for that baby and your parents.....They are going to end up taking care of to kids...You and the baby....Well thats about all that I have to say other than grow up and think twice before getting pregnant....Because you need to use this time while you are young to have fun......

As nice as it would be to say that all a baby needs is one loving parent, it's simply not true. A baby needs equipment and things that cost money. And while there are a lot benefits you could claim to get by, those benefits are not in place for women like you who go out and get pregnant on purpose when you know that you can't support a child yourself. They're for women who accidentally find themselves pregnant for one reason or another. It's pure selfishness that you would take those benefits away from women who need them. Nor is it setting the right example for your child, for them to grow up watching it's mother mooch off the government. You need to get a job and an education before you become a mother, or you can't expect your child to do anything other then drop out and mooch off the government. What you do tells them what is ok.

A baby also deserves to have two loving parents whenever possible. And as much as you might think your boyfriend wants a baby or is ready for fatherhood or you two will be together forever, you won't. I don't know a single person in the thousands of people that have been in my life that is still with the person they were with at 13. It simply doesn't happen. If your boyfriend is your age, he won't want to give up a life of going on dates, meeting "hot chicks" and the possibility of owning a hot car and going to the bars and clubs and doing sports with his guy friends. And he won't be able to get the kind of job he'd need to pay proper child support. If he's older, he won't want to be tied to such a younger girl. He'll take off and find a lady his own age. You will be a single mother. I guarantee it.

You're also very young. Your chances of having a baby with some sort of defect is quite high because your age and the likelyhood you wouldn't be educated enough to recieve proper prenatal care and care for your pregnant body. Just because you want a baby doesn't mean you'll get the one you invision. Would you still want a baby with downs syndrome? Or autism? Could you pay the extra costs or deal with a child who will never even acknowledge your existance or be able to live on it's own? What about a child with adhd? Who constantly gets in fights with other children and gets kicked out of daycare after daycare until no one will take them? What about a child with a physical deformity like a cleft palette? What if it's not that perfectly formed gerber baby in your dreams?

Your family won't accept your pregnancy warmly. Neither will the father's family. You're too young. They will want you to get an abortion and possibly force you in to one, despite what you may think. Don't you want your child to be welcomed lovingly in to a family? I was 18 when I got pregnant and my family had a hard enough time accepting it, let alone getting pregnant in elementary school. It takes a community to raise a baby and if you have one now, you're burning bridges. You need your family's help, that's not even an option.

These things may not seem like big deals to you, because you think the baby will be worth it and it would. But if you love your potential child as much as you think, why would you put your child through that?

Your child's needs should come before anything that you want. Always. That's what being a mother is. That means being able to step back from yourself and say, "well, i'd love to have a baby right now but I know it's not the right time because I want to really guarantee that my child has two parents who can support it on their own and be involved with them. I want to set a good example and I want my family to be loving and welcoming to this child, instead of ashamed and regretful because I got pregnant too early."

if you can't see it that way then you don't care about your child at all, you're just interested in what you want. "i want what I want because I want it and I don't care who it affects or how, because I want it and that's all that matters in the entire world." just like a one year old child yourself.

I thought I wanted a baby when I was 13...I had been going out with this guy for almost 3 years (i was 15 and he was 18) then when I was 15 I found out I was pregnant. Now that I am 16 and have a beautiful 4 month old baby girl, I see how I couldnt of been anymore wrong. I thought having a baby would be soo easy just feed and play with it and it will love you unconditionally...Boy was I wrog!!! They are alot of work and sometimes I wish I could go back in time and undo everything...Dont get me wrong I love my little girl and wouldnt give her up for anything!! She is my everything. My parents help me out alot which doesnt happen often...But dustin denys her and has nothing to do with her. He is in the proccess now of signing all his rights over. It is soo scary knowing that my little girls dad denys her. When we first found out I was preg. We both were really happy...Then I started to show and he left me. Its soo hard now...Working at applebees, to help my parents out with paying for things and going to school and raising my daughter. Soo if I was you think long and hard before you do get preg. Its alot harder than people make it look. :d

Maybe you guys should lay off the girl....... She wants to get pregnant and none of your rude remarks are going to change that. Obviousely were all a little dumb if we got pregnant and were still in our teens.. I'm only 17... 18 in 2 months but still not old enough to raise a kid. It might be helpful to give the girl advice and let her know what will come of raising a baby at 13 but theres no reason to throw hurtful comments at her. That only makes a kid want to rebel more.. Whatever happens ellie good luck...

I wish someone would of told me how hard it was going to be, being a teen mother...Then maybe I would of made some different choices. She needs to know how hard it is being a teen mother, its not all a bed of roses. Its alot harder than she obviously thinks. Babies need alot more than they give. She need to wait till she gets a good steady job and a guy she loves. I will be here for her in any descion she makes but, I just want her to know how hard it is and be careful in your choices and descions!!!

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i'm sure they can but I think I remember specifically saying, "give the girl advice and let her know what will come of raising a baby at 13 but theres no reason to throw hurtful comments at her. " when you were as young as her and people just yelled at you and told you what to do instead of telling you the consequences and the bad things that could come of it what did you usually do..?? Well I always rebelled on them and did what I wanted.. But when people talked to me nicely and told me the reasons why I shouldn't do them and all the consequences I took them seriously and actually thought about it.. Understand what i'm trying to say.





okay, you have a point there... But I don't think alot of the other girls that are yelling at her are financially stable and able to support their baby on their own... And I think ellie will soon come to her senses herself and maybe realize what shes doing isn't right for her or the baby. And if not she obviously knows what to expect and the outcomes of having a baby so young. If she wants to bring all those challenges on then we can't really change that now can we?? At least not by yelling at her.





i don't think I ever remember saying go for it girl.. I did say "whatever happens good luck with it.." and I meant exactly what I said.. If she decides not to get pregnant then good luck to her on the rest of her life... If she does get pregnant then goodluck on raising a baby at 13... I don't find negligant in that....

[quote="mommi2bee"] you didn't say go for it girl.You did just say good luck.

Either way if she didn't like anyones opinions here.Why did she ask for opinions from others.Did she expect all to say go head get knocked up at 13 so you can have a baby.If so that wasn't happening I definitely wasn't going to say it.

You are so selfish!
You're going to do a paper route to take care of a baby?? You will give up your computer? Oh, what a sacrifice. Look, I don't been to judge you, but I will pity your child if you do continue with this ridiculous idea. I actually have the suspicion that you're lying.