Im 13 And I Want a Baby!!

My god, I have a friend who is 22 with a 2 year old baby, she has a loving family who was sympathetic enough to help her when she got pregnant (no husband). If your family has been through some rough times having a baby is going to make things worse not better, there is a really good chance that you might be kicked out of your house and then a paper route wont help you at all. I have another friend who is 18, her mother used to beat her, i'm not sure what happened to her dad, but now she lives by herself. She has 2 part time jobs, one at mcdonalds and one at a restaurant where we both work, and live isn't easy for her, she is always stressed, and never gets much sleep. I don't think she could survive if she had someone else to care for. I know I have no control over what you do so if you decide to have this baby, go ahead, just let it be know that your life will not be as fun or as easy, as if you had waited untill you were much older, no matter how much help you get, your baby still needs your support and your loving, not anyone elses... Consider yourself warned

Kloosty

good advice for the young 'lil girl! I'm 4 months pregnant but i'm married (about 10 months now), I just turned 21 at the end of july but we're ready.....We wanted to start having our kids at a young age. We want 2 kids but that's it! :)

good luck and for everyone who reads this reply - really think before doing...If you want to have babies that's great; but be prepared for all the doctor appointments for your pregnancy also afterwards all appointments for your babies well being, diapers, formula, clothes, cribs, the whole works, and most of all have a lot of patience and love!

I'm 17 and it wasn't untill this year that I realized how much tings are. I'm a guy and I still live at home but I have my g2 (i'm canadian) so my parents are sending me to do shopping, and I work part time so they are buying me less and less so i'm now getting a feel for how expensive the world realy is. Things may seem cheep but they add up fast, and they really aren't that cheap anyway. There is a reason two parents have full time jobs. A paper route for a year might cover you for a month. So have fun with that

Thank u nicknack... Its been a little rough but im sticken to it...My sons father will not be in his life at all...But in some ways he has to pay...Even though he wants nothing to do with him... Im going to be 17 tom..N I realized things are gonna be hard n im not a kid no more...I have many manyyyy responsibiltiys now n in some ways im so happy about haven my son...Ive been doin alot of research on how much things are going to coast n how labor was going to be(kinda scared) but threw it all ive started saving n doing things the right way but I apprecate it...Thank u so much

My god, you cant even spell correctly and you want to bring a child into this world. Get a clue first

Did you know that anyone who gets pregnant under the age of 17 or 18 is considered a high risk pregnancy. That means extra medical attention for you and your baby. Just by getting pregnant so young puts you and your baby at risk for tons of different problems that no pregnant girl needs to go through. Your body has not reached the appropriate "child-bearing" age yet, which means your reproductive organs are not even fully developed! Not to mention since you are so young you probably had poor nutritional habits which is not good for the baby at all. I hope you take everyone's advice and wait to have a child. In a few years you'll back and realize what a stupid and selfish choice it would have been to have a baby at thirteen.

Girls are meant to have babies, young or not.

If they get pregnant, their body is stable enough to have a child, small,fat,round or anorexic. It's all the same.

There is a chance of complications, there's a chance of complications with everyone, everybody is different, so you actually can't judge someone by how young they are, them being young has nothing to do with them having more complications than a grown woman would.

I have a lot of young, pregnant friends, some have even had their baby already, their pregnancy went just fine. The nutrition thing is true, but as my doctor told me, I can eat what I want to eat, I can go to fast food places once in a while, I can pig out on chocolate if I want. The baby takes what it needs. People usually only watch what they eat during pregnancy so they don't gain more than needed. But even a person who isn't pregnant should also eat healthy, apples,grapes, etc.

I'm 3 months pregnant and am about to pig out on some sonic restraunt food, and trust me. I'm not going to feel guilty one bit. :d

From what I can see you've chosen to keep your child and I respect that whole heartedly! Don't let anyone take your love for your baby away. I'm 19 with an unexpected pregnancy as well and am now planning a wedding and there are people in my life that will not carry over to my child's. It's not going to be easy but do not stress over it, it's not worth it! I know with sickness it might be hard for you to stay in school but you at least need to finish high school and college eventually, especially now that you're going to be a single mom! Maybe when the father grows up and realizes what he did he'll gain responsibility and want to be what he should've always been. But sometimes not. Best of luck seriously! Whenever you get down or discouraged just think about your baby. I feel like time stops when I just put my hand on my stomach, and it was surreal when I heard the heartbeat. I disagree with what was said 2 posts above me I believe. It would be selfish of you not to bring this child into the world. If you made a mistake and that mistake's reprocussion is pregnancy then you should take your "consequence" responsibly and not take your baby's life because of a choice you made. But it sounds like you already realize that, even if some do not. :) if you need anything let me know! Many many blessings to you.

Wow there is a lot of judging and cussing at this girl. She came here for advice, yes I see that it went in one ear and out the other. But if she's like me, once she gets one thing on her mind, she won't get it out of her head till it comes true. Some people can tell this girl advice without cussing her out or calling her stupid or anything like that. I'm 16 and possibly pregnant. If i'm pregnant, did I want it? Yeah I love kids. I've been around them for 6-7 years now. I know a lot of about them. They weren't my kids, but still I do know all about appointments i've tooken a lot of kids to appointments, I know how much they cost, I know how much everything cost. I know it's expensive for caring for kids, i've bought stuff for kids and yes with my own money.

Girl that started this thread, you should listen. My ex sister-in-law was only 15 when she got pregnant. Had a baby boy at 16. She was just like you, wanted a kid so bad. But also she enjoyed sex, partying, drugs, and all that good stuff. She left. She took her kid with but then called my brother to come and pick up his son and take him to er because she refused to. If he didn't come and get him he would of died. He didn't have a bath for week or more. Hasn't been fed or nothing. Then she got a new boyfriend and tried to kidnap her son back. Came into my brother apartment saying that she wanted to see her son. She asked for a picture of him and when my brother went back to get a picture her boyfriend and her took my nephew and ran. The cops stopped her but couldn't do nothing because she was underage.Then my brother was fighting for custody. He got joint custody but then said screw and took her back and 2 months later she got pregnant again at age 17 and had a baby girl at age 18. After she gave birth she left my brother and took the girl with her. Now my brother has both kids because she told him that she wanted nothing to do with him. Couple days ago she called and said she wanted to come back and said she wanted to be a mother again. This is her 6-7 time asking to be taken back and he took her back all them times. But this time she overdosed on something and it scared her. My brother said no and said if I had the money I would file for divorce right now. The girl will be 20 in october and she already messed up her life within 5 years. She didn't graduate. She dropped out in 9th grade. She doesn't love her kids. If she did, she wouldn't of done anything like this. She was only 2 years older than you when she first got pregnant. And once she gets them on weekends she never keeps them. She takes them to her moms house and leaves. The oldest one, that is a little older than 3, doesn't want nothing to do with his mom. He is smart for a 3 year old, he knows very well what his mother did to him and doesn't want nothing to do with her. My niece is just the same way. When the mother comes to see them, she doesn't come up to her. She runs away from her.

Do you want your kid to not want anything with you? I'm not saying that this will happen. You might be a great mother. But there is no possible way you can when your just 13. I do get frustrated sometimes when a baby doesn't stop crying and i'm 16 soon going to be 17 and i've been around kids longer than you have.

Now please, just listen to these girls. But don't get upset when these girls are cussing you out. That's life. But if you get that upset when just people around your age do this, you will not be able to handle a new born or even when they get older, they get the mouth, you will not be able to handle it.

But I can't think of anymore to say. I don't think I repeated everything everyone keeps saying. I haven't cussed you out or called you stupid. So actually listen to this reply.

Hope you listen.

Just for the resord i'm a guy and from this grils origional post I don't think our opinion would have ever swayed her decision[/quote]

sorry, I stopped reading after awhile and I must have stopped before your reply. I'm really sorry.

No problem, I don't think I ever mentioned that I was a guy... It's just one of those things that doesn't occur to you to post

I have no respect for any girl who wants a baby who doesn't have a job,money or a car.

If you're 13,14 and up, if you have a job and a car, can afford your child then go for it. But I want you all to know that money doesn't buy love, it doesn't buy how you treat your child, it all depends on yourself.

I'm not trying to be disrespectful or mean towards anybody, but some of you don't realize how hard it's going to be until your actually in the situation, until you actually hear the crying,see how much the diapers cost, etc.

I know that I don't even realize it yet, and I admit that i'm terrified to hell about it. I don't believe in getting pregnant on purpose unless your married or have been in a relationship for years. And I honestly depise young girls that are 13 saying how much they want a baby and how they could take care of the baby with a paper route job. Does none of you see how messed up that is? I'd rather die than be in that situation.

I would rather wait until I was 30 or not have any children at all, than to put my child in that situation, because I know that if I wasn't able to support my baby, if I still lived at home, didnt have a car and no job then why would I even think twice about having a baby on purpose? Shouldn't that be the last thing on a 13 year old's mind?

When I was 13, I went skating everyday and hung out with friends, went to school and made my parents proud. I wasn't even thinking about sex at 13!

I think it's sad and dissapointing.

Dont do it. Your family will hate you. Theyll all think that your dirty and will think of you in a very different way. Watch jerry springer and the maury show. :wink:

To make a point, every family is different, and I think if your parents won't support any decision you ever make in life then they're not worth having anyways. I couldn't imagine my mother or father hating me for something that happend.

My mom and dad are completly supportive in me being pregnant, have been supportive in every decision that i've made.

I would never feel the need to get pregnant on purpose, for any type of reason whatsoever, for someone to love me? For my guy to stay with me? Girls are retarded these days...They don't understand how stupid they actually make themselves when they make retarded posts like these. It's simply sad and pathetic.

I know a few of you don't like my posts, but I won't change them because some people on the internet want me too. I might be a teen and pregnant aswell, but im not the ones making posts about how I want to get pregnant on purpose and how I dont have a job or I dont go to school. I can support my baby, this I know.

I dont have to ask these girls if they could support a child, because just from their posts. I feel sorry for a lot of you, but none of you will get my sympathy when you brought a problem as this upon yourselves.

Your childhood will be ruined, you'll have to grow up overnight and sooner or later you won't have any friends left because you can't go out and party or have fun. It will soon get annoying, and you won't have anyone to look to but your parents, what to do when your parents turn you down?

You figure it out, as ive said in previous posts, it doesnt take a genious to use common sense, but then again I dont expect 12,13,14 or 15 year olds to understand the way life works.

You'll not only ruin you're life, but you're child's aswell.

Hiya all

thanks for all those replys I have read through most of them I will carry on reading through!Thank-you to the ones who arn't being nasty to me and being bad mouthed, I do appreciate what you are all saying and yes I do understand I am to young to have a child because many of you think I wont be able to support the baby give it love and attention pay for food ect well I would try my best and thats all I could do and thats all any mum could do. I havn't made my decision yet I do have a bf and we have talked about having a baby and yes he has said to me he will have a baby if he thinks he will be able to stay with me.He wouldn't leave me to be a single mum on my own he isan't as sick as other men! Yes I know you all think im wrong and at first no I didn't listen to what you guys were saying but I myself think im making the wrong decision but I think if I try my best I will be able to get through it.
I wouldn't reck my life I would reck my school life but I have already done that I have got kicked out of school 3 times and im not in school at the moment im looking for a new school but know doubt I will get kickd out of that one 2. Well I have lost all my friends because of something that happend with my x bf and I but thats the past.
Im making new friends now and I hope they wont turn against me.
I am always stuck on the computer so I dont really go out and theres not really anywhere to go out around here. So I dont have much of a life to be honest.

Well thanks to the kind ones!!

Ellie x

So basically you're life is hell and you want to drag a baby down with you?

Yeah that's something a mother would do alright....

A good mother would choose not to have a child just because her life isnt right at the moment, a mother wouldnt have a kid on purpose at 13 with some boyfriend that promises to stay with her.

You're not going to find your soul mate at 13 dear. It will end sooner or later, just to let you know.

Xxelliexx...You even said yourself that it's the wrong decision but you'll just work through it.. Well if you even think it's the wrong decision then why do it.. Why not wait until u definatly know that it's right.. I could understand if you were already pregnant ..But your not (or so you have said) ..So why not wait until u know that it's right before ttc.