15 And Want to Become Pregnant.

I can understand wanting the joys of a baby :cd I am 17 and preggerz. Totally unplanned!! But yes I am happy..Now.

But I would advise you to wait untill you are atleast 18. Please give it some more thought.


Kim

Dammit.. Read "13 and want to be pregnant" im not typing it all again in here..

Its a lot different looking after children than looking after ur own. Sure u can save up money.,. That dont do ****! U say ur going to college to be a midwife? Well wait until then to have a kid! U know how much harder it is to have akid and go to college? I friggen know! U have like no time for homework, between spening time wit ur kid, cleaning, cooking an organizing and trying to do homework.. U cant miss class.. But if ur kid id sick u will have too since daycares dont take sick children.. Its a lot different! Ur only 15! I got pregnant at 15 and thought I was ready.. I miscarried and after that. I realized I wasnt ready to miss out on everything yet! U cant go to the ebahc with ur friends or bf when u want.. Its a lot harder to find a sitter.. U do not know what its like to have a kid. Sure u know what its like to be an aunt or to babysit, but u dont even know how it is to have a kid of your own.

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I dont even know where to begin. Obviously you don't know much about the real world if you think you're ready to have a child.
If you think 13 is rediculous to have a child, what's so much better about being 15?
I'm sure you have intentions to finish school, but you think those intentions will actually make a difference? Who is going to take care of your baby when you are at school, doing homework, studying etc..?? Becoming a midwife is not easy. Who will pay for your school?

You would save 3000$??? That will probably take care of your child for amonth. Not to mention you medical expenses. What if you baby has a disorder, and needs extra medical services. Those don't come cheap you know.
You have been with your boyfriend for a year??? Wow a whole year?? Is this the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with? And you think he is going to stay with you when you have a baby too, because he loves you right. Wrong. You think he wants a baby when he's 18, and could be out partying, having fun, and actually living his life? Probably not. He can get rid of you and that baby faster than it took him to make one. It's sad but true.

So your bf will have a car too right? Well if he is even still with you when you do have his baby, he probably wont have enough money to get a car if he is supporting you.

And you know what it's like to look after kids huh. Have you woken up 10 times in one night to a baby's crying, and not being able to make it stop? Have you looked after a child for a whole day, feeding it, washing it, dressing it, putting it to sleep. Remember when you have this baby, say goodbye to any social life you might have, and bye to most of your friends as well.
Live your life hun. I'm 18 and couldnt even imagine being pregnant. I'm a full time university student and I wouldn't be able to do it with a baby. I can barely manage myself as it is. My parents have to pay my tuition and I work too. Think about it do you really want to be stuck with a baby when you could be doing so much more with your life? How about getting your education first. Find a person you are sure you are in love with and marry them. Wait until you are financially stable. Don't put yourself through this, or an innocent baby.
Really why do you want a baby? Is my question to you.

You asked for advice so here's some:
your 15.. You have your whole life ahead of you.. With lots of time to still be a kid yourself.. To enjoy life..And the teenage years.. I am 17 and i'm 16 weeks pregnant..Being pregnant and having a baby is a joy.. But a joy that comes with stress and added responsibility. I wish I would have waited .. But I didn't ..You still have the option to wait.. Finish school.. N go off to college if you choose.. Settle down and then begin thinking about having a baby.. I relize you think your ready.. But your 15.. So just enjoy being 15 and being a kid yet.. Before being a mommy.

I really hope you consider what everyone is saying.. We all have your best interest at heart.. We've all been there.. Or are there now..And know what it's like.. So just please consider all the advice your given.

U still have time to be a child. I say, take it!

Honestly my heart goes out to you. I don't know if you're doing this to keep this b/f or just to have someone always there to give you unconditional love. Look deep inside and figure out why you feel this way.
Honey, you are only 15 and I know you think you're grown but you have so much time to have kids. I myself was pregnant at 17 in high school. I wasn't even able to graduate.
You shouldn't depend on this b/f of yours to support you. Don't you want to be independent? If anything should happen between you guys, how would you feed your baby, pay rent and your bills???
Also if you really felt like you were completely ready for a baby you wouldn't be asking for other ppls opinion. Think about it.

Hunny I hate to tell u but jbc u have been w/ ur bf for a year dosnt mean he will be thier for u after the baby comes im 15 I didnt get preg. On purpose and its harder then u think it is the father was soo excited and then about 3 weeks after he was born he decided he still wanted to act like a kid and changed his mind and left me and his child so u cant depend on him I love my baby more then anything buts its really harder then u think well just think about it

All these other ladies gave you some very sage advice, but I feel the urge to add my two cents as well.

Fifteen years old you are, and you want to have a child? I know that, at times, your life is going to seem like it lacks something...And you're going to think that the thing that is lacking is a baby, but trust me, a baby is the last thing you want or need. You still have the rest of your high school career ahead of you...And if you think that you're going to be able to successfully go to college and care for your baby, then you apparently have not thought too far ahead into the future. And as far as your boyfriend goes...You think one year is good enough for him to be a suitable father? Dear lord, I was with my ex-boyfriend for a year and 8 months and I never even slept with him. This guy, like all other guys his age, is going to want to go out and party and have a good time; he's not going to care about what happens to you, and i'm sure he won't want to care for a child either.

Also, what would your parents think? Do they know you are dating this guy? Do you also know that yor parents could have your boyfriend arrested for statuatory rape if they know you re pregnant by him because you're a minor and he's an adult? Now, would you really want to see the "love of your life" behind bars?

I think someone else mentioned this in their reply...What if the child was born with some kind of deformity or disorder? What if your child was autistic, or had down syndrome? What if they had some kind of physical deformity, such as an abnormal heart? The costs of correcting these problems are far from cheap - would you be willing to keep a child if you knew it had something wrong with it? And if so, where would you ge the money to pay for medical expenses?

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I'm not saying that you should wait until you're married and all that to have a child, although it can be a good thing so that the boyfriend can't just up and leave (at least in marriage, spouses are bound through the license xd). But at least wait until you are older...Finish high school, go through college, find a place to live, and get some money in the bank. By that time, you probably will not be with your current boyfriend...You will have both moved on to greener pastures, and you may meet someone in college.

These girls who have replied have all given you wonderful advice, and I only pray you take it. It is good to see that you thought about things a little bit, but you need to think in depth much, much more. I hope you will consider all that you have read here. Please, live and enjoy life now before being trapped within the world of motherhood.

Well said. That's great advice :)

I'm a 16 y/o male. I could not imagine having a child at this age.


Yes, for our age 3k is alotta money. But think of all the expenses:

-hospital bills
-doctor bills --when I was little I had a check up with the doc very often.

-rx's
-non rx medicines, i.E. Chewable vitamins, children's caugh syrup, ect.

-diapers
-band aids
-children's tooth paste
-children's shampoo
-clothing -they'll grow out of them quickly1!!

-shoes " " " " " "
-day care
-baby monitor
-crib
-bed
-food
-the list goes on and on...And that is only the stuff that you need!!

-my mother had me at age 33. Would you be ready to put him/her through college at that time? Granted s/he does not have to go to college, but it would be a good idea to save up just in case.


Now's the list that you don't need, but the child may want:

-toys
-bike
-school field trips
-birthday parties
-movies
-video games
-arcades
-posters for his/her room
-piano lessons
-minor league baseball
-soccer
-football
-cheerleading
-vollyball
-magazine subscriptions
-cds...Of course those could be history by the time s/he's in their teens.

-nice clothing...At least at my school males seem to by just as self conscious as females.

-again, the list goes on and on
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would you really want to spend your jr or sr prom and graduation with the terrible twos? Are you parents cool with this? Is your house childproof? Ie, will s/he he able to access house cleaning products, makup, insect killer, alcohole, medications..Ect ect?
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now about automobiles. Being 16 I know an aweful alot about them. I know you're thinking a cheaper one would be okay. But the cheaper the car you get the lesser resale value it will have. Cheaper cars more than likely have bad gas mileage. Plus many cheaper cars have things wrong with them. Would you want to be with your baby and have your car break down at night in a rough neighborhood?


Things you'll have to pay for with a car:
-the actual used car. I just looked in the paper, and used cars here range from 3k-18k.

-insurance...Most places it's illegal not to have...It costs an arm and a leg for new drivers.

-gasoline ---right now it's $2.20 a gallon here...Only gonna get higher.

-fluids --oil, wind shield whiper, stearing wheel, anti freeze...Of course you have to make sure the baby doesn't get anywhere near those.

-maintenance --prices can be a nightmare!!

-accident fees, if you're the one at fault
-drivers ed
-driver's license
-registration
-inspection --in most states.

-speeding tickets
-parking tickets
-toll boths, turnpikes
-yet again, the list goes on.

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the choice is up to you, your bf, and parents, or gaurdians from both sides, if he's still 17.


However, if you want my advice I say finish hs, finish college, and wait until you can get a well paying job...Better yet until you marry so you for sure have two imcomes supporting the child.

Wow, it's great to see a 16 year old guy being as sensible as u are :) that's very rare these days :)

Wow!! Ur a very smart guy....And made sume very very good points.......As for this girl trust me it is harder then it looks

I know deep down that I cant have baby in the near future. I just cannot wait to have a baby, to have a baby growing inside of me. I want to go to college, uni and travel and all of that wouldnt happen or be easy with a baby.

I'm glad u realize that :)

Thank you for the kind words! I had a class in 7th and 8th grade called family & consumer ed, or face. The teacher did a great job telling us of all the costs that a baby takes.

I realize that this is a teen pregnancy forum. Being a male, of course I cannot get pregnant. So if you don't want me here i'll be more than happy to respect your privacy.

When I was 15 I wanted to have a baby but its too young of an age to do something like that I had no job to afford it or anything. But im 17 and i'll admit I want to have a baby as well. I cant wait but me and my boyfriend has talked this out and we're going to get engaged in a couple of months and then we can have a baby. I didnt understand why we should get engaged first but then I thought of it this way, I wouldnt want to get pregnant first then get engaged and have everyone think we we're getting married because he got me pregnant. If this is what you think is going to happen, like, get pregnant then your bf will marry you then if this is the future ahead of you then wait, get married first to someone you love and then get pregnant. I recall someone posting something about how when you have a baby your body goes through changes and you become fatter after having a baby. This is true and would you want this bf of yours to see you get fatter and want nothing to do with you after? My friend is 17 and just had a baby in march when she was 16. Even while she was pregnant her bf called her fat and stuff and they were planning on getting married which he never wanted to do in the first place. While she was 4 months pregnant and showing her bf cheated on her. Now shes in florida with her dad and he's moving to texas with his dad. They grown apart and if you love your bf alot then dont do this, at your age having a baby will make you go through changes and he might not be able to handle it. Think more about it you can still have a baby when your young like in your 20's and be with someone you really care about. Just wait because when your 15 you really dont know much about love. You might even get kicked out of your house or something. Good luck. Im sorry this was so long and stuff but you need to relize all the plans your making now will change, a baby changes everything. You might want an education and all but when you have a baby you have to put the baby before you. You might be able to go to school but who would babysit? Can you afford a babysitter? What if your baby gets sick? Who will take you to the hospital? My friend dropped out of school unwillingly, she wanted to go back but the school wouldnt except a pregnant girl. Your too young to care for a baby. Im young, I will admit. But I want to have a baby with someone I love, not with anyone just because I want one. Your bf wont want one either at his age. He wants to have a life and so do you. Your friends wont stay around and your taking the risk of your bf not staying around either