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GLAMOURGIRL
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Joined: 20 Jul 2005
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Location: LONG BEACH
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Help Trying to Break Up With Biploar Bf
Posted: 07-20-05 22:56pm
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Well, I have been with my bf for three
years now. I am on an emotional
rollercoater and I can't take it anymore.
I feel like I am in a bad movie. One min
he loves and the next he is saying mean
and nasty things. The other night in the
car he almost crashed on purpose.
We both go to the same therapist and she
says it is up to him to get help, but I
feel like I need the strenghth and heart
to end things with him. He stop taking
his medicine and decided not see the Dr.
Anymore. He says he doesn't need her. He
just can't see what I see. I am actaully
scared for my life. He has threatened me
numerous times if I break up with him.
He moved into my apt. And we had a fight
and I told him it wasnt working out and he
would not leave. I dont have the heart to
tell him that I am not in love with him
and that I dont want to be with him. The
only time I could do it is when we are
fighting ( which is so often). He is like
a light switch.
Please someone give me advice on how I can
end things where he could understand. Or
any advice that anyone has would be so
helpful.
Thanks for listening
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Princess385
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Joined: 03 Dec 2004
Posts: 407
Location: Wisconsin
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Posted: 07-21-05 15:11pm
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Just break it up...Tell him you can't deal
with it any more. Have someone with you
though so he doesn't get violent with you.
If you have to get a restrainning order
on him.
You deserve much better!
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chrissy721
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Joined: 21 Jul 2005
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Posted: 07-22-05 20:21pm
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I know bipolar ppl and they are dangerous
if they aren't taking their meds. My
grandpa is in prison because he didn't
take his meds and did some bad things...If
this guy won't get help, i'd say it's best
to get away before you get hurt. Like
the other lady said...Make sure you have
someone else there...Maybe 2 ppl...(that
are strong enough to defend against him)
also, you might want to stay with someone
for a while until things have cooled down
with him after the break up, sometimes
they may come back to "makeup" or have a
hard time "letting go" when they don't
take their meds they usually don't have a
lot of control of what they feel, think
and do. I know just from experience...My
grandfather was extremely nice one minute
and deathly abusive the next and wouldn't
realize what he did. He really doesn't
belong in prison with a bunch of thugs but
in a hospital that can get him the help he
needs. Just wanted to give some advice
before something bad could happen
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WorriedConfusion
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Joined: 23 Jul 2005
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Location: las vegas
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Posted: 07-23-05 17:45pm
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Yes bipolar people are very dangerous..
The person that ended up taking advantage
of me when I was drugged up is bipolar..
And frankly he scares the crap out of
me... He tells me hes my friend and hes
here for me and everything and then hes
trying to get with one of my really close
friends and I told her all the truth
because I was mad because he was messing
with her head and other girls and he took
her virginity and I feel like I should go
and tell the authorities that hes having
sex with minors because he is 20 and im 16
but legal in the state of nevada... But
anyhow uhms I think I might be pregnant
with his child but I mean when I mentioned
it to him he just freeked out on me and
practically started avoding me and telling
me im a loner and everything and then one
night he called me about 1 am in the
morning and started threatening me over my
voice message... And then he said he was
going to kill me and he knew where I lived
n he called me a sl-t and all that stuff
and then now I dont know what to to
because I might be pregnant even though
the tests came out negative... But
yeah... Uhms... I just say if you dont
want to be with this guy anymore n he
continues to bother you I say you just
call the cops on him... N put a
restraining order on him and move away
quickly....
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chrissy721
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Posted: 07-23-05 17:55pm
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Yea, you are in a tough situation. If
he's calling you and making those
threats...Just as a warning...Bipolar ppl
will carry through with those because they
really don't know sometimes what they are
doing...I would atleast tell and adult
like maybe a family member or a close
friends so at least someone else is aware
of the situation...I'm 21 and I would have
been terrified to tell my mom something
like that was going on because she would
have freaked but, honestly she can help
and she'll know what to do.
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WorriedConfusion
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Joined: 23 Jul 2005
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Location: las vegas
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Posted: 07-23-05 21:11pm
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Well to me its not really a worry cause I
find it really funny that he's 20 now and
hes still in a gang with little kids in it
and he hangs out with little kids and I
told my boyfriend that what has happen
actually I told a few people and they want
to handle it for me... And yeah I really
dont know.. I hope he doesnt carry out
with it.. Cause the last time he tried to
make a visit to my house I freeked out and
called the cops on him.... N then ever
since I havent seen him... But I know my
exboyfriend and my bestfriend sees him
quite often though... Not sure if thats a
good thing...
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Rasberry Ripple
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Joined: 18 Jul 2005
Posts: 175
Location: uk
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Posted: 07-24-05 04:48am
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If he leaves massages on your answerphone
again, keep it. You could be in serious
danger and can use this evidence to show
the police. I hope that everything works
out for you.
Stay strong and don't let him take over
your life....Just get away from him.
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WorriedConfusion
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Posted: 07-24-05 15:02pm
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Well I was keeping it... On my cellphone
cause it was on my voicemail n I have
cingular... N I guess they deleted the
message for me after a week it made me
real mad because I dont have evidence
anymore...
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seksiHily
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Location: MN
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Posted: 07-25-05 01:52am
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Wow hun u need better choices in men.
Oh and for the record not all bipolar ppl
are horrible off meds. Yeah, I have
episodes and ill snap and yell, but ive
never hit anyone over it. Those are ppl
with really severe bipolar. He's probably
going to be upset, have someone stay with
you, my guess is he won't actually do
anything, its all talk
so u were raped by this guy and when u
were fourteen?, wow getting pregnant from
rape twice... Once being twins
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WorriedConfusion
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Joined: 23 Jul 2005
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Location: las vegas
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Posted: 07-25-05 15:35pm
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Yeah... I do need a better choice in men
and friends.... But yeah mighta thought
he changed after the first time he raped
me...Because he started to seem more
normal and treated me alot nicer and so
on... But then he personality completely
changed up again... And I guess I shoulda
realized that there was something wrong
with him the first time but iunno... But
being rape twice was horrible enough...
Im suprise I even still stick around...
But im not too sure if im pregnant just
yet I should be 9 weeks if I am but the 3
home pregnancy tests came out
negative...But im bloating... N my period
was really unusual when it came.... It
was spotting for 6 days then a light
bleeding for 3 days and then it stopped
and then it spotted or 3 more days and
stopped... And I found it quite unusual n
that im getting whjite vaginal
discharges... Well not discharges but
when im in the shower cleaning in that
area n all I get some white thick mucus
like thing from it... And im not sure
what it is... Anyone got any ideas...?
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seksiHily
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Posted: 07-25-05 15:55pm
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How long have you had ur period?
Are they regular?
Sometimes that happens to me that its real
light, as for the discharge it could be an
infection.
Im not sure that bloating is even a
symptom.
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pinkladies
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Location: Humble TX
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Posted: 07-25-05 18:54pm
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Not all bipolor people are dangerous. I
am bipolor and so is my dad. We both go
through our happy one minute then pissed
off or sad the next, but we aren't
dangerous. Neither one of us take meds.
It just really angers me off when people
say that the majority of bipolor people
are dangerous.
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WorriedConfusion
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Posted: 07-25-05 21:13pm
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Uhms ive had my period since 2001/2002
july 4th or 5th I think... And my period
is irregular but that can be me just
having alot of stress and things to do...
Iunno... Uhms the discharge I really hope
its not an infection cause I have no way
of getting to a clinic or going to the
doctors n plus I have no money... But
yeah... Uhms as for the bipolar thing...
Welll not all bipolar people are dangerous
but hte majority that I know are very
unstable
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seksiHily
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Posted: 07-25-05 22:09pm
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Well u need to get it chcked out.
You cant also jsut assume ull be ok if u
culd be pregnant... U need prenatal care
its not something to play around wieth
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jenjsmith
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Posted: 08-24-05 00:26am
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Worried confusion, you really need to see
a doctor. Go to planned parenthood. They
can help you with the cost. And i'm sure
you can catch a bus or get a friend to
help you. Also call the cops on this guy.
No means no.
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