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Q: Help Trying to Break Up With Biploar Bf
asked by: GLAMOURGIRL on July 20th, 2005
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Well, I have been with my bf for three years now. I am on an emotional rollercoater and I can't take it anymore. I feel like I am in a bad movie. One min he loves and the next he is saying mean and nasty things. The other night in the car he almost crashed on purpose.

We both go to the same therapist and she says it is up to him to get help, but I feel like I need the strenghth and heart to end things with him. He stop taking his medicine and decided not see the Dr. Anymore. He says he doesn't need her. He just can't see what I see. I am actaully scared for my life. He has threatened me numerous times if I break up with him.

He moved into my apt. And we had a fight and I told him it wasnt working out and he would not leave. I dont have the heart to tell him that I am not in love with him and that I dont want to be with him. The only time I could do it is when we are fighting ( which is so often). He is like a light switch.

Please someone give me advice on how I can end things where he could understand. Or any advice that anyone has would be so helpful.

Thanks for listening
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Princess385
replied on July 21st, 2005
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Just break it up...Tell him you can't deal with it any more. Have someone with you though so he doesn't get violent with you. If you have to get a restrainning order on him.

You deserve much better!
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chrissy721
replied on July 22nd, 2005
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I know bipolar ppl and they are dangerous if they aren't taking their meds. My grandpa is in prison because he didn't take his meds and did some bad things...If this guy won't get help, i'd say it's best to get away before you get hurt. Like the other lady said...Make sure you have someone else there...Maybe 2 ppl...(that are strong enough to defend against him) also, you might want to stay with someone for a while until things have cooled down with him after the break up, sometimes they may come back to "makeup" or have a hard time "letting go" when they don't take their meds they usually don't have a lot of control of what they feel, think and do. I know just from experience...My grandfather was extremely nice one minute and deathly abusive the next and wouldn't realize what he did. He really doesn't belong in prison with a bunch of thugs but in a hospital that can get him the help he needs. Just wanted to give some advice before something bad could happen
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WorriedConfusion
replied on July 23rd, 2005
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Yes bipolar people are very dangerous.. The person that ended up taking advantage of me when I was drugged up is bipolar.. And frankly he scares the crap out of me... He tells me hes my friend and hes here for me and everything and then hes trying to get with one of my really close friends and I told her all the truth because I was mad because he was messing with her head and other girls and he took her virginity and I feel like I should go and tell the authorities that hes having sex with minors because he is 20 and im 16 but legal in the state of nevada... But anyhow uhms I think I might be pregnant with his child but I mean when I mentioned it to him he just freeked out on me and practically started avoding me and telling me im a loner and everything and then one night he called me about 1 am in the morning and started threatening me over my voice message... And then he said he was going to kill me and he knew where I lived n he called me a sl-t and all that stuff and then now I dont know what to to because I might be pregnant even though the tests came out negative... But yeah... Uhms... I just say if you dont want to be with this guy anymore n he continues to bother you I say you just call the cops on him... N put a restraining order on him and move away quickly....
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chrissy721
replied on July 23rd, 2005
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Yea, you are in a tough situation. If he's calling you and making those threats...Just as a warning...Bipolar ppl will carry through with those because they really don't know sometimes what they are doing...I would atleast tell and adult like maybe a family member or a close friends so at least someone else is aware of the situation...I'm 21 and I would have been terrified to tell my mom something like that was going on because she would have freaked but, honestly she can help and she'll know what to do.
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WorriedConfusion
replied on July 23rd, 2005
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Well to me its not really a worry cause I find it really funny that he's 20 now and hes still in a gang with little kids in it and he hangs out with little kids and I told my boyfriend that what has happen actually I told a few people and they want to handle it for me... And yeah I really dont know.. I hope he doesnt carry out with it.. Cause the last time he tried to make a visit to my house I freeked out and called the cops on him.... N then ever since I havent seen him... But I know my exboyfriend and my bestfriend sees him quite often though... Not sure if thats a good thing...
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Rasberry Ripple
replied on July 24th, 2005
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If he leaves massages on your answerphone again, keep it. You could be in serious danger and can use this evidence to show the police. I hope that everything works out for you.

Stay strong and don't let him take over your life....Just get away from him.
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WorriedConfusion
replied on July 24th, 2005
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Well I was keeping it... On my cellphone cause it was on my voicemail n I have cingular... N I guess they deleted the message for me after a week it made me real mad because I dont have evidence anymore...
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seksiHily
replied on July 25th, 2005
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Wow hun u need better choices in men.
Oh and for the record not all bipolar ppl are horrible off meds. Yeah, I have episodes and ill snap and yell, but ive never hit anyone over it. Those are ppl with really severe bipolar. He's probably going to be upset, have someone stay with you, my guess is he won't actually do anything, its all talk
so u were raped by this guy and when u were fourteen?, wow getting pregnant from rape twice... Once being twins
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WorriedConfusion
replied on July 25th, 2005
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Yeah... I do need a better choice in men and friends.... But yeah mighta thought he changed after the first time he raped me...Because he started to seem more normal and treated me alot nicer and so on... But then he personality completely changed up again... And I guess I shoulda realized that there was something wrong with him the first time but iunno... But being rape twice was horrible enough... Im suprise I even still stick around... But im not too sure if im pregnant just yet I should be 9 weeks if I am but the 3 home pregnancy tests came out negative...But im bloating... N my period was really unusual when it came.... It was spotting for 6 days then a light bleeding for 3 days and then it stopped and then it spotted or 3 more days and stopped... And I found it quite unusual n that im getting whjite vaginal discharges... Well not discharges but when im in the shower cleaning in that area n all I get some white thick mucus like thing from it... And im not sure what it is... Anyone got any ideas...?
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seksiHily
replied on July 25th, 2005
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How long have you had ur period?
Are they regular?
Sometimes that happens to me that its real light, as for the discharge it could be an infection.
Im not sure that bloating is even a symptom.
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pinkladies
replied on July 25th, 2005
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Not all bipolor people are dangerous. I am bipolor and so is my dad. We both go through our happy one minute then pissed off or sad the next, but we aren't dangerous. Neither one of us take meds. It just really angers me off when people say that the majority of bipolor people are dangerous.
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WorriedConfusion
replied on July 25th, 2005
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Uhms ive had my period since 2001/2002 july 4th or 5th I think... And my period is irregular but that can be me just having alot of stress and things to do... Iunno... Uhms the discharge I really hope its not an infection cause I have no way of getting to a clinic or going to the doctors n plus I have no money... But yeah... Uhms as for the bipolar thing... Welll not all bipolar people are dangerous but hte majority that I know are very unstable
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seksiHily
replied on July 25th, 2005
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Well u need to get it chcked out.
You cant also jsut assume ull be ok if u culd be pregnant... U need prenatal care its not something to play around wieth
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jenjsmith
replied on August 24th, 2005
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Worried confusion, you really need to see a doctor. Go to planned parenthood. They can help you with the cost. And i'm sure you can catch a bus or get a friend to help you. Also call the cops on this guy. No means no.
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