Young Girls Looking to Have a Baby... Posted: 07-22-05 12:31pm
Hi girls, I should probably start by
telling you all a little about myself.
I'm a 24 year old wife and mother of 2
beautiful boys. I got pregnant with my
first son at 17, I was 20 with my second.
I'm not here to put you down or try to
scare you from not trying to conceive,
what I want is to share my story.
I felt like I was completely prepared for
motherhood as young as I was. I was
really lucky to have all the support from
family and friends. The father of the
baby was just as young as I was yet he was
mature... At least in my mind. Honestly
I loved being pregnant, I think I loved
being the center of attention. This is
the easy part, being pregnant. I waited
forever for the baby to arrive, 17 days
past my due date to be exact. I embraced
labour. I thought I was strong but I
later realized physical strength isn't
enough. Yes babies are so adorable and
cute but that wears off. Now with my 6
year old heading into grade 1 i'm unsure
of a lot. See I was lucky, I married my
high school sweetheart had 2 children with
him but life isn't that easy. My eldest
boy was diagnosed with adhd(attention
deficit hyperactivity disorder) and
odd(opposition defiant disorder). My
youngest may be autistic with problems
that my effect him for life. Don't get me
wrong I love my boys with all my heart.
Just think about it!
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mommy of 1
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Jul 2005 Posts: 291 Location: traverse city michigan
Young Girls Posted: 07-22-05 21:53pm
My story is a lot like yours I am 23 and I
got prego at 15, my daughter is 7 and
going into 2nd grade and she also has odd,
she can be a handfull, her father and I
just got married last month but have been
together for 8 years today!!!! We are
trying for a 2nd baby now, hope it doesnt
take to long :) it was very hard having a
baby so young, you have to grow up so
fast, I dont know why anyone would try for
a baby so young, its sad that they think
they need a baby to be happy, I love my
daughter to death but it has been a
struggle, I lost all my friends and
freedom, I remember when I got preggo I
thought I was so grown up and I could stay
out late, ha ha was I wrong you just want
to sleep and after baby comes your even
more tired :) anyway thats my story :d
shawna
only some girls actually take the
responsibility on themselves, we were them
girls. I know a lot that hand them on to
family members... Sad I know :(
the father of my boys and I have been
together for 8 years in september..... We
actually met in health class....
Coincidence!!! It'll be our 5 year
wedding anniversary august 12. Congrats
on yours! We found out we were pregnant
again in mid may but lost the baby mid
june. It was hard. We are trying now.
Good luck to you :lol:
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ScaredBaka
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Jul 2004 Posts: 175
Posted: 07-24-05 00:58am
I do not share the same experiences that
these ladies here have gone through, but I
agree with what they are saying...Having
children at such a young age is honestly
such a waste of a woman's most youthful
years. Teenage girls want to go out with
friends and have fun, not stay at home
nursing a child or chasing it around the
house trying to put clothes on it.
I hate to explain the story of another
person, but I shall, for the sake of the
topic. A girl who attended my high school
( and my elementary school as well) became
pregnant at 15 and had to drop out of
school. Since the father of her child was
18 at the time, he was imprisoned for
statuatory rape and today, about 4 years
later, he's still in prison...So it's kind
of apparent that the father could not have
been a part of the child's life, even if
he wanted to be. This girl, who was an
overall average young lady, obviously was
not quite prepared for her pregnancy...But
then again, what 15-year-old would be
unless they were trying? After the child
was born she had tried to hurt it, and I
believe it was after that point that the
girl's mother adopted the child as her
own. So the little boy, who is probably
around 3 or 4 years old, sees his real
mother as his older sister.
I know some people say that children are a
blessing, and if you want them, then I
guess they can be. But children are also
a job that you will never get paid
for...Child care is volunteer work,
ladies! :d
forgive me...I felt the urge to vent, and
I feel much better now. :3
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chels03
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jun 2005 Posts: 70 Location: Geelong, Victoria, Australia
Posted: 07-24-05 04:51am
Im sorry but I feel the need to voice my
opinion as well.
When I was 16 I gave birth to my beautiful
baby daughter yes it was really hard work
but I wouldnt change a thing about it.
Yeah some ppl arent ready for babies and
for those ppl that want to have a life
that still involves going out all your old
friends and freedom then dont bother
having a baby.
Having a baby conpletely changes ur life.
Ur child ends up being ur life u are tired
u normally lose most of ur old friends
because u cant go out anymore n do things
u used to do with them so u r stuck trying
to make new ones.
I still find it a struggle to meet ppl
that accept me and my daugher and wish to
spend time with us as not many ppl agree
with the fact that I had her so young.
Atm I have maybe 3 close friends one of
which is my partner.
Yes we are having another bubs im pregnant
right now but im not going to recommend it
to anyone unless ur mature and wise enough
to raise another life its not just
something u can give up on like a school
project or a game its another life.
Dont go rushing into anything ur not
completely sure u could handle.
Sorry for this I just felt like I needed
to get it off my chest :/
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justacanadiangirl
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Nov 2004 Posts: 1803
Posted: 07-24-05 14:46pm
Well said chels. U can definitely speak
from experience. How's portia and the
baby?
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chels03
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jun 2005 Posts: 70 Location: Geelong, Victoria, Australia
Posted: 07-24-05 19:34pm
Yeah they arent to bad portia being a
little terror only just learning to get
out of bed n play instead of scream which
is good I dont have to wake up to her
screaming every morning lol....The other
bubs is good too 15 weeks along I am :d im
sure I can feel the little movements like
wind but the midwifew reckons im not far
enough along but I still think shes wrong
I think its the bubs lol.
But nah portia is hitting her terrible
twos so yeah shes being well hard to
handle lol im just glad ive got my partner
to help out not to sure my nerves would
handle it if I was by myself.
Just one thing I wanna congratulate all
the single mums out their that have done a
great job at raising their children on
their own its hard enough with a partner.
