Joined: 20 Nov 2003 Posts: 3 Location: North Eastern United States
Newly Diagnosed W/ Hpv And Have a Lot of Questions... Posted: 11-20-03 12:42pm
I am a male heterosexual, have just turned
21 years old, and am in love with my
girlfriend of 9 months. A few months ago
we started to notice small whitish bumps
on my penis...I was concerned, but my
girlfriend assured me that they were
ingrown hairs...So I ignored them...But as
time progressed several more have
appeared...Not just on my penis, but also
my abdomen (although they look different
on my abdomen...More reddish then
white...No itching in either case) so
last night I finally decided that no
matter the outcome, it would be in my best
interest to go to a free std clinic and
have them checked out...So I did, and on
examination, without much hesitation the
Dr./or nurse (not sure of credentials at a
free clinic) told me they could be either
molluscum or hpv, but are more likely
hpv...Then she proceeded to put some
chemical on some of the growths, told me
to leave it on over night then wash it
today and come back in a week and a half,
and if the growths react to the chemical
then they are hpv....
So I now
know that I most likely have hpv...And I
could live guilt-free with this virus
knowing that someone else has given it to
me...But unknowingly passing it on to the
love of my life is killing me inside, and
it feels as though I have taken her life
from her...And although she has not said
so, I can hear it in her voice, and next
time I see her I know i'll be able to see
it in her eyes...So I guess i'm writing
this for reassurance...I want to know
facts about this virus...I know that it
will most likely live within me for the
duration of my life...But will it always
be contagious??? And if my girlfriend has
contracted this virus from me(which has
undoubtedly already happened) should we
stop having sex??? And if we are still
together through this curse, will she be
able to have a child??? Any and all
answers/info. Dealing with this will be
greatly appreciated...Sorry this is such a
huge message...Thank you.
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xlala
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Nov 2003 Posts: 38 Location: Vermont
Posted: 11-20-03 20:07pm
Let me just start by saying I know exactly
how you feel and many others do to. I was
diagnosed with the same thing that my ex
gave me because he cheated on me with 6
different girls. When I finally did fall
in love and then found out I had it, I
felt so bad for giving it to the one I
love. Its the worst feeling in the world.
But one of the great things about true
love is forgiveness. If she loves you
enough it shouldn't matter. If you guys
want to have kids you can, she will be
able to have them without a doubt. You
will have to live with it for the rest of
your life, and if you are not quite sure
yet what it is then wait to have sex again
until you are positive about what it is.
If you have any questions just ask and I
will answer them. You are not alone
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grimhorizons
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Nov 2003 Posts: 3 Location: North Eastern United States
Posted: 11-21-03 11:58am
Thanks xlala. I do have more questions
though, maybe you can help me?...You say
that I will have to live with it the rest
of my life...I made mistakes and I will
accept the consequences...But i've been
doing as much research as possible on the
subject, and the opinion seems divided
50-50 on weather or not your immune system
can kill the virus after treatment...I'm
hoping this is possible...In your
experience and knowledge of the subject
does it seem so?...Or at least will the
symptoms get better?...Thank you so much
for your time and insight, I very much
appreciate it.
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uh-huh
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Nov 2003 Posts: 15
Posted: 11-23-03 14:20pm
What are these symptoms....I have hpv and
I wasn't sick or anything.
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uh-huh
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Nov 2003 Posts: 15
Posted: 11-23-03 14:20pm
What are these symptoms....I have hpv and
I wasn't sick or anything.
