Married Couple Needs Wiser Thoughts.....

Well you ahve to be careful because it could lead to other tempations. If your relationship is secure now, it might not be after this. You have to be very careful to make sure this is what you want and if things go wrong, you need to be able to accept them. Maybe its not a good idea but if its what you want to do, then go ahead.

I would say to go ahead and take the plunge. It's always fun to try somthing new, just make sure that you and your husband really want to do this and aren't being pressured by the other couple. I say do once and then have a talk with your husband about it. If you didn't enjoy it and it made you feel uncomfortable then no big deal. You don't have to do it again, and at least you can say that you have. If you're both fine with it, and your marraige is still strong, the then have fun!

Good luck!

Sarah

I agree with the others, be very careful but if its something you want to try then go for it. Something you might want to think about is what you are going to do should halfway through it one of you becomes uncomfortable or jealous. Agree that if one becomes uncomfortable, jealous or begins to have second thoughts that the other agrees to end it right then and not pressure you to continue. Agree to respect each others feelings and support each even if you want to continue and they want to stop. I think as long as you are both honest with each other and honest about your feelings and secure in your relationship with each other and this is something you want to try then you should go for it. Have fun and be safe

Don't do it, it ruins everything, if things between you two are already good then why ruin them.

The only boundaries you can establish are the one's you create. Draw the line here, politely decline and then celebrate the following way:

(1) prepare yourselves a great dinner - homemade, candles and dress-up too.

(2) retell your story, how you met, how you got to where you are today

(3) i'll leave the next part to your imagination

good luck, great job, well asked - hope you listen

It will ruin everything i've done this and it almost always leads
to more and more and more until it's gets to where your not involved
in these little experimental fiasco's anymore!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!

Good luck on your dicision!

Diamond :

Understanding that yor marriage is ok but u want to experiment. However thinking about something like this compared to actually doin it is two different matters. Can you or could you handle the thought of yur husband plunging himself into another female while you were in the same room and your sharing in the moans and groans -- gethepicture? Once you cross the line then whre does it end? Thank each other that you have found one another and have some great no holds barred lovemaking with each other. Check into a hotel out of town. Make up a scenario; play act whatever but don';t cross that line. Hope this helps. :d

Wow it's great that you and your husband where first for each other. That is a rare gift indeed. With that gift comes the knowledge that you don't and he doesn't have thought or memories of other people or sexual experinces. You know where you have been, no disease from sex etc. You have a what sounds like a great marriage, why take a chance and ruin it. Right now it may seem like it's not a huge deal but it will. When you or he sees his spouse in the ar,s of another person wheather it's sex or just fooling around it will matter, and if it doesn't it should. You promised before god and wittneses to hold to eachother and thats what you should do, once you cross that line you can't take it back, and no sex or making out is worth that. Good luck. L

Marriage is a vow between a man and a woman, not his and her friends. Sex is meant to be sacred between a married couple, not extended into other couples. Sex is an emotional bond between and husband and a wife, not friends. The temptation would be too great if you and your husband would have a fight. Where will you run? To your friends man?

Things are great between you and your husband!! Don't ruin that. There's too much cheating now days anyway, why would you choose to give yourself to someone else? Most married couples have problems because of cheating and going and having sex with someone else's mates. Keep the relationship where it is, don't take it for granted.

I strongly advise you to think about this hard. What if you end up pregnant from this other guy? Looking at your marriage long and hard, because it might not be if you let this happen! You should respect you and your husbands body and keep your sex inside your marriage, between you and him alone!!!!

Best wishes!!
Carvytaph

Well if you both really want to do that do it just set a few ground rules for the both of you like for one don't kiss the person because kissing I think is the most loving thing a persons together if their is one thing you and your husband do that is screct leave that out with the other person iam personally think you should have a three some first swicthing on and off but do what your heart says if you have don't think you can go throw it then don't start it good luck for the both of yas and iam gald that you are so open about what you want

Have you watched the movie "indecent proposal" with demi moor in it...Watch that movie first before you jump into this. This movie shows both sides of an issue like this. Its so true to the heart.

This is only my personal opinion if my husband and myself were in your situation.

I am not sure of the reason(s) that you and your husband would do this, but I imagine that it is for something new, and ofcourse self gratification, and partner(s) gratification. Honestly, even if you do this, and it is great, it may not always be great. I agree with some of the others. You probably will not stop at one time, or one couple. In the future, this may no longer satisfy you or worse, this may no longer satisfy your husband. What if he wants more, and you dont? You may begin to wonder if she satisfies him better than you do. Or if he is more attracted to her. Later, if you decide to have children, what if you cant stop these urges, even if you want to? You may regret trying it. Remember, this is only my personal opinion. You may feel totally different. You do what makes you happy!

Let me know what you decide,
marissa

I am jamie and man I try to be open minded about alot of things with my wife this is somthing we would not do. I recomend not doing it. If it is a question of some one watching you then hook up a video cam and record your selves and watch it latter with your husband and talk about what you liked and did not like. If you really like that and like the idea of some one maybe watching you two there are resorts you can go to where you can where cloathes or not were cloathes. I hope this was help. Ttfn jamie

The first step is for you and your husband to be the voyers. Since it was the other couple's idea, they should be ok with that. You should be fully clothed, sit next to your husband, and just watch the other couple through their entire routine from forplay to climax. This will give you an idea of your comfort level without being involved. It will also allow you to witness another couple's love making. That alone may be enough to spark the creativity that you are seeking without going too far.

Yeah possible things could happen, but it's always fun to try new things if you don't like it at first...You can always stop it. If you are looking for new things this could be very fun....Just don't get emotionally envolved and make sure your husband won't either....How young are you?

I know of 2 couples in my town who did that and they ended up both breaking up, and marrying the other. Think long and hard