Teen Mom With Family Tryin to Tell Me How to Raise My Son!!

Hun, I know this has to be hard for you, but you are young. Your family is afraid you are going to make the wrong choices for your son. I say suck it up and have your bf prove himself to your fam for being there for you and your son and not getting in trouble. Over a period of time your family will see things from your point of view. You do not want to do anything drastic at this time, because you do not want to burn your bridges. Your family is there for you right now, and you wouldn't want them to turn thier backs on you because you defy them, then have him mess up and have no where to go.

I wish you the best!

Teenmom16
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joined: 25 jul 2005
posts: 2
location: fort worth,texas
the boyfriend with the anger problem
posted: 07-25-05 1:54pm

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well let me tell you my boyfriend has done that to becuase he was on drugs!! My boyfriend has a severe anger problem just as well so if your still with him then see if he is willing to try and get on medicatin for his anger problem and if he gets mad at that then leave it alone and move on!! Becuse if you dont then it could get you severally hurt or even killed. There are other fish in the see so good luck




** I just have to say that I think that you know the answer to your own question. If your boyfriend is already physically abusive then in no way should you move out of state with him where you and your son are dependent on him and him alone. The reason your family is the way that they are is because they love you and have your son and your best intrest at heart. If they didnt care then they wouldnt make a big deal out of it. I know its hard to listen to them and let them make important decisions for you but you have to remember that you are still young and going to make wrong choices. Boys come and go but your family is going to be there for you no matter what. **

good luck and remember that you need to put your sons best interests first.

My boyfriend did try to prove to them already and they dont care now I have recently found out that he doing drugs again becuase he is off his medications because his mother wont take him to the doctor and he has tryed to get her to but she is too busy and he doesnt have a father in his life. And when he is on drugs then he doesnt treat me very well. That is why we are trying to move so he can get away from the environment that he was in before becuase if you dont change everything then your just going to go back to the way you were(right?) I have thought about geting emanstipated but I dont have the money to that and I dont want my son around my grandma becuase she has no respect for him and fights with me in front of him and I try and tell her to leave me alone. So what am I suppose to tell her so I can go on with my life?

With all this said. Your bf still has a childish mentality, if he cannot do this for himself! He's depending on his mother to take him and get meds, which probably means he does not have a car nor a job! Kick him to the curb! Someone better will come along, and love you and your son. You should not chance getting hurt or your son getting hurt!

How old is your bf anyway?

My boyfriend is not abusive he just gets mad really easily he has never abused me and if he did I would leave for mine and my sons sake. His anger problem makes us fight alot but when he is on his medication we are fine and the reason he has to wait on his mom is becuse he is 17 and underaged and he does have a car and he is trying to get a job but we are mostly worried about graduating becuase his family and my dad and grandpa said that they will help us as long as we graduate.

Love is blind sweetie, and I believe you are letting him lead you in the wrong direction. If he loves you he will step back until you are 18, then you will be able to see a little clearer. But I wish you luck in whatever you decide!

I hate to say this but this boy isn't ready to take on the responsibility of you and you son yet. If he is 17 as you say he is then he should be able to take care of himself rather then depend on his mom. He is almost an adult and if he get his medication with his mom then there is something wrong. At 17 he can pick up his medication. He could take a bus or ask a friend for a ride. He doesnt need his mother to pick up a prescription. He is feeding you excuses as to why is bad to you. If he depends on his mom this much how will he be when he is thousands of miles away from her? You family cares and sees through him. Love is blind. Whats his excuse for being on drugs? Sweetheart, listen to others advise. That is why you came on here. Were not trying to be mean we are trying to give you unbiast advise. We dont know your family, we dont know you or your boyfriend. You know that were not trying to pick sides. So listen to what we have to say because we are just trying to help you from experiances we have gone through. Just from what you have told us he is no good. Let him clean himself up and become stable and then in a few years maybe you'll be ready to move with him. But right not id strongly suggest staying with your family. What if your boyfriend were to lose control with the baby when your not there? If he already cannot control his temper how do you think he is going to be with a sick baby who wont stop crying or throws up all over the carpet. You have to have so much patients with a child. Even the most experianced loving parents snap sometimes and these are people who are financially and mentally stable. How do you think a mental teenager is going to handle this? Listen to your family they love you and want whats best for you and your baby!

Doing drugs because he is off of medications is not a reason to use. Listen to what you yourself are saying. What if he is high and watching the baby? You know this isnt how you want your baby raised. Walking on eggshells afraid to upset him. Not having money for food because he used it on drugs. Listen to what your telling us!!!

well sweetie if your family dont like him then thats on them and if you love him then you need to tell them that its either they want you and your family in their life or they want you out if they choose to have you out then you move out and ignore them for a while. i went threw this with my step dad and my bf and he still to this day dnt like him but he wld rather have me and him in there lives then to have me out i wish you the best and i hope that they make the right choose

I think it's just an excuse he has used saying that his mum can't take him to the doctors. he can his drugs right? You are young and he does need to prove to your parents that he can be responsible. By taking drugs he isnt really doing that. Is he taking hard drugs like speed or using marijuana?
At the end of the day though he is till your childs baby and he should be able to see his child. It's only going to make it worse for him if he doesn't. My mum was a heroin addict and it just made her worse..I wish you luck. i hope you bf can change.