Porn Problem

I think hes the one with the problem. I was with a man that was addicted to porn and he didn't want jack to do with me. He'd rather sit there and watch porn he lost sense of reality and it pretty much ruined are relationship.

Its really not your fault. You need to sit down and talk to him.

Thanks, yeah see I have and he says he promises that he wont get addicted again espeacalilly since he has me now. I will try that again.

Talking to him would be the best thing to do. Actually not letting him watch it would be the best thing to do. He can not control weather or not he gets addicted. Not only is this good for your relationship but you dont want to have porn in your house while theres a baby.

Yeah I agree, I feel the same about not having it in the house while our baby is in it.

Also I must ask this to. Can he get addicted even though he has me? I know that sound like a dump question but I wonder. In all honesty why would a man chose porn over a woman he could have.

Because it is an addiction!! It is so powerful you just don't know!

My ex- the father of my children always was obsessed with anything sexual. He dreamed about a hugh cow's vagina and it was chasing him. He woke up frightened--and within a couple of years he had sexual relations with his own daughter--she was three.
He is a good person and I still care for him greatly, but what he did to my daughter.....
He thought he got over became a bible carrying, church attending man of society and then here it came again. She was 11 this time and her little sister (by another woman) she was 8 maybe, was also fondled and sexually abused.

Neither was ever actually penetrated I don't think, but **everything** else. Even this kind of relationship--like girlfiend boyfriend between them.

It all started from playboy and porn movies. Wanting to sleep with me and my girlfriend at the same time, which I almost feel for.

How can you still have feelings for a man who did that to your child. I adore my husband I mean I love him more then life itself but if he ever touched one of our children or any other child (which he wouldnt im just saying if) I would call the police, report him and then cut of his dick. I am sorry but I find the thought of a grown man doing that repulsive and it makes me sick to my stomach even thinking about that.
Watching a little bit of porn doesnt lead to child abuse, youve got to be
messed up in the head to do that sh^t, men like that deserve it up the ass in prision.

I did call thee police both times--although the mother of the other child denied it when my daughter was three and also denied it when they were both molested. She was the one with him when my daughter was molested and it was her daughter molested right along with her the second time.

How could the courts in california give my children to him after he was allegedly doing it the first time?? They never said he did, although my little 3 year old had a yeast infection, her privates were fused shut, and screamed to the top of her lungs that he did it. He also flunked the lie detecter test. But with him being her father they have to prove it 10 times harder for an inditement. So he got off.

Next time he admitted it and only got 45 days with 6 years probation.

How could the other woman who was there when he molested her the second time, never tell me or the police. Just sit around and say my daughter was trying to steal her man!!??

The only way I could still care for him, is the love of jesus in my heart. Believe me I could not do it on my own. I was always a forgiving kind of person, until this stuff. It has been many many years and I do not hate him, he was sick. And I understand that. God forgives him and I am commissioned to do the same thing.

You are a stronger woman then i. I to have a good relationship with god but I could not do what you have done. I commend you. But I would have murdered.

*and it is so screwed up how people who do abuse children get off and those who do not can be sent to prision. (ahem micheal jackson )
the woman he is with sounds moronic. To bad your daughter cannot testify now and send him to prision. I would be so afraid for him to molest again

I am sorry but I have to agree. I would have made the guy that did that to me pay if he hadn't already died. I don't agree that porn makes you do stuff like that I think you have to be one sick person to do something like that to a child or anyone for that matter. I do agree that porn can be bad if a man lets it be.

I love the monitor on this thing. I said I would homicide him lol how did that turn into not something very nice. Oh well.

:lol: yeah I agree!!

So now all were doing is fighting. I don't want to fight over something so silly as porn but we are. I really just dont know what to do. My counciler says that if were both ok with it there shouldnt be a problem but however it seems there is. I love my husband very much and I dont want to fight over something like porn. What should I do?

Im going through that right now with a man I want to marry. You notice things that arent right when you have lived with someone for over 5 years. I was always afraid that he never loved me or I wasnt pretty or this or that. It has actually lead to my becoming bulimic again. He says that its my fault that I dont feel pretty and that its my fault that he is like this. But little does he know that I knew about this problem when we were friends. Its a very very very hard cycle to break and we are in counseling right now for this. Things to get greener on the other side if both parties are willing to work the problem out. Best of luck to you hun and hold your head up high...Dont let him drag you down no matter how much you love him. People lose everything to this sort of addiction. I should know...We lost our house to this.

How did you lose your house may I ask? Well I know how you both feel also my situation is pretty similer. My husband dosnt watch it anymore but he tells me how he still wants to watch it and how if he had the choice of victora secreat boobs or neked well he would have neked boobs. I dont know why men choice to want all these other set of boobs when they have real ones that they can do what ever the hell they want to but yet they still want another set of boobs..
Its even been so bad that it was brought in our bedroom which I didnt care to watch it but I sure as hell didnt want to do anything to it. Well one night we were fooling around and low and behold I look up while down on him and he is watching her boobs man you talk about mad I wanted to bite the dang thing off but I didnt..
So now he knows that stuff isnt allowed in our home ever again. And if I catch it well he will regreat it for the rest of his life thats a promise...

Ladies, I may be young but I am wise.
About the pregnancy problem with the husband, try new positions. That always interests a man. There is a brand new one called the 77 which you could try. It's in the spoon position, both of you face the same way with him behind you. Intertwine your legs tightly and let him enter you. When he's in, straighten your legs. Do this repetition, almost like aerobics hehehe.
And to the woman with the husband who sexually abused his daughters. Please do not jump on her right away wondering how she could still care for him. You cannot judge unless you're in the exact same situation, and no one is ever in the exact same situation. She has her reasons. It's the same for abused wives who never leave their husbands because they still love them.

I've been married 16 years and the whole time my husband has been doing porn it is getting worse our 12 year old daughter has seen him doing it and our 5 year old son has told me he has seen the nasty people on the computer, I have talked, hollered, cussed, threatened.Nothing works he just lies and he's he can stop and will never do it again .He has been telling me this for 16 years .It stated with magizines, then videos, and then when we got a computer it's like a kid in a candy store. He stays up all nite , making sure that me and the kids are asleep, but I and the kids get up in the middle of the nite . God I can't even tell you how many times i've gotten up and caught him looking at porn and masturbating.It gotten to the point we know longer have sex.It makes me sick , I don't want to have sex with him , I feel like he wants to treat me like a porn star.Just tonite I caught him looking at porn and masturbating,he had the nerve to keep masturbating with me standing there . Someone help please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!