Gastric Bypass Tears And Fears Posted: 07-26-05 23:35pm
:? Hi, my name is messina and I am a 31
year old mother of two and a newly married
. I am 5'5 and 226 lbs. I have
chronic back pain, but no other medical
complications. I get extremely
depressed because of my weight and I feel
so unhappy and uncomfortable in my skin.
My husband is totally against bypass
surgery and vows not to discuss or hear of
it in any form or fashion. He told me to
just do what I have to do, but he does not
agree with it nor will he support me.
But my biggest concern is not him, it's
me. I love food, food is my friend, I
lean on it when I get down, happy, sad
etc. And the thought of not being able
to eat scares me. Although I know I need
to find an alternative source for my
depression, and that food ultimately is
not the answer and I am miserable being
fat, I have no real desire to give up the
food on my own. I want to eat, and lose
the weight which is impossible. I opted
not to have the gastric ring, because
ultimately it is so easy to cheat past it,
and well.. I know I would. Gastric
bypass surgery is my only alternative to
control my eating, my urges, and my
weight. However, I am so freaking
scared. I am terrified of what "could"
go wrong. I have no room in my life for
complications. I have two small
children, and a husband, and not to
mention my obligation to work. My mother
is really pushing me to have the surgery,
she knows how much better I will feel
thin, and how my depression could possibly
even just go away all together, and my
self-esteem would reappear. I didn't
even get dressed today, because I didn't
want to put on any fat clothes. I get
tired of looking for something
"comfortable" to wear. Most of my
clothes are tight, and I refuse to go
shopping in the "fat girls" store. I'm
sick of flowers and elastic waist bands.
I want some real clothes! I want to wear
a belt, and need it! I want to wear my
shoulders out, and not feel self conscious
about the lower part of my arm flapping in
the wind. Or the rolls on my back
hanging out. I want to make love to my
husband, without feeling ashamed or tired.
I want to live again. I don't mind
exercising and have done so and lost
weight successfully, but it always comes
back. Slowly.... But surely, and that
is what made me consider gastric bypass.
I'm sick of the struggle. I'm sick of
the yo-yo weight loss. I want something
permanent! If there is anybody out there
who is will to talk to me, and help me
over my fear of this surgery please... I
would appreciate it. However, if there
are people out there who have horror
stories, or have lost a loved one,
please... I need to hear that too.
This is a big decision and a permanent
one, I need to be sure about what i'm
doing, or not going to do. - thanks
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deathlykisses
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Jul 2005 Posts: 13 Location: alabama
Hi Posted: 07-27-05 23:22pm
Im melissa, im 20 im 58 im 250, I lost 40
pounds withen the past 7 monthes, from
exersise, I dont deny myself eating my fav
foods I just limit what I have I have a
slice or two of pizza, I dont drink soda
or sugary drinks I drink water, tea, and
crystalight, I eat fruit, veggies for
snacks, yogurt, protein, carbs arefine I
use whole wheatbread, instead of pork for
break fast. I started using turkey
sausage and turkey bacon for breakfast.
If I want something sweet I have a cookie
or brownie, I exersize 1 hour every night
before bed, the only problem with losing a
lot of weight is the extra skin, I plan to
be 160 be fore thi time next year, I gotta
work a litte harder, im not gonna have
surgery, all you need is support and
motivation, you cant fix the out side
until u fix the insede, you have to learn
to love youself and say to urself your
beautiful, then you can lose the weight, I
went throughthell a a teen because of
peopl makling fun ofme even my dad and
sister called me names. Good luck to you
if you ever need to talk you cand talk to
me my email is rave
nightpoet@yahoo.Com, I also use yahoo
messenger, im younger than you but I know
a lot about life, I ike to say I have an
old soul
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jagsawyer
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Aug 2005 Posts: 5 Location: Houston
Gastric Bypass Posted: 08-03-05 18:35pm
Hello messina. My name is jagsawyer. I
am 31 years old and I had the gastric
bypass two years ago this summer. I
weighed 240 pounds and now I weigh 130
pounds. The surgery part was easy but I
won't lie the first six weeks of being on
a liquid diet is hell. I struggled. I
really wanted to eat.
But once I started eating, I could barely
eat. I was full right away. There were
really no more urges to eat because of the
surgery. You could no longer enjoy your
food. My days of going to the buffet
line three or four times were done. I
now can eat only a small part of my food.
I lost all my weight in about 9 months
with intense exercise of about 3 hours a
day. 1 hour before work and two hours in
the evening. I am not as strict now, I
am just working to maintain my weight.
With school starting again I will start
focusing on losing about 20 more pounds
this year. So I will have to factor in
exercise again. I gave up soda
altogether. I still eat food high in fat
way too often and I am working on cutting
those items out of my diet. Sometimes
the high fat foods and sugary foods will
make you sick. I have exerpience that
often.
I would never take back the surgery.
Have you even started the process to get
approved for the surgery through your
insurance? You didn't mention that.
Usually you have to go through some
sessions with a shrink, make sure you do
that. It would help you to discuss your
fears with someone who won't judge you.
Your husband will come around. Mine
didn't want me to have the surgery but
after watching me commit myself to
exercise and diet like never before he
realized I was serious. I think in some
ways he is really proud of me.
I hope this works out for you. Good
luck.
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TESA14
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Sep 2005 Posts: 1
Posted: 09-13-05 04:34am
Hi messina
my name is tessa and my mother died aug.19
2005 from complations of gastro bypass
surgey. I tired to post a reply earlier
and I just it didnt work, but it you want
to talk about it email me at fluffie
447@yahoo.Com :)
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kosbourn
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Nov 2005 Posts: 3 Location: Alabama
Gastric Bypass Posted: 11-14-05 02:59am
Hi messina,my name is kosbourn.I am 31
years old and I had the gastric bypass
surgery in 2003.It's hard to advise you to
have the surgery because I had alot of
complications with mine.I had the surgery
in august 15, 2003 the first time.Well the
doctor that done it didn't sew me up good
the first time and they had to take me
right back in there the very next
morning.I had to stay 65 miles away from
my 2 year old son for 14 days.That was
very hard.I had tubes comming out of my
sides and stomach,dealing with all of
that,while in the hospital,i somehow got
pneamonia in my right lung.So I really
don't know what to say,but now I always
feel very tired and weak.I hope the best
for you.All the luck in the world
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