Hi I would like some advice on how to deal
with the fact that the relationship that I
have been in for 3years has ended because
my boyfriend who is in the us military is
going to be deployed in sep 05 and he
ended our relationship in july 05 he said
that he's saving me the emotional stress
that he mite not come back, he also ask
that we remain friends,should I stay or
give up. Hes going to iraq.
Also its a long distance relationship
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ze paw
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Mar 2005 Posts: 11 Location: thunder bay, ont
Posted: 07-27-05 17:04pm
Sorry to hear your problem, but I think u
should at least give the long distance
thing a try. You cant end love that
quikly. I understand what he is doing, I
think he just has a lot of fears. If he
loves you he does not want to see u
hurt,but guys have a weird way of showing
it. Dont give up that easy, love is hard
to find. I dont know how close the two of
u are, but if it was me I would want to
get married before he left. Even if its
not the wedding of your dreams it still
keeps the two of you together in your
hearts forever.
Good luck, hope everything goes well
for you
ze paw
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 07-28-05 17:12pm
Show him how much you care by writing
letters, email and still being there for
him. My husband is in the marine corps
and I know what is probably going on with
him. He just doesnt want you to have to
wait and go through the stress of not
knowing what is going on with him. He
probably also thinks that if your broke up
it will be easier to be apart (which it is
not) sit him down and tell him how you
feel, that your willing to wait and you
want to be there for him. Iraq changes
these guys. When my husband came back
he really appreciated me and realized how
much he loved me. Seeing death will
make him appreciate what he has.
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Crystal1111
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Jul 2005 Posts: 102 Location: Florida
the Brutal Honesty Posted: 07-29-05 14:01pm
I think if he truly loved you, he would
ask you to wait for him. What is his
intention in breaking up? To spare your
feelings? I think that is an excuse
personally. When it comes to love, each
person has the right to be selfish. If
he truly wants it to work between the two
of you, he would show that selfishness by
asking you to be there when he returns.
I would question his true motives. I'm
sorry if that hurts. I do wish you the
best.
