Does the Novelty of Love Eventually Wear Off? Posted: 07-27-05 21:18pm
Alright so me and my boyfriend dated for a
year, he was my first true love and our
relationship was pretty good..But he had
some commitment issues so we broke up.
We were apart for a year and a half. I
missed him and thought about him every day
and then one day I decided to email him
and see how he was doing. It turned out
he missed me as well and we got back
together. I was so happy when we got
back together, it was something I thought
would never happen. And in the year and
a half we were apart everyone I dated just
wasnt good enough..Because they werent
him. I just couldnt feel about anyone
the way I had felt about him. Now we
have been going back out for about 5-6
months now and things have been good. Im
in love with him and we've talked about
marriage and things of that nature. But
the last couple days ive been feeling kind
of weird..Maybe depressed. And I feel
like I could care less if we stayed
together. Im not sure if maybe im scared
about being so committed to somebody or
not. I know I love him and he knows me
better than anyone else. I feel like I
am supposed to spend my life with him..But
these past couple days I just feel like I
dont want to be around him..Or anyone.
We dont seem to have a lot of things in
common..We are almost the complete
oppisite of each other. Sometimes I can
be moody and have a bad attitude and he
hates that. Sometimes I feel like I have
to be very aware of how im acting so he
wont get mad and break up with me. I
dont know what to do. I dont know if im
depressed..Or if I should break up with
him. But I dont think I should..I mean
when we were apart I never stopped loving
him or thinking about him, and I could
never find a man that matched up to him.
I need some advice please help!
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pixma
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Aug 2005 Posts: 1015 Location: NSW Australia
Posted: 09-16-05 09:41am
Nah mate your not depressed!!!
I guess you could say the honey moon faze
is over in your case again!! Its quite
natural to have the feelings your having.
You feel that he is the one that you want
to spend the rest of your life with but
what if your wrong? I have these feelings
almost everyday and i'm still not quite
sure.
You say that you wouldn't be bothered if
you and him broke up but I bet the thought
of being on your own absolutely scares the
crap out of you.
Its just a faze babe, it will come and go
trust me!! Its went you cant stand him
touching you, the sight of him or my bad
habit when i'm not happy in a relationship
I cheat on him!! Haven't done that in the
4 yrs my partner and I have been together
so i'm going good so far.
Cheer up!! :-)
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pixma
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Aug 2005 Posts: 1015 Location: NSW Australia
Posted: 09-16-05 09:42am
Nah mate your not depressed!!!
I guess you could say the honey moon faze
is over in your case again!! Its quite
natural to have the feelings your having.
You feel that he is the one that you want
to spend the rest of your life with but
what if your wrong? I have these feelings
almost everyday and i'm still not quite
sure.
You say that you wouldn't be bothered if
you and him broke up but I bet the thought
of being on your own absolutely scares the
crap out of you.
Its just a faze babe, it will come and go
trust me!! Its went you cant stand him
touching you, the sight of him or my bad
habit when i'm not happy in a relationship
I cheat on him!! Haven't done that in the
4 yrs my partner and I have been together
so i'm going good so far.
Cheer up!! :-)
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iwatchedthesky
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Jul 2005 Posts: 17 Location: Michigan
Posted: 09-16-05 20:18pm
Thanks a lot. Its always better to know
that other people go through the same
things. Things have gotten better now and
im out of that phase. And I know what
your talking about with the sight of
people disgusting you. Thats happened to
me quite a few times. Ill go out with
someone and then all of a sudden they make
my skin literally crawl and I cant stand
to let them touch me. Its horrible!
Thankfully that has never been the case
with him and I hope it never is. Thanks
again for the advice!
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pixma
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Aug 2005 Posts: 1015 Location: NSW Australia
No Worries!! :-) Posted: 09-24-05 11:39am
Not a problems glad that I have helped in
someway!!! :-)
