These problems fect many people allover
the world. Instead of making fun ofthem
andcalling names, give a little support.
Im 20 years old im5'8 250pounds, ive had
to deal with my weight problem all my life
im getting better I lost 40 lbs in
thepast7 monthes im still losing weight.
I have this problem because of my father
when I was a child :evil: he
wascontrolling he didnt allw my mom to buy
food. She had to stay home and cook and
clean. He bought e wort food possible
cheap.Junk food, thats what we had to eat,
thats all I new growing up un til my
parents got devorced, I lived with my mom
but I still couldnt break the habbit of
eating this crap, I now have control I eat
healthy, I do eat pizza and ice cream but
in small portions, I dring a lot of water,
and somthing called chi soymilk. I eat
fruit a veggies, protein lean meat I
exersize 1hour at night and for 10 min in
the morning,i find it easier if im
watching tv or listengn to music while I
exercise.Im happy now well almost I need
to reachmy goal weight of 160 before this
time next year. I gotta start working
harder, I had the problem of being
overweight as a child my sister developed
anorexia, she was afraid to eat, because
she saw how I wastreated she starved
herself. Shestarted passing out
sometimes.She moved in with me and my mom
she climed she was eating but I new when
she didnt , she was obsesed with exersize
evry spare minite shewas exersizing. She
was mean to me she liked to call me names
when she didnt get her way, the typical
fat names, I guess sh did it to make
herself feel better, its not so bad now
most ofit stoped, evry once in a while I
hear comment from them. But I still hear
stuff ike that from strangers, like when I
went to check the mail not to long a go a
guy yeelled out his ca (get your fatass
out of the road) it really upsets me, I
try not to take things so serious, I cant
help it thought, why do people say stuff
to hurt me when I havnt done anything to
them, im still working on my weightproblem
but I need support from somefriends maybe
someone will talk to me some time, my
sister is gettng betternow causeits been a
few years but she still has days when she
only eats one thing.Man my life is messed
up
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gardengirl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jul 2005 Posts: 7 Location: Portland
Posted: 07-29-05 21:00pm
Hello,
reading your message I could feel how hurt
and frustrated you are feeling.
First off:
big hugs to you!
(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((you))))))
))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
now,
i want to tell you I am so sorry for what
you and your sister and your mom have been
through.
I can't begin to know what it has been
like, but I can guess that it hasn't been
easy. And from your message I see that
you are feeling some strong pain &
resentment.
I am going to say some thing now that may
seem very obvious and overly simple. I do
it because I realize there's a good chance
that nobody has ever said these things to
you and you need to hear the truth.
The way that your father (& other
family) treated you as a child was/is not
your fault.
I am sorry that you were treated that way.
(even though I don't know you personally,
I know that you did not deserve to be
treated disrespectfully then or now.)
as a child you didn"t have control over
the actions of adults or the circumstances
of your life -but you do now!
Lastly, I know that it takes courage to
speak up for yourself and to try to make
big changes inyour life. You have taken
the first steps already! Keep it up.
You are not alone! One of the most
transformative aspects of the internet is
that it gives us the ability to connect
with people all around the globe.
Remember that when you are feeling
isolated! There are people out there
that are feeling just like you.
Find ways every day to nutrure and care
for yourself.
And find ways to nurture and care for
someone else - this will speed your
process.
I am very proud of you for the steps you
are taking to change yourself and your
life.
