Alright ill start from the beginning, me
and my wife knew eachother for about 2
month before we were talking abuot
marriage, which is no problem because I
like to do things out of the ordinary. We
were together 9 months before I deployed
here to iraq. Ive been here 6 months and
and have a month left. Now, me and my
wife had a beautiful relationship and were
very happy with our lives and eachother,
there was nothing to get us down, and
everyone knew it. Now that ive been gone
I feel its taking its toll on her and she
can not deal with me not being there, and
I understand that its hard, its not any
easier on me. Well about a month ago she
was talking to someone trying to help him
with his relationship and he started to
put the moves on her, she denied him the
first time and the second time they slept
together and she left crying. She regrets
ever letting that happen. That is not
easy for me to deal with, considering how
I feel for her and I am willing to put it
in the past for her. But recently she had
gone home to visit her family and ran into
more stress with her family problems and
all, so she started hangning with old
friends to make her happier, but now shes
been hanging with her ex and says she
still has feelings for him. She has not
slept with him though, the reson they
arent together is becasue he was
unfaithful and she left him. Well she
talked to someone in her family about her
problems and they said for her to worry
about her future. So now shes confused on
what she wants. She says she still loves
me and doesnt want a divorce. I told her
to take her time and make up her mind by
herself, not to let anyone else influence
her decision and then let me know when
shes ready. Well, should I wait for her
decision, or go through what I dread and
start the divorce process. Im really
hurting over here and she seems very
confused as to what she wants. I think
its becuase im not there, and she is
trying to fill that gap with distracting
herself with other people. I may be
wrong. What should I do, im so lost right
now, ive been told to let her go, but that
hurts to think about becuase I love her so
much. Should I wait? What should I
expect for a response. Has anyone gone
through this before? Please help me out
here. Thanks.
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PeRsEy17
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Jul 2005 Posts: 53 Location: Washington
Re: Stress Overseas Posted: 07-29-05 01:15am
First off ide like to say wow! This
really hit home. I have an uncle over
seas who just recently returned home. He
has been happily married now for about 4
years, but the first year wasnt so happy
he went through the same situations with
my aunt. I lived with her for a while
while he was away and had to witness the
damper him being gone put on there
marriage. So I guess the only advice I
can give you is wait it out. Your wife is
probably very confused and upset right
now. She probably wants to be with you
more than anything but can't stand you
being away which is making her want to run
to someone who is there and can give her
the affection and attention she is
desiring right at this moment. My best
bet would be to wait it out if she truely
loves you she will put herself on hold for
you until you come home,... And if not
well then you deserve someone who will and
at least you went down giving it your all.
Good luck and godbless in all you do!
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vanessalouanne
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2005 Posts: 2268 Location: ,
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Posted: 07-29-05 12:57pm
I hate women like that. Get over
yourselfs damnit. I am a military wife
and you know what I know what my husband
has to do and see and I respect him for
it. I know so many wives that cheat or
leave their husbands because they cant
handle it. Ahh that irritates me, I just
do not understand how people can be so
selfish! You know what divorce her.
You can find better and you do not deserve
that sh*t, you have enough on your plate
as it is. It takes a real women to be a
military wife and she obviously is not a
real women. I have 3brothers in the
service as well as my husband and if one
of their wives did that to them you better
believe theyd get an as* beating. (my
sister and I (also a military wife) can be
pretty scary if you piss us off).
Err sorry just reading that makes me mad.
