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brokenlife
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Joined: 29 Jul 2005 Posts: 11 Location: Minnesota
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Raped...and Pregnant
Posted: 07-29-05 16:03pm
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I am 15, I was raped three times, the
first about 3 months ago the latest about
two and a half weeks ago. I have been
trying to get though with this on my own,
my parents dont know, just a couple close
friends. I have been drinking and smoking
to try to get though this. My period was
late, I have been having really bad
headachs, so my friend told me to take a
preg. Test. I did and it was positive.
Then I took another one hoping the results
would be different, but it was the same.
I have no idea what to do because my
parents cannot find out. Im to scared to
do anything and I know I should tell my
parents, and the cops but I cant. I am
way to scared and I know nothing will be
done about it. I plan on having an
abortion but I have no idea what to do.
Can somone try to give me some advice. I
need some so bad and im so confused about
life. Thanks
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justacanadiangirl
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Posted: 07-29-05 18:03pm
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First off, all I can say is, u have to
tell ur parents. And the police. Maybe
if u had done that the first time, u
wouldn't have been raped again, and u
wouldn't be pregnant. Good luck.
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brokenlife
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Joined: 29 Jul 2005 Posts: 11 Location: Minnesota
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What If I...
Posted: 07-29-05 18:34pm
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What if I just have an abortion, noone has
to know. My parents found out, when my
sister was pregnant at 16...It was a
really bad deal. She had it and things
turned out. I just cant deal with this at
all... I know its my fault that al lthis
is happeneing but I just have to get
thought it right? I didnt mean for this
to happen
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babyrae
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Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 2957 Location: Manitoba, Canada
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Posted: 07-29-05 18:36pm
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You really should tell your parents. I
dont know if its the same in the us but
here if u have an abortion, u need
parental consent for under the age of 18.
Anf if your 15, u'll need a parent to go
with you. And it can be quite
expensive... Can u talk to an adult or
anyone u know?
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brokenlife
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Joined: 29 Jul 2005 Posts: 11 Location: Minnesota
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Posted: 07-29-05 18:38pm
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| babyrae
wrote: | | you really should tell your
parents. I dont know if its the same in
the us but here if u have an abortion, u
need parental consent for under the age of
18. Anf if your 15, u'll need a parent
to go with you. And it can be quite
expensive... Can u talk to an adult or
anyone u
know? |
i cant tell my parents....And I want to
tell an adult if they wouldnt tell my
parents, but I cant think of anyone that
wouldnt. I can get an abortion, even if
im 15. I have the money to do this
also.... I just have no idea I mean its
killing my baby but I dont want it at all
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michelle1981
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Posted: 07-29-05 21:07pm
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Don't blame yourself for this. The first
thing you have to do is tell your parents,
I know you don't want to but you must.
What this low down piece of crap has done
to you is an unthinkable act. I
completely understand you wanting an
abortion, I would want that too.... Just
please tell someone.
I'm so sorry that this has happened to you
:(
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brokenlife
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Joined: 29 Jul 2005 Posts: 11 Location: Minnesota
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Posted: 07-29-05 21:49pm
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| michelle1981
wrote: | don't blame yourself for
this. The first thing you have to do is
tell your parents, I know you don't want
to but you must. What this low down
piece of crap has done to you is an
unthinkable act. I completely understand
you wanting an abortion, I would want that
too.... Just please tell someone.
I'm so sorry that this has happened to you
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i dont want people to feel sorry for me,
there are so many girls out there who are
raped. I just need more help. I cant,
cant tell my parents, they will be so mad
and I dont even know what they would do.
I feel like it is 100% my fault. I just
cant get though this I can tell right now
I just cant.
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seksiHily
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Joined: 04 Apr 2005 Posts: 1015 Location: MN
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Posted: 07-29-05 22:59pm
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Its not your fault, at all... Thats what
he wants you to think.
You have awhile to decide what you want to
do, im guessing, how far along are you?
I live in minnesota too (the twin cities)
and im sure theres places that can help
you. What area are you from?
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brokenlife
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Joined: 29 Jul 2005 Posts: 11 Location: Minnesota
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Posted: 07-29-05 23:08pm
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| seksihily
wrote: | its not your fault, at
all... Thats what he wants you to think.
You have awhile to decide what you want to
do, im guessing, how far along are you?
I live in minnesota too (the twin cities)
and im sure theres places that can help
you. What area are you
from? |
i am around 10 weeks...I live int he
southeast not my best friend just said he
doesnt want to be involved I cant deal
with this without him
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tennisgirl17
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Joined: 25 Jul 2005 Posts: 17
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Posted: 07-29-05 23:57pm
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You have got to tell your parents, this is
not your fault. The daster you tell them
the easier it will be on them and you. I
sorry to hear about the rape but tell your
parents ask a friend to come with you
because it will make it easier tahn all of
you. Good luck
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DaliciaLynn
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Joined: 29 Jul 2005 Posts: 2322 Location: Missouri
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Posted: 07-30-05 01:10am
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You have to be 18 to get an abortion, or a
parents signature if your underage, and
proof it's your parent. Otherwise it's
illegal.
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nikki90022003
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Joined: 28 Jul 2005 Posts: 5
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Posted: 07-30-05 01:29am
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Hey I know what ur goin thought but the
one thing u can do is blame ur self I was
raped when I was 14 by this I at a party
he was alot older then me I told my mom
cause she was the closes one to me she
helped alot im here if u want to talk
aboutit its not easy I started somkin weed
and spent some nights locked up cause that
was my way to get a way but I told my mom
and she helped alot and I felt alot beter
dont blame ur self u need help
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michelle1981
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Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 7236 Location: Toronto, Canada
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Posted: 07-30-05 07:01am
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We're not trying to treat you like some
poor charity case that we pity. We want
for you to get help and feel safe and
secure. We don't want for this to
continuously destroy your life. Everytime
he wants a piece of ass from you he
demolishes a piece inside of you. You
have to stop him!!! To do this you have
to tell your parents. You feel as if
they'll blame you for this, they won't.
You're only 15, pregnant unwillingly and
drinking and smoking to hide the pain
you're feeling.
Stop blaming yourself and help yourself.
If you want to talk outside this...
Mi
chelle_gc04@hotmail.Com
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seksiHily
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Joined: 04 Apr 2005 Posts: 1015 Location: MN
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Posted: 07-30-05 16:35pm
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| brokenlife
wrote: | | seksihily
wrote: | its not your fault, at
all... Thats what he wants you to
think.
You have awhile to decide what you want to
do, im guessing, how far along are you?
I live in minnesota too (the twin cities)
and im sure theres places that can help
you. What area are you
from? |
i am around 10 weeks...I live int he
southeast not my best friend just said he
doesnt want to be involved I cant deal
with this without
him |
i agree he's not being a good friend.
Southeast... Like leseur/mankato south?
Im sorry, I suck at cities besides the
ones in the twin cities.
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broadcastedlife
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Joined: 15 Aug 2003 Posts: 183 Location: babenhausen, Germany
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Posted: 07-31-05 10:05am
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If you decide to get an abortion you
should let your parents know what
happened. Its not easy I agree. I had
gotten preg. By rape. Abortion never
crossed my mind, I miscarried, but I had
alot od depresson problems from this, and
tried commiting suicide. Its never a good
thing to go through something that hard
without anyone. If your parents knew what
happened they would understand what your
going through. Abortions arn't cheap,
you'll need to have your parents pay for
it. It's not like you can get a job and
pay for it yourself. You have a living
baby in your tummy, and if you decide to
terminate his/her life, you can't wait
forever. I'm not one to agree with
abortion, but this has its exceptions.
I'm sorry this happened to you. I really
am, but you need to be a big girl and tell
your parents and the police. This could
happen to another person.
Your selfishness for not contacting the
police or your parents could lead in
another girl getting raped and pregnant.
Also, not taking care of yourself while
your pregnant, can be life threatening. I
suggest you stop drinking and smoking
right now, its not even healthy for you
when your not pregnant.
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seksiHily
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Joined: 04 Apr 2005 Posts: 1015 Location: MN
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Posted: 07-31-05 13:00pm
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You might want to call planned parenthood
u can find the closest clinic by calling
1-800-230-7526. They can help you decide
what you want to do next.
You need to stop drinking and smoking, for
your sake too.
You should tell your parents, talking to a
counselor or therapist may help a great
deal
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brokenlife
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Jul 2005 Posts: 11 Location: Minnesota
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Posted: 08-02-05 12:34pm
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Im not sure if I can do it...My friend is
handling the abortion part...Im so scared
and im unsure of what to do but um... Im
just really messed up. My friend I was
talking about...We havnt spoke yet....It
sucks and I misss him so much!
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jesticle
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 May 2005 Posts: 153 Location: Australia
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Posted: 08-03-05 17:11pm
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I understand that your scared I was raped
a few years ago and thought I was pregnant
I was where you are at the moment I was so
scared to tell my mum so I told the police
about it I had to have someone over 18
with me so I took a family friend I
explained everything to the police and
they called my mum in and explained it to
her she was upset as any mother would be
but she was also upset because I felt I
couldnt tell her myself it came out that I
wasn't pregnant but the guy got 5 years in
prison no-one deserves to be sexually
assulted you've gotta keep tellin yourself
it wasn't your fault it never was and it
never will be ok darl I think you need to
speak to someone about this a friend,
family member, councellor, teacher anyone
you will feel a little better talking
about it. If you need someone to talk to
online its jess
mcgowan87@yahoo.Com
take care and be strong
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IDABABY
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brokenlife
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Joined: 29 Jul 2005 Posts: 11 Location: Minnesota
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I Did It
Posted: 08-05-05 21:03pm
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I did it...I cryed through the hole thing,
its terrible. I am so messed up im not
sure if I regret it or am happy I did it.
My friend still isnt talking to me and im
like crushed I cant think at all... Yea
thats what my lifes like right now....
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