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brokenlife

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Raped...and Pregnant
Posted: 07-29-05 16:03pm

I am 15, I was raped three times, the first about 3 months ago the latest about two and a half weeks ago. I have been trying to get though with this on my own, my parents dont know, just a couple close friends. I have been drinking and smoking to try to get though this. My period was late, I have been having really bad headachs, so my friend told me to take a preg. Test. I did and it was positive. Then I took another one hoping the results would be different, but it was the same. I have no idea what to do because my parents cannot find out. Im to scared to do anything and I know I should tell my parents, and the cops but I cant. I am way to scared and I know nothing will be done about it. I plan on having an abortion but I have no idea what to do. Can somone try to give me some advice. I need some so bad and im so confused about life. Thanks
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justacanadiangirl

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Posted: 07-29-05 18:03pm

First off, all I can say is, u have to tell ur parents. And the police. Maybe if u had done that the first time, u wouldn't have been raped again, and u wouldn't be pregnant. Good luck.
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brokenlife

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Posted: 07-29-05 18:34pm

What if I just have an abortion, noone has to know. My parents found out, when my sister was pregnant at 16...It was a really bad deal. She had it and things turned out. I just cant deal with this at all... I know its my fault that al lthis is happeneing but I just have to get thought it right? I didnt mean for this to happen
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Posted: 07-29-05 18:36pm

You really should tell your parents. I dont know if its the same in the us but here if u have an abortion, u need parental consent for under the age of 18. Anf if your 15, u'll need a parent to go with you. And it can be quite expensive... Can u talk to an adult or anyone u know?
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brokenlife

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Posted: 07-29-05 18:38pm

babyrae wrote:
you really should tell your parents. I dont know if its the same in the us but here if u have an abortion, u need parental consent for under the age of 18. Anf if your 15, u'll need a parent to go with you. And it can be quite expensive... Can u talk to an adult or anyone u know?


i cant tell my parents....And I want to tell an adult if they wouldnt tell my parents, but I cant think of anyone that wouldnt. I can get an abortion, even if im 15. I have the money to do this also.... I just have no idea I mean its killing my baby but I dont want it at all
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michelle1981

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Posted: 07-29-05 21:07pm

Don't blame yourself for this. The first thing you have to do is tell your parents, I know you don't want to but you must. What this low down piece of crap has done to you is an unthinkable act. I completely understand you wanting an abortion, I would want that too.... Just please tell someone.
I'm so sorry that this has happened to you :(
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brokenlife

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Posted: 07-29-05 21:49pm

michelle1981 wrote:
don't blame yourself for this. The first thing you have to do is tell your parents, I know you don't want to but you must. What this low down piece of crap has done to you is an unthinkable act. I completely understand you wanting an abortion, I would want that too.... Just please tell someone.
I'm so sorry that this has happened to you :(


i dont want people to feel sorry for me, there are so many girls out there who are raped. I just need more help. I cant, cant tell my parents, they will be so mad and I dont even know what they would do. I feel like it is 100% my fault. I just cant get though this I can tell right now I just cant.
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seksiHily

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Posted: 07-29-05 22:59pm

Its not your fault, at all... Thats what he wants you to think.
You have awhile to decide what you want to do, im guessing, how far along are you?
I live in minnesota too (the twin cities) and im sure theres places that can help you. What area are you from?
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brokenlife

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Posted: 07-29-05 23:08pm

seksihily wrote:
its not your fault, at all... Thats what he wants you to think.
You have awhile to decide what you want to do, im guessing, how far along are you?

I live in minnesota too (the twin cities) and im sure theres places that can help you. What area are you from?


i am around 10 weeks...I live int he southeast not my best friend just said he doesnt want to be involved I cant deal with this without him
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tennisgirl17

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Posted: 07-29-05 23:57pm

You have got to tell your parents, this is not your fault. The daster you tell them the easier it will be on them and you. I sorry to hear about the rape but tell your parents ask a friend to come with you because it will make it easier tahn all of you. Good luck
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DaliciaLynn

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Posted: 07-30-05 01:10am

You have to be 18 to get an abortion, or a parents signature if your underage, and proof it's your parent. Otherwise it's illegal.
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nikki90022003

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Posted: 07-30-05 01:29am

Hey I know what ur goin thought but the one thing u can do is blame ur self I was raped when I was 14 by this I at a party he was alot older then me I told my mom cause she was the closes one to me she helped alot im here if u want to talk aboutit its not easy I started somkin weed and spent some nights locked up cause that was my way to get a way but I told my mom and she helped alot and I felt alot beter dont blame ur self u need help
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michelle1981

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Posted: 07-30-05 07:01am

We're not trying to treat you like some poor charity case that we pity. We want for you to get help and feel safe and secure. We don't want for this to continuously destroy your life. Everytime he wants a piece of ass from you he demolishes a piece inside of you. You have to stop him!!! To do this you have to tell your parents. You feel as if they'll blame you for this, they won't.
You're only 15, pregnant unwillingly and drinking and smoking to hide the pain you're feeling.
Stop blaming yourself and help yourself.
If you want to talk outside this...
Mi chelle_gc04@hotmail.Com
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seksiHily

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Posted: 07-30-05 16:35pm

brokenlife wrote:
seksihily wrote:
its not your fault, at all... Thats what he wants you to think.
You have awhile to decide what you want to do, im guessing, how far along are you?


I live in minnesota too (the twin cities) and im sure theres places that can help you. What area are you from?


i am around 10 weeks...I live int he southeast not my best friend just said he doesnt want to be involved I cant deal with this without him

i agree he's not being a good friend. Southeast... Like leseur/mankato south? Im sorry, I suck at cities besides the ones in the twin cities.
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broadcastedlife

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Posted: 07-31-05 10:05am

If you decide to get an abortion you should let your parents know what happened. Its not easy I agree. I had gotten preg. By rape. Abortion never crossed my mind, I miscarried, but I had alot od depresson problems from this, and tried commiting suicide. Its never a good thing to go through something that hard without anyone. If your parents knew what happened they would understand what your going through. Abortions arn't cheap, you'll need to have your parents pay for it. It's not like you can get a job and pay for it yourself. You have a living baby in your tummy, and if you decide to terminate his/her life, you can't wait forever. I'm not one to agree with abortion, but this has its exceptions. I'm sorry this happened to you. I really am, but you need to be a big girl and tell your parents and the police. This could happen to another person.
Your selfishness for not contacting the police or your parents could lead in another girl getting raped and pregnant. Also, not taking care of yourself while your pregnant, can be life threatening. I suggest you stop drinking and smoking right now, its not even healthy for you when your not pregnant.
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seksiHily

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Posted: 07-31-05 13:00pm

You might want to call planned parenthood u can find the closest clinic by calling 1-800-230-7526. They can help you decide what you want to do next.
You need to stop drinking and smoking, for your sake too.
You should tell your parents, talking to a counselor or therapist may help a great deal
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brokenlife

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Posted: 08-02-05 12:34pm

Im not sure if I can do it...My friend is handling the abortion part...Im so scared and im unsure of what to do but um... Im just really messed up. My friend I was talking about...We havnt spoke yet....It sucks and I misss him so much!
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jesticle

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Posted: 08-03-05 17:11pm

I understand that your scared I was raped a few years ago and thought I was pregnant I was where you are at the moment I was so scared to tell my mum so I told the police about it I had to have someone over 18 with me so I took a family friend I explained everything to the police and they called my mum in and explained it to her she was upset as any mother would be but she was also upset because I felt I couldnt tell her myself it came out that I wasn't pregnant but the guy got 5 years in prison no-one deserves to be sexually assulted you've gotta keep tellin yourself it wasn't your fault it never was and it never will be ok darl I think you need to speak to someone about this a friend, family member, councellor, teacher anyone you will feel a little better talking about it. If you need someone to talk to online its jess mcgowan87@yahoo.Com
take care and be strong
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IDABABY

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Posted: 08-03-05 17:38pm

That is horrible
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brokenlife

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I Did It
Posted: 08-05-05 21:03pm

I did it...I cryed through the hole thing, its terrible. I am so messed up im not sure if I regret it or am happy I did it. My friend still isnt talking to me and im like crushed I cant think at all... Yea thats what my lifes like right now....
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