I'm 16 And Want to Become Pregnant! Posted: 07-29-05 16:39pm
Hello. I already know what your thinking
i'm confused and don't know what I want
and am just too young, well your kinda
right I am confused I want a baby and I
have these strong feelings about having
one and then again I know it is wrong and
I am young. Let me tell you everything
and hopefully you can help me out and give
me a little advice. I am only 15 actually
I will be 16 in a month, I have a fiance'
who I will be marrying in september, he is
in the military and I currently have no
job till I turn 16. I am on homeschool in
10 grade and will be doing 10 and 11 this
year. We both want one and have
occasionally talked about it but I would
like to hear how some other people feel
about it. Please let me know how you feel
and tell it like it is. I hope to hear
from yall soon.
Thanks!
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mhg2006
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Posted: 07-29-05 17:11pm
You are not yet 16 and engaged? How old
is this guy? Do you love him? Wow, are
you sure you want this; marriage and a
family so young? Is this the first guy
you've ever been with? I can't tell you
how to live your life nor do I want to.
I just think you're too young for all of
this. I've seen some people get married
real young have a child and seperate all
too soon. Think about this long and
hard. Maybe talk to your mom, if you two
are close? I hope things work out for
you though. Good luck.
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 07-29-05 18:01pm
Read 13 and want a baby and 15 and want a
baby ...A year doesnt make a difference.
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tennisgirl17
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Posted: 07-30-05 00:04am
Well I am shocked since you are my age and
engages but whatever floats your boat but
having a baby at 16 is way tyo young I
know I want a baby too but how are u
going to go to univercity or college?
That is major once your done school have
as many babies as u want.
Your only 15, you don't even know the
meaning of love.
You young girls are saying you want a baby
to keep your man but dont realize it does
nothing but scare them away.
Do me a favor, get a full time job, come
on time everyday and do the job good,
within a week you'll complain about how
tired you are and you'll end up quitting,
you cant quit on your child, you cant give
up on your child because your baby needs
you.
Your a kid and your still growing
yourself.
You can't do anything when you have a
baby, say bye to partying, and if you
think your going to have a baby and go to
school, think again because being a mom is
a full time job, you and your "fiance"
wont have any time for yourselves except
for the small 20 minute naps the baby
takes.
How old is your boyfriend? In most states
it's illegal to have sex with anyone
that's 18 and older, when you have a baby
you give them the fathers name, bam hes
put in jail for child molestation.
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confused_2005
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Posted: 07-30-05 01:29am
Hello dalicialynn guess what go read about
the laws I can get married at 16 and like
I said I am only 15 turn 16 in a month and
getting married in september do the math
and all I need is a parent signature and
another thing I dont want to have a baby
just because I think thats going to keep
my man around maybe thats how you think
and thats what you want to do or did
because you said it wont keep them around
so that means you know first hand right
becuase you know if your smart you cant go
around believing everything you hear and
everybodys different anyways but go deal
with your own problems instead of bringing
them to me ok you cant give advice if you
dont have any because throughing your
problems at me cause thats what you want
aint advice think about it o yea dont
tell me I dont know what love is you aint
me alright so dont try to think you know
what im thinking or how I feel you cant
you never will and yes I dont give up and
if you knew me you would know that one I
work my hardest and to my full potiental a
kid yea right I may be young but mature
alright and again if you knew me you would
know that one too and also like I said my
man is in the military so I am covered to
an extent and my man gets paid better
money than you ever will probly and im
sorry if you dont got it as good as me but
I dont want to hear your caca ok "fiance"
you got that one right nothing less and
soon to be much more like "husband" can
you say that I bet not and my man cant go
to jail if we are married so go figure
thanks for your problems! Not!!!!
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justacanadiangirl
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Posted: 07-30-05 04:02am
No need to get pissy. She's just trying
to give u some advice and her opinion. If
u didn't wanna hear opinions why did u
post?
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babyrae
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Posted: 07-30-05 06:26am
Hmm well.. Let me tell u something. I
was preg at 16 and thought I was in love
with the guy and would spend the rest of
my life with him. Things happened and I
ended up not keeping the baby and to this
day, me and that guy dont even talk. At
18 I had a baby with my new man who ive
been with for 2 years. And I can tell u
how much u change.. But I still think I
was too young to have a child. Im still a
child myself! But im just saying.. U get
married at 16.. Say it doesnt work.. U
wanna be divorced at 17 years old??? And
maybe even left with a child???
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broadcastedlife
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Posted: 07-31-05 10:16am
Wow, im ashamed. I am 16 married and
preg. My husband is in the army and we
got married janurary 7th 2005. We decided
we wanted a child, but wanted to make sure
we were financially stable. We decided we
could afford a baby and we tired. I found
out I was pregnant may 13th. I am
thrilled, even though my husband isn't
here for my pregnany. ( he's in iraq).
I just want to tell you, make sure you
love each other. None of this, I love him
so much I cant live without him crap. I
mean ture honest to god love. The kind of
love to where if she got hurt ytou'd take
on 3 jobs, and not make him feel bad for
it. The kind of love where you know its
goingto last.
My husband and I were togeather for 2
years and a month before we got married.
We experianced living togeather, both
working full time jobs. Paying alot of
bills, not having aot of money. We went
through alot, and we still wanted to get
married. I'm happy for you and you two
realy wanna make it work, I really am. We
both decided a divorce wouldn't be an
option for us. We didn't get married to
get divroced.
Either way, I hope you make the right
choice, and congrats.
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mommabear16
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Re: .. Posted: 07-31-05 11:35am
dalicialynn
wrote:
you can't get married until
your 18.
Your only 15, you don't even know the
meaning of love.
You young girls are saying you want a baby
to keep your man but dont realize it does
nothing but scare them away.
Do me a favor, get a full time job, come
on time everyday and do the job good,
within a week you'll complain about how
tired you are and you'll end up quitting,
you cant quit on your child, you cant give
up on your child because your baby needs
you.
Your a kid and your still growing
yourself.
You can't do anything when you have a
baby, say bye to partying, and if you
think your going to have a baby and go to
school, think again because being a mom is
a full time job, you and your "fiance"
wont have any time for yourselves except
for the small 20 minute naps the baby
takes.
How old is your boyfriend? In most
states it's illegal to have sex with
anyone that's 18 and older, when you have
a baby you give them the fathers name, bam
hes put in jail for child
molestation.
the thing is...You can get married before
you are 18 years old, and if her boyfriend
is older than 18, if her mother approves
of her getting married then obviously she
aproves of her
fiance..Boyfriend..Whatever..And bullsh*t
about going to school..She can go to
school. It's called daycare...And most
highschools these days have a daycare. So
don't implant that in her head. She can
graduate. I hate people who sit there and
freaking..Put teen mothers down pretty
much."you cant go to school because you
have a baby!!!!!" whatever. I know teen
mothers who makes something of themselves
(ie me)
and I agree with shauna(babyrae)..Of
course :p
but anway..So many teen girls these days
think that it comes easy..Bah my son is 17
months going through his terrible twos
early...And it's driving me
insiain!!!!!It's not all puppies and
rainbows, chick...It's hard hard stuff!
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broadcastedlife
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Re: .. Posted: 07-31-05 12:08pm
dalicialynn
wrote:
you can't get married until
your 18.
Your only 15, you don't even know the
meaning of love.
You young girls are saying you want a baby
to keep your man but dont realize it does
nothing but scare them away.
Do me a favor, get a full time job, come
on time everyday and do the job good,
within a week you'll complain about how
tired you are and you'll end up quitting,
you cant quit on your child, you cant give
up on your child because your baby needs
you.
Your a kid and your still growing
yourself.
You can't do anything when you have a
baby, say bye to partying, and if you
think your going to have a baby and go to
school, think again because being a mom is
a full time job, you and your "fiance"
wont have any time for yourselves except
for the small 20 minute naps the baby
takes.
How old is your boyfriend? In most
states it's illegal to have sex with
anyone that's 18 and older, when you have
a baby you give them the fathers name, bam
hes put in jail for child
molestation.
i honestly don't know what to say. You
can get married when your under 18. I got
married when I was 16, my husband is 21.
Yeah I dont have anything else to say.
As I said, in most states it's illegal,
i'm not saying it's impossible.
You look at the laws.
I'm going to be a young mom and for
getting the facts clear, my father of the
baby did not leave me, he passed away a
couple of weeks before I found out I was
pregnant.
When I got pregnant, I was on birth
control, I was responsible enough to make
the right choice, if your that young and
saying you want to become pregnant, then
you dont need to be having sex in the
first place.
Daycare? Do you know how much daycare's
are!? A 15 year old isn't going to be
able to afford that, a grown adult barely
can. My friend had a baby at 14 and a
half, the state took her baby away for
being so young because she was claimed as
an unfit parent.
Babies are needy and need you 24/7, go
play with your dolls.
For the sake of your life and the child's
wait until your older, it will give the
baby a better chance at life.
I've just turned 17 and i'm 3 months
pregnant I already love this unborn baby
but know I could have given it a better
life if I was older and more responsible,
in 6 months I have to mature in many ways
that I never knew even existed.
You have to be emotionally and physically
ready for this, your young. You still
throw fits, what are you gonna do when the
baby keeps trying, you try everything but
it doesnt stop crying? Are you going to
give it to your mom?
And to make a point, go to your local
store, look how exspensive baby things
actually cost, a thing of diapers is 10-11
dollars, question is, is your boyfriend
going to be able to afford all of that,
and support for you and him both. None of
you know how hard it is to live because
you still live with your parents and have
support, it's harder than it looks, kid!
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broadcastedlife
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Re: ... Posted: 08-01-05 03:35am
dalicialynn
wrote:
as I said, in most states
it's illegal, i'm not saying it's
impossible.
You look at the laws.
I'm going to be a young mom and for
getting the facts clear, my father of the
baby did not leave me, he passed away a
couple of weeks before I found out I was
pregnant.
When I got pregnant, I was on birth
control, I was responsible enough to make
the right choice, if your that young and
saying you want to become pregnant, then
you dont need to be having sex in the
first place.
Daycare? Do you know how much daycare's
are!? A 15 year old isn't going to be
able to afford that, a grown adult barely
can. My friend had a baby at 14 and a
half, the state took her baby away for
being so young because she was claimed as
an unfit parent.
Babies are needy and need you 24/7, go
play with your dolls.
For the sake of your life and the child's
wait until your older, it will give the
baby a better chance at life.
I've just turned 17 and i'm 3 months
pregnant I already love this unborn baby
but know I could have given it a better
life if I was older and more responsible,
in 6 months I have to mature in many ways
that I never knew even existed.
You have to be emotionally and physically
ready for this, your young. You still
throw fits, what are you gonna do when the
baby keeps trying, you try everything but
it doesnt stop crying? Are you going to
give it to your mom?
And to make a point, go to your local
store, look how exspensive baby things
actually cost, a thing of diapers is 10-11
dollars, question is, is your boyfriend
going to be able to afford all of that,
and support for you and him both. None
of you know how hard it is to live because
you still live with your parents and have
support, it's harder than it looks,
kid!
i'm hoping that your post was directed
towards the original poster and not me,
because I live on my own right now. My
husband and I have a duplex, and he'd in
iraq right now. I live I don't know how
many miles away from my family. Iowa to
germany? I know how expensive its going
to be, that's why we waited till he had a
job to financially support not only him
and myself, but our baby too.
I don't think your post was directed
towards me becasue of the father comment.
Sorry if I came off rude. Sorry to hear
about your loss.
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 08-01-05 11:35am
Id just like to say just because your
husband is in the military doesnt mean you
all have money. I know so many military
family on food stamps it is not even
funny. A lot of guys in the military
(the young ones just starting off ) dont
make crap for money. I am a military
wife so do not tell me I dont know about
this sort of thing. Do you really want
to raise this baby all by yourself,
because guess what sweetheart that is what
is going to happen, my sister gives birth
to her second daughter in october and you
think her husband gets to be there for her
birth...Nope. He left when she was 3
months pregnant and wont be back until the
baby is one month old. My sisters 2 year
old, well he has been around about 6
months of her life. You need to know
what your getting yourself into, because
you essentially are going to be a single
parent. But your 15 and know it all
right? You asked for advise, listen to
it. You know what I am damn proud to be
a military wife, I adore my husband and
would do anything for him but its hard.
I have had 4 brothers in the service, and
I am married to a marine, I know how it
is. Obviously you do not.
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 08-01-05 11:36am
Also just wait until you go in to use your
tri care. The military nurses will see
how old you are and that your married and
will treat you like sh*t.
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broadcastedlife
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Posted: 08-01-05 12:31pm
vanessalouanne
wrote:
id just like to say just
because your husband is in the military
doesnt mean you all have money. I know
so many military family on food stamps it
is not even funny. A lot of guys in
the military (the young ones just starting
off ) dont make crap for money. I am a
military wife so do not tell me I dont
know about this sort of thing. Do you
really want to raise this baby all by
yourself, because guess what sweetheart
that is what is going to happen, my sister
gives birth to her second daughter in
october and you think her husband gets to
be there for her birth...Nope. He left
when she was 3 months pregnant and wont be
back until the baby is one month old.
My sisters 2 year old, well he has been
around about 6 months of her life. You
need to know what your getting yourself
into, because you essentially are going to
be a single parent. But your 15 and
know it all right? You asked for
advise, listen to it. You know what I
am damn proud to be a military wife, I
adore my husband and would do anything for
him but its hard. I have had 4 brothers
in the service, and I am married to a
marine, I know how it is. Obviously
you do not.
ahaha I hope that wasnt for me. I'm not
15 so I dont think so. My husband had
beenn in for 4 years too. I was so mad
when I read that, but I honestly dont
think it was for me. Ear it up for me, k
. Please thanks.
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 08-01-05 13:01pm
It was not for you. No worries, im just
trying to tell this girl who thinks she
has it made because she is marrying a
private in the service, that money wont be
an issue. My husband works two jobs andi
have a really good job, thats the only
reason that we are as well off as we are.
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Posted: 08-01-05 13:02pm
confused_2005
wrote:
hello dalicialynn guess what
go read about the laws I can get married
at 16 and like I said I am only 15 turn 16
in a month and getting married in
september do the math and all I need is a
parent signature and another thing I dont
want to have a baby just because I think
thats going to keep my man around maybe
thats how you think and thats what you
want to do or did because you said it wont
keep them around so that means you know
first hand right becuase you know if your
smart you cant go around believing
everything you hear and everybodys
different anyways but go deal with your
own problems instead of bringing them to
me ok you cant give advice if you dont
have any because throughing your problems
at me cause thats what you want aint
advice think about it o yea dont tell me
I dont know what love is you aint me
alright so dont try to think you know what
im thinking or how I feel you cant you
never will and yes I dont give up and if
you knew me you would know that one I work
my hardest and to my full potiental a kid
yea right I may be young but mature
alright and again if you knew me you would
know that one too and also like I
said my man is in the military so I am
covered to an extent and my man gets paid
better money than you ever will probly and
im sorry if you dont got it as good as me
but I dont want to hear your health
question ok "fiance" you got that one
right nothing less and soon to be much
more like "husband" can you say that I bet
not and my man cant go to jail if we are
married so go figure
thanks for your problems!
Not!!!!
see what I mean
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broadcastedlife
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Joined: 15 Aug 2003 Posts: 183 Location: babenhausen, Germany
Posted: 08-01-05 13:02pm
vanessalouanne
wrote:
it was not for you. No
worries, im just trying to tell this girl
who thinks she has it made because she is
marrying a private in the service, that
money wont be an issue. My husband
works two jobs andi have a really good
job, thats the only reason that we are as
well off as we
are.
very true. I was thinking like, "hey I
know all of this already, why are you
telling me lie I hae no iea" :p. Haha I
was hoping it wasnt directed towrds me :
d.
Btw, how are you doing?! Have you started
trying yet?
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broadcastedlife
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Posted: 08-01-05 13:05pm
vanessalouanne
wrote:
confused_2005
wrote:
hello dalicialynn guess what
go read about the laws I can get married
at 16 and like I said I am only 15 turn 16
in a month and getting married in
september do the math and all I need is a
parent signature and another thing I dont
want to have a baby just because I think
thats going to keep my man around maybe
thats how you think and thats what you
want to do or did because you said it wont
keep them around so that means you know
first hand right becuase you know if your
smart you cant go around believing
everything you hear and everybodys
different anyways but go deal with your
own problems instead of bringing them to
me ok you cant give advice if you dont
have any because throughing your problems
at me cause thats what you want aint
advice think about it o yea dont tell me
I dont know what love is you aint me
alright so dont try to think you know what
im thinking or how I feel you cant you
never will and yes I dont give up and if
you knew me you would know that one I work
my hardest and to my full potiental a kid
yea right I may be young but mature
alright and again if you knew me you would
know that one too and also like I
said my man is in the military so I am
covered to an extent and my man gets paid
better money than you ever will probly and
im sorry if you dont got it as good as me
but I dont want to hear your health
question ok "fiance" you got that one
right nothing less and soon to be much
more like "husband" can you say that I bet
not and my man cant go to jail if we are
married so go figure
thanks for your problems!
Not!!!!
hmm, well I was going to say he's not a
private. We talked, and I think he's been
in for two years. But that comment wasnt
very nice at all!!