I know this isn't the right place to post
this, but there is no child care topic
anywheres.
Anyhow, can anyone tell me the signs that
a two year old is being molested?..Take
into mind that he isn't talking much yet,
and can't say for himself either way.
My sister has a live in male nanny, who is
in his late 50's, and is gay. For the
last little bit, her son has been acting
very strange when she changes him...Ie..He
is putting her hand on his penis, crying
when she wash's him. He has also had
sore marks on his testicles and penis too.
And the nanny seems a little shady to me.
And he is starting to creep out my
sister too.
She hasn't installed a nanny cam yet.
And you can't just fire a person without
"just cause"..So she has to catch him in
the act. She could let him go..But she
would have to give him 2 months
notice...And if he is doing
something..That is a long time for her 2
year old, and newborn daughter to go being
molested.
And if he is doing sometime to her
kids...He's better off killing
himself..Before her husband gets a hold of
him.
Any thoughts or ideas would be a great
help..Thanks!!
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Spanky2005
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Jul 2005 Posts: 78 Location: Philadelphia
Fire Him Now! Posted: 07-30-05 14:08pm
Is your sister seriously out of her mind?
She has to "catch him in the act" before
she fires him?
I can understand if someone is stealing
money and you want to "catch him in the
act" stealing. That would be ok, but in
this case, the "act" is something you
cannot allow your child to go through.
I would say if she has the slightest
suspicion about the nanny, fire him
immediately. Tell her to find an older
female nanny....
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Sammy001
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Joined: 18 Jun 2005 Posts: 711 Location: ,
Posted: 07-31-05 08:52am
I think so too. Her and her husband are
hiring a private investigator..And went to
see a lawyer..In the mean time..I am
looking after the babies...So we can all
breathe a sign of relief.
I thought the babysitter was a little odd
from the first time I met him..But their
son loved him...Now he cries everytime you
leave the room and he's alone with the
nanny.
So something must be going on.
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Sammy001
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Joined: 18 Jun 2005 Posts: 711 Location: ,
Posted: 07-31-05 09:09am
Well..My sis's husband will kill him, and
my husband will probablky have a round,
then my brother, and father...And all
their firends..So the guys better off dead
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serious worrier
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Oh Hell Nah Posted: 08-01-05 21:10pm
Im sorry but when it comes to your child
any instict you have you should go for.
Put in mind he is not able to talk and
stand up for him self so you would have
to. Theres no such thing as "catch him in
the act" and "nanny cam" or "2months
notice" your just putting your child in
even more danger and not having his well
being in mind fire hiss a** and soon. Im
pretty sure if he is doing this he will
not take you to court for unjustly fireing
him last thing he needs is an
investigation. Trust your instincts nad
nipp it in the bud now before you'll be
sharing the guilt for not stopping it
sooner please. Poor baby.
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mymiracle8904
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Joined: 01 Aug 2005 Posts: 7 Location: corbin, Ky
Posted: 08-01-05 23:05pm
I def. Think he should be fired now just
because of the suspiscion to much is
happening these days to kids! Lots of
sick nasty people out there!!!!!!!!!!!!
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twinklegirl
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Joined: 02 Aug 2005 Posts: 4
Posted: 08-02-05 15:38pm
If your sister even suspects that there is
an issue with the nanny she needs to fire
him and go to the police. Who knows how
many other kids he may have hurt. My
siblings and I were molested by a baby
sitter when we were children and it has
affected the whole family. Some of my
siblings even went on to molest and in one
case rape others. I know because I was a
victim until I was 16 and lived every day
in a hell. I still deal with the shame
and humilation on a daily basis and it has
even had an effect on my marriage. Your
sisters child is two and if she is lucky
he won't remember 10 years from now. She
doesn't need a reason to fire this
guy-your sister should go immediately to
the er and have a doctor do a full exam on
her child. Then report her findings to
the police!
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justacanadiangirl
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Joined: 19 Nov 2004 Posts: 1803
Posted: 08-02-05 15:54pm
My cousin was molested by her babysitter
for months when she was a little girl.
But they finally figured it out and fired
the babysitter and charged him I think.
Actually no, it was the son of the
babysitter that was molesting her...I
don't remember what happened but they
charged the guy I think.
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 08-02-05 16:03pm
If it were my niece, this guy would
already be missing his man hood. It
would be buried in the backyard and then I
would of beat the holy hell out of him,
and this for just thinking he could of
hurt my baby. If he actually did..
Yeah. He would be done. I know this
is bad and I have nothing against
homosexuals usually but I would never of
hired a gay man to be the nanny of my
little boy. I mean I know it could be
anyone who molests a child but it seems a
little more risky to have this man.
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justacanadiangirl
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Joined: 19 Nov 2004 Posts: 1803
Posted: 08-03-05 05:03am
Well not that i'm supporting this but what
about male nannies with baby girls? Or
female nannies with boys? It's all the
same. Ur putting ur trust into someone to
care for ur child. But I know if I even
though someone was hurting my baby, they'd
be gone so fast.
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rae_06
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Joined: 22 Oct 2004 Posts: 219 Location: Iowa
Posted: 08-04-05 12:16pm
I was molested by my moms boyfriend from
the age 4-12. I was always really quiet
and I never said anything. I got scared
of my moms boyfriend and I didnt want him
to pick me up and I didnt want to go
anywhere with him, I would always cry.
Even before my mom would leave to go to
work, id cr because I didnt want to be
alone with him.Finally when I was 12 I was
sick of it, I had said somethin to my bfs
mom. I freaked out on my moms ex,
victor, and told him that if he ever
touched me again I was going to kill him
and I had a knife in my hand and I tried
to stab him and I almost shot him with a
gun. I hated him.Hed even whistle at me
and grab my ass....I told my mom that he
touched me and she slapped me and told me
never to say anything like that again.
Victors youngest son, aaron even did when
I was younger. I hate them both. I am
so happy that we moved away.Even when I
went to the doctor, he was a guy...I
started screaming once and crying cuz I
was scared..Men scared me for the longest
time and I looked at the as if there were
all perverts.
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Sammy001
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Joined: 18 Jun 2005 Posts: 711 Location: ,
Posted: 08-04-05 15:26pm
rae_06
wrote:
i was molested by my moms
boyfriend from the age 4-12. I was
always really quiet and I never said
anything. I got scared of my moms
boyfriend and I didnt want him to pick me
up and I didnt want to go anywhere with
him, I would always cry. Even before my
mom would leave to go to work, id cr
because I didnt want to be alone with
him.Finally when I was 12 I was sick of
it, I had said somethin to my bfs mom.
I freaked out on my moms ex, victor, and
told him that if he ever touched me again
I was going to kill him and I had a knife
in my hand and I tried to stab him and I
almost shot him with a gun. I hated
him.Hed even whistle at me and grab my
ass....I told my mom that he touched me
and she slapped me and told me never to
say anything like that again. Victors
youngest son, aaron even did when I was
younger. I hate them both. I am so
happy that we moved
away.
it's still not too late to go to the
police.... :evil:
