Angry/sad Cuz I Know Hes Lyin And Cheatin. Posted: 08-02-05 14:47pm
Ive been with this guy for like 10 months.
Recently I had gotten into his email
and seen an old message where it sounded
like he was breakin up with this girl at
the end of oct...Which we woulda just
started talkin. Well then I noticed
him sending her a sexual text message one
night awhile back, and he actually had me
drive him to her house one night (she
wasnt there) and he made me park on the
street so she couldnt see the car
(supposifly it was a guy that he was
needing to get money from). I didnt
know it was her house at first but I
figured it out and he lied to me about who
lived there, then I caught him there a
week later and he lied to me more. A
couple weekends ago we got into a big
fight about it cuz I seen more text
messages between him and her and he was
askin her out to lunch and she said she
had plans then he called and asked me!
It sounded like he had went to her job to
give her something. That same day
there was an email from her with a list of
shoes for her and her 2 kids (that arent
his). So that friday we got into a big
fight about it, I told him I was done and
he could go on and be with her cuz I wasnt
going to be second choice. Especially
since we've been talkin so long (and I
even got on the pill so we could stop
using condoms) and then all this is comin
up. Finally on sunday he calls and
gives me some bs about his brother thats
in prison and those are his kids and this
and that. But I dont believe it.
This really hurts cuz I was practically in
love with this guy. I cant understand
why he would keep lyin over and over when
he knows id do anything for him and id
never do him wrongly. I mean it sounds
like this girl just uses him and here I
am, not to brag but I feel like im a
pretty damn good girlfriend.
Maybe there is a chance hes not lyin but I
dont think it looks like it...Im not sure
what to do. I thought about talkin to
him about it and tellin him that its
driving me crazy and makin me not trust
him so he needs to do something to make me
feel more secure with it like call her and
kinda introduce us or something if she is
his brother g/f. If he wont do that I
think im going to have to be done...And if
it comes to that im tempted to call the
girl myself and see whats going on but im
afraid she'll be nasty!
I dont know...:( sorry for rambling and
any helpful advice is appreciated!
Oh yeah to add even more confusion...I
think he may be bipolar, (found some
bipolar meds). Plus he seems to say how
he feels smothered at times, when I have
backed off and usually dont call him and
wait for him to call me. If 1 day goes
by that I dont talk to him or call him,
he'll call me the next day and go on about
"who's his replacement"...I just dont get
it...:( he wants me then he doesnt...Then
it looks like hes messin with someone else
:(
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 08-02-05 15:50pm
My opinion is to go on and live your life
and do not wait for him, you might be
waiting your life away aand mr. Right
might be around the corner.
Good luck!
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 08-02-05 15:58pm
He sounds like the kind of guy that you do
not need in your life. I know you were
hoping for a more positive response but I
think its obvious that this guy has major
issues. Im sure you could find someone
else who would treat you the way you
deserve to be treated. It sounds like he
is really hung up on his ex girlfriend and
I am pretty sure that he is cheating on
you with her (or at least trying to) .
Get out while you still can. I understand
that you really like this guy but I think
that once you get away from being with him
and look back on how your relationship was
turning to the worse, youll understand
that it was the best possible thing for
you to leave. It sounds like a really
unhealthy relationship. You deserve
better. Good luck.
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lilmammi
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Aug 2005 Posts: 34 Location: ohio
Posted: 08-24-05 04:41am
vanessalouanne
wrote:
he sounds like the kind of
guy that you do not need in your life.
I know you were hoping for a more positive
response but I think its obvious that this
guy has major issues. Im sure you could
find someone else who would treat you the
way you deserve to be treated. It
sounds like he is really hung up on his ex
girlfriend and I am pretty sure that he is
cheating on you with her (or at least
trying to) . Get out while you still
can. I understand that you really like
this guy but I think that once you get
away from being with him and look back on
how your relationship was turning to the
worse, youll understand that it was the
best possible thing for you to leave.
It sounds like a really unhealthy
relationship. You deserve better.
Good luck.
sounds like a relationship I was in.
Maybe you should call the girl,better off
doing things on your own. Dont worry
about her getting nasty. Because if she
does then that should almost tell you
somthing is going on. It more than likely
wouldnt work u asking him to introduce you
to her. He would agree to it then more
than likely put it off. So do yourself a
favor and save yourself from any more
heartbreak!
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confused comrade
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Aug 2005 Posts: 7 Location: london
Posted: 08-24-05 17:47pm
Hey I know its mainly women/girls in here
but im desperate for some advice :( (and
to make it clear men can be no namers!)
i have this girlfriend right but shes
being really horrible to me, she's saying
stuff like I dont care about her anymore
which I do and I have shown it but theres
this other guy involved and shes saying
that he cares about her more than I do and
its getting me really worried that smthing
might happen between these two can someone
please help me and give me som advice on
what to do? Please :(
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confused comrade
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Aug 2005 Posts: 7 Location: london
Posted: 08-24-05 17:59pm
Btw yeah I agree u shud call her yourself
and see what happens if she gets nasty
then there might be somthinggoin on srry
:( good luck tho :)
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rainfalls
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Aug 2005 Posts: 24 Location: minnesota
Posted: 08-24-05 18:15pm
confused comrade
wrote:
hey I know its mainly
women/girls in here but im desperate for
some advice :( (and to make it clear men
can be no namers!)
i have this girlfriend right but shes
being really horrible to me, she's saying
stuff like I dont care about her anymore
which I do and I have shown it but theres
this other guy involved and shes saying
that he cares about her more than I do and
its getting me really worried that smthing
might happen between these two can someone
please help me and give me som advice on
what to do? Please
:(
easier said then done, but all you can do
is be the best boyfriend you can be and
let it go. What is going to happen will,
and worrying about it, watching her every
move wont help you or her. The more you
watch over her and ask questions the
farther it will push her away.
It sounds like she is insecure and there
isnt anything you can do. Sorry it isnt
more positive but I have been there
myself, do whatver you can to talk to
people, watch yourself, and take care of
yourself, and let what happens happens, if
something does, then it wasnt meant to be,
and if she treats you horrible, you have
to figure our why you think you should let
someone treat you bad? When you deserve
to be treated good. I know, easire said
then done. Try a 12 step group that
helped me.....
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rainfalls
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Aug 2005 Posts: 24 Location: minnesota
Nto What You Want to Hear Posted: 08-24-05 18:20pm
If he is going to be sneaky and lying
about these things it really doesnt matter
what he is really up to, I doubt it is his
brothers g/f. He sounds like he is very
confused, and needs mroe than one woman.
You wont be able to change him, and as
much as you love him , why let someone
treat you like that when you can do
better? But first ask yourself why you
would let someone treat you like that and
fix that before getting involved again.
I did the sdame thing with my ex for six
years, he lied and cheated, and broke my
heart over and over. It was enough, I
had enough and found something I wanted
more in life for me and my girls. But I
loved him like no other man, and men like
that are really good at being
manipulators, and cons. They are also
very charming and romantic, at least mine
was, and they are like this with any
woman. I thought it was just me, like
iwas specail to him, boy was I wrong.
Understand that he is loving you the best
he knows how, and it isnt going to change
until he wants too. If I was you I owuld
move on and truly find out why you would
be with someone like him? But you have
to do what you want and when you are
ready.
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confused comrade
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Aug 2005 Posts: 7 Location: london
Posted: 08-24-05 18:25pm
Ano but I feel inseccure aswell and thats
whats getting me down I feel as if I cant
lose her :( (whats the 12 steps?)
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~baby~g~
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2005 Posts: 221 Location: Ohio
Posted: 08-26-05 17:04pm
Hun, you're gonna feel that way right
now..But if something does happen, and you
2 end up splitting up, someday you will
realize it was for the best. When you
have another girl that loves you & you
love her you will look back & realize
you made a good decesion by breaking
things off. Plus give her some time,
treat her well, give her space & see
how things go. I'm obviously a girl &
I know at times I feel my bf don't care
about me, and I tell him that..But deep
down inside my heart I know he does &
I know we are meant to be. Someday you
will find the person you are supposed to
be with forever..Give it some time &
best wishes to you!
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lilmammi
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Aug 2005 Posts: 34 Location: ohio
Posted: 08-27-05 13:52pm
confused comrade
wrote:
hey I know its mainly
women/girls in here but im desperate for
some advice :( (and to make it clear men
can be no namers!)
i have this girlfriend right but shes
being really horrible to me, she's saying
stuff like I dont care about her anymore
which I do and I have shown it but theres
this other guy involved and shes saying
that he cares about her more than I do and
its getting me really worried that smthing
might happen between these two can someone
please help me and give me som advice on
what to do? Please
:(
i know what to do....Cause about 6 months
ago I did the exact same thing to my
b/f...And I really regretted it after it
was all done and said...Try to take her
try to have soem fun with her...Surprise
her..She's basicly acting that way because
she wants some fun excitement and maybe
they hang out alot or somthing...Wich u
should try to step in between and spend as
much time with her as she does with
him...So that she not only see's you do
care but u wanna be with her.
