My husband's sister is in a terribly
abusive relationship. She has been in
the hospital for 3 weeks now with a mental
breakdown (mainly we suspect brought on by
her common law husband).
He is unemployed, controls her feelings
and self worth, spends whatever money she
is able to make, has gotten them evicted
from 2 apartments, pawned her jewelry and
the list goes on and on....
Now he hasn't called her in 3 almost 4
days nor has he visited her in the
hospital once in the past week.
We know that if we push her too hard she
will become even more stubborn about
staying with him.
How do we support her while still
encouraging her to leave him?
Any suggestions from people that have been
through a similar problem is most
appreciated (both families or people from
abusive relationships). I have been in an
abusive relationship before but I don't
know if I should talk to her about mine or
if I should just be there for quiet
support. Would love anyones opinion on
this.
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cazza20
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Aug 2005 Posts: 28 Location: england
Abuse. Posted: 09-08-05 07:36am
You cant force someone to get out but you
can talk to them and try and offer all the
encouragement and support you can.I am
twenty one now but was bought up watching
my mother getting physically abused and I
was also abused by my father and I know if
she doesnt get out it will get worse and
it will start to wreck her life it has
mine get her out :(
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babycat03
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Sep 2005 Posts: 21 Location: michigan
Tell Her Posted: 09-13-05 16:55pm
Talk to her and tell her it will only get
worst. Let her know you will be there for
her , that is the main thing that I needed
to know that someone was there for me when
I needed them the most. I am sending
prayers.
