i think he means that when a
man watch porn it will build in his mind
the believe that the woman do whatever the
man want (women in porn do this), so he
will expect the same from his girl (which
is sometimes not possible) which then may
be causing problems because he didnt find
what he expected from his girl
it is a good
point
exactly. Thanks.
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Keehiaangel
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jul 2005 Posts: 184
? Posted: 08-26-05 12:32pm
Im confused so what us woman are not you
find in porn correct?
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sheepo
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Aug 2005 Posts: 10
Posted: 08-26-05 12:38pm
The women in porn are there to please
every man who watches it. To do that,
they need to use different methods or
"fetishes". I doubt the regular woman is
going to do these things for a man.
Seeing as their degradding and illmoral.
I know i'm glad that me and my girlfriend
dont do things that I see in porn.
When men watch porn they watch it to be
both entertained and to dream. Not that
you or any other woman are disapointing in
sex or foreplay, but a pornstar is willing
to do almost anything. I know for a fact
that a man doesn't need physical pleasure
from a spouse to get off, and I know i'm
not alone in knowing that.
To answer your question, no, regular women
are not what men would find in porn.
No offense intended.
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HeatherFine
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Aug 2005 Posts: 14 Location: Lock Haven, Pa
Re: First Update Posted: 08-26-05 13:24pm
emcsq
wrote:
the other night my boyfriend
& I got into another conflict. He
accused me of caring only about one thing,
which is sex. I told him that it isnt
the most important aspect of a
relationship, although it is extremely
important. He said I need to get over my
insecurities & get over myself.
We are in our mid-twenties and if we have
sex once a week that is an excellent
month! Obviously there is intimacy
issues, with the lack of physical contact
& the obsession with porn; but I do
love this person. I am going to have
his child. (we had sex once in the
month of june & look what happened)
we did engage in intercourse the other
evening....First time since I got
pregnant. It lasted 10 minutes & he
said: 'that should shut you up for while.'
this is going to be a long life, and I
dont want to be one of those girls who
cheats. Sorry to whine & bother;
just keeping you
updated.
any man who says "that
should shut you up awhile" should be
dumped yesterday. I am really happy you
are having a baby, but not by this friend.
You sound like beautiful girl, and you
dont need "mr. Porn" around you, or your
baby. Strap him with child support and
get the hell out of that relationship. He
doesnt appreciate you, and you need to
find a man that will. A real man, one
that maybe watches porn just a little, but
is totally turned on by you just walking
into the room in his t-shirt. I have been
with my man for 10 months, and we watch
porn together, but the thing that totally
turns him on is me in my panties walking
around in the living room. All I am
saying is dump the zero, and find a hero!!
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Keehiaangel
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jul 2005 Posts: 184
? Posted: 08-26-05 22:21pm
See that is what hurt I will do anything
for my husband I mean look I want to give
him everything he wants. Any thing that I
have seen pornstars do I will do for him
but yet he still wants it. I know he
hasnt ask for it in a month but he still
wants it.
:evil:
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samy444
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jun 2005 Posts: 72
Posted: 08-27-05 05:54am
Again dont push yourself too much, it is
really his problem not yours, in my
opinion it is not a solution to try to do
everything to him, the point is how to
attract him to you, actually in theory you
dont have to do that because if he really
loves you he will ofcourse enjoy being
with you 1000 times more than watching
fake orgasms from porn actress.
Not trying to put you down, but in my case
when I started loving my girl friend I
didnt even think about watching porn even
before we start sleeping together I found
it as a kind of cheat, even I stopped
masturbating because thinking about doing
it anther girl was cheating for me,
because I expect the same from her also
people are different, but I am sure if you
once while watching porn with him give a
comment like " wow, this man is really
hot, he has nice penis", I am sure he will
burn all the porn cds that he has
just an idea , may be will work
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samy444
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jun 2005 Posts: 72
Posted: 08-27-05 05:57am
He is distroying your confidence, so start
also making him lose confidence.
He really deserve it
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Keehiaangel
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jul 2005 Posts: 184
Confidence Posted: 08-27-05 19:35pm
I don't think that it is him I think it is
me. Like I told you yesterday I am the
one who is bipolar so I think it is me.
Really when a guy watches porn he is
imaging having sex with her is that why a
man would want virtual porn were it only
focus on the woman doing stuff to the man?
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TwoTony
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Aug 2005 Posts: 4
I Do Belive You Have a Serious Problem Posted: 08-28-05 00:13am
If he had sex with you just to "shut you
up for a while"
it is going to be live long unless he gets
professional help or you dump him
he's obviously a porn addict and yes it's
a real addiction.
In where the person becomes detached from
reality and desensitized from real none
super airburshed 2ton of make up wear
vapid women with nothing more to say that
"bend me over"or something to that
extend.
The man has a deep psychosis and by the
sounds of things he could become a truely
abusive person.This is a truely difficult
situation and needs to be taken care
before any more emotional damage is
done.
Sorry I couldn't be of any signifigant
help.
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Keehiaangel
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jul 2005 Posts: 184
Update Posted: 08-29-05 16:36pm
So how are things now for you? Any
better? You really should get rid of him
and find someone to treat you and your
unborn baby the way that you should be
treated. Congrats on your baby.
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sjs1987
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Aug 2005 Posts: 2
Wow Posted: 08-29-05 18:00pm
Sounds like you've got a selfish jerk on
your hands. Why are you still with him?
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JasenG
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 99 Location: Virginia
Re: First Update Posted: 08-30-05 12:25pm
emcsq
wrote:
he said: 'that should shut
you up for while.'
:shock:
:shock:
:shock:
:oops:
i appologize for all men. That is
horrible! If you have any decency, leave
him and find someone who will treat you
better!
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Keehiaangel
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jul 2005 Posts: 184
Baby Posted: 08-30-05 14:52pm
I totally agree. He is a prick!! Really
you need to just move on so that you can
have a happy life for you and your baby.
You know that you dont want that around
your baby. Trust me!
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germanben
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Aug 2005 Posts: 7
Posted: 08-30-05 20:46pm
Give this problem the f|_|c|<1|\|g boot
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james169
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Aug 2005 Posts: 6 Location: colchester
It Is Him Posted: 09-05-05 04:49am
Wot a dikhead he wud raver watch porn dan
hav sex. It is totaly him
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unificial85
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Oct 2005 Posts: 4
Love Or Love-making Or Both? Posted: 10-05-05 03:15am
Hi fellow ladies...
I am 19 years old male and doesnt have a
gf at all... I am not in the same culture
as you all in - western. I might be too
young and rude to ask these questions to
all the ladies here. However, after
reading all the replies, I would really
want to clarify some things..
Although I don't have any partner at all
(feeling hopeless and useless), I do
believe that sex (or a much better word -
making love) is the best thing in the
marriage relationship.
I) is intimacy must be shown in terms of
sex?
Ii) does love means anything else more
important for female other than sex?
Iii) if your partner doesnt have sex with
you for 1 month, will you start to get
bored and depressed?
Iv) what other things for the male that he
could do to take over sex?
V) does love means sex in western
countries? (as in the tv, I have seen
many movies in order for the man to have
sex with the woman, she wants to hear 'i
love you')
lastly) what does sex/making love means
for a marriage woman?
Thanks ladies... And all the best in your
relationship.
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angel6932
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Aug 2005 Posts: 788 Location: US
Re: Love Or Love-making Or Both? Posted: 10-05-05 09:43am
unificial85
wrote:
hi fellow ladies...
I am 19 years old male and doesnt have a
gf at all... I am not in the same
culture as you all in - western. I
might be too young and rude to ask these
questions to all the ladies here.
However, after reading all the replies, I
would really want to clarify some
things..
Although I don't have any partner at all
(feeling hopeless and useless), I do
believe that sex (or a much better word -
making love) is the best thing in the
marriage relationship.
I) is intimacy must be shown in terms of
sex?
To me no its holding me and kissing me
just letting me know you still think
highly of me and love me
ii) does love mean anything else more
important for female other than sex?
As I said as long as you hold me and kiss
me I am usally ok
iii) if your partner doesnt have sex with
you for 1 month, will you start to get
bored and depressed?
Ok actually normally I wouldnt but I
havent seen sex in months I am 9months
pregnant and I miss my husband in that way
more than anyone can imagin. He dosnt
want to hurt me or the baby but still I
would love just to be in that way with
him.
Iv) what other things for the male that he
could do to take over sex?
I know that my hubby gets cought up in
work so that is a prob there
v) does love means sex in western
countries? (as in the tv, I have seen
many movies in order for the man to have
sex with the woman, she wants to hear 'i
love you')
i am different than most girls. I mean I
still want the man to love me but I wanted
the man that I slept with better known as
giving my virginity to. To be the man
that I married. And that is what
happend. I think there is no better way
to tell a man or woman you love them by
making love to them. People have sex all
the time but making love thats something
special...
Lastly) what does sex/making love means
for a marriage woman?
Well to be honest sometime I just want to
have that hot sweatty rolling around in
the sheets and what not sex.. But there
are other times I would like candles and
music and us just make love.
Thanks ladies... And all the best in
your
relationship.
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wazzywoman4ever
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Aug 2007 Posts: 67 Location: texas, america
Re: Love Or Love-making Or Both? Posted: 08-13-07 15:50pm
unificial85
wrote:
Hi fellow ladies...
personally I have descovered not so
easiliy that love is not sex but that love
makes sex better but sex will never make
love better .........it does not last
forever and what if one of the two
parteners can't help failing for some
reason beyond their control? there is so
much more than that act of connection
...the sight of my guy his scent the sound
of his voice(very deep ) all do it for me
I love the way I feel with him and miss
him when he is at work ....we are not
currently married to each other but
engaged to be so these issues are
important all the same ..non sexual
contact still infuses each other with
femones ect . there is conversation and we
even enjoy each other in silences we are
that in tune we touch each other often and
kiss alot we hold hands whereever we go
....we have fun and when sex is part of
any given day the feelings from it last
for days.......sex with out love was
mechanical and plastic .....I spent 22
years in a comfortable marriage that
contained great sex with a man I could not
love and I tried for 22 years (trapped by
pregnancy)and finally walked away when the
kids were grown to find love ...I would do
it again because to make love to a
partener you are in love with is
exceptionally satisfying..while not
perfect by any messure it is what we make
of it and unconditional love sees no
faults...and is devoted for love sake not
pleasure.....pleasure is a gift and it can
be given in numerous ways ...to get one
must give ...best of wishes in your quest
to know ...wazzywoman
I am 19 years old male and doesnt have a
gf at all... I am not in the same culture
as you all in - western. I might be too
young and rude to ask these questions to
all the ladies here. However, after
reading all the replies, I would really
want to clarify some things..
Although I don't have any partner at all
(feeling hopeless and useless), I do
believe that sex (or a much better word -
making love) is the best thing in the
marriage relationship.
I) is intimacy must be shown in terms of
sex?
Ii) does love means anything else more
important for female other than sex?
Iii) if your partner doesnt have sex with
you for 1 month, will you start to get
bored and depressed?
Iv) what other things for the male that he
could do to take over sex?
V) does love means sex in western
countries? (as in the tv, I have seen
many movies in order for the man to have
sex with the woman, she wants to hear 'i
love you')
lastly) what does sex/making love means
for a marriage woman?
Thanks ladies... And all the best in your
relationship.
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Tylanas
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jul 2005 Posts: 12984
Thanks: 3
Thanked:0
Posted: 08-13-07 16:05pm
Why have two people quoted a post without
replying at all?
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wazzywoman4ever
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Aug 2007 Posts: 67 Location: texas, america
at least in mine and it happened that way
because I am new at using it and once I
get the hang of it we will have to find
something else for you to complain about
huh? ha ha your corrective measures are
appreciated ol girl just messing with you
...thank you for the wonderful job you do
keeping these boards done properly
..wazzywoman
