I Fell In Love With a Bipolar,he Now Told Me to Never Call Posted: 08-04-05 16:22pm
I met a bipolar guy few months ago and was
slowly smitten and now deeply in need of
him.
I love his moral character and his
spirituality. We clicked but I was
moving too slow and careful when we talked
deep about our relationship. He wanted
to move faster, though it was a long
distance relationship. I sensed he
wanted me to be there with him everyday
we talked. He is kind sensitive and the
type of man I really wanted to be with .
He showered me with kind words and was
eager to be together but I was afraid to
move faster into promising things and I
believe that frustrated him and put him in
some type of depression. He is very
polite and intelligent.
He got upset with me over a minor issue
and I hung up the phone on him last
sunday. He then called me back and left
me a message to never ever call him again
and that he refuses to put me through his
mood swings. He pleaded in the name of
god to never try to negotiate with him.
From reading about this disease, I
realized I was not sensitive enough and
over looked his situation. He is on
medication and says he hadn't had any
episodes for the past years. I really
want to be with this guy and I am afraid
to call him back and upset him more. How
do I tell this guy that I understand his
problem and want to be with him? Is
there a better way to approach him with
out upsetting him? I am ashamed of my
feeling...I even want to quit pursuing him
but I am torn with the urge!Want for
him...
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SweetJane
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Aug 2005 Posts: 12 Location: Ontario
Best Just to Leave Him Alone Posted: 08-06-05 16:33pm
Dear mahder,
best just to leave him alone. Bipolar is
largely an emotional disorder and what is
a relationship if not an emotional
rollercoaster. It's easier to manage
bipolar if you're single. Let's face it:
relationships are explosive. That's the
last thing a bipolar needs. Staying
single, is a choice for peace and privacy,
tho it can be boring.
Take care,
jane.
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samantha_loves_brandon
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jul 2005 Posts: 12 Location: eugene
Hey! Posted: 08-26-05 23:53pm
I do that all the time to my boyfriend
when I get mad at him for some thing more
then 12 times a day.I'm sure that he will
get over it bipolar people will realize
what there about to lose and they just
want to call you so bad.Trust me. :)
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BPjoe23
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Oct 2005 Posts: 111 Location: dfw tx
Posted: 10-11-05 19:26pm
Trust me we will call back,your right in
my opinion. Just give it a few days then
call him or email him saying im sorry just
making sure you are ok.
Things will get better i've done that to
my friends before.
Oh and sweetjane is dumb, jane do you
really know that for a fact.
I say that's just an opinion i've seen in
my support group plenty of bipolar in
relationships and they are doing good.
I've even been in relationships that did
good. So having bp and being in a
relationship isn't always going to be a
bad thing.
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Mahder
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Aug 2005 Posts: 2 Location: Georgia
Update Since My Last Post Posted: 06-09-06 00:03am
Thanks all of you for your responses.
But experience is a key to making the
right decsion. After posting my last
message, my bp friend called me indeed.
We dated for few months and my skepticism,
his mood swings, aggressive pursuit
allowed for our break up 3months ago. He
actually ended the relationship because I
wouldn't commit. My decsion was not based
only on his mood swings but the complete
package of his life style. He handled it
okay until few days ago where he started
text messaging me and slandering me non
stop. I felt harassed though
understanding his situation, I told him to
stop harassing me or I would call the
authorities. The simple conclusion to my
situation is don't start something that
you are so skeptical of. I learned a
lesson but I am afraid I disturbed his
peace. However, he is a smart guy and
will recover the same way he did from his
last relationship.
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