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dragon_lover

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I Want a Baby Am I Mad?
Posted: 08-05-05 08:43am

Hi peoples im new here!

I really want a baby.. Its all I can think of for the last 6 months or so. Every time I see a mum playing with her baby it makes me yearn for one. Even the thought of the arguments as it grows up, having to pay for things for it, and all the other 'bad' things, I look forward to.

Thing is I sometimes feel wrong wanting one because im only 18 and I dont know, sometimes I just think everyone will go on about how young I am and have life to live before having a baby etc

what do you lot think? Do you think 18's too young to actually want a baby?

I'm living with my partner we've been together about 2 years now and we're both working. So its not as though we're still in school and living off my parents or anything.

Is there anything anyone can think of to help stop me wanting a baby so much?
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Steph92904

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Posted: 08-05-05 11:52am

Well I am 17 and I am about to have my baby and I wanted one. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. I am engaged and I work ful time and so does my fiancee and we just bought a house. Just make sure you are ready because life will change for you.
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vanessalouanne

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Posted: 08-05-05 12:00pm

Nope.. I think no one can make you stop wanting a baby. I have totally been there and am still totally there. Im 19 and married, have been for a year. I know what its like and expecially now that all of my friends are pregnant it's tough. I think that if your financially independent, can give a baby everything it needs .I.E love, money, good medical care, a safe place to live, your attention. Then its up to you to know when your ready. 13 year olds, 14, year olds and so on who still live with there parents, do not have jobs and are still in high school are not ready and it is ridiculous for them to even consider having a baby. That is selfish immature and stupid. Relying on your parents is not an option. But I think personal maturity has a big role in knowing when you are ready to take on the responsibility of a child. Just remember that you cannot give it back. For the rest of your life you have to support, love, and be there for this child. No more just going out at the last minute, no more spending your pay check on make up or a cute outfit, no more sleeping through the night for a while, and so on. I think if you know the reality of what it is to raise a child and can handle that then go ahead. I personally think you should wait until your married but thats just me. Id be to afraid not to now a days and have a guy who when things get tough he can just walk away. I dont know I try not to judge people by their age. I think you have to know someones situation before you can judge. I know that my husband and I are ready for a baby. We have our own house, a great income, medical insurance, both have nice dependable cars, supportive families, and a ton of love to give a child. I raised my niece ( and I mean ive had her throw up in my mouth, got poop under my nails, sleepless nights, taking her to the doctors, ect. ) it was really tough and sometimes I wanted to rip my hair out but you know what, I adore this child and would die for her. Basically it comes down to this. A lot of 18 year olds are not ready to have a kid. But some are. I know that I never drink, party, do drugs, whatever. The most exciting thing my husband and I do is go to the movies and dinner occasionally. I know I would be ready ( and really I dont care what other say because they dont know me) but like I said a lot of 18 year olds and even 30 year olds who are not ready. It just depends on the person.
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mommy of 1

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Posted: 08-05-05 18:05pm

I dont think it is wrong to want a baby, but it is a lot harder once that baby comes than you could ever imagine, my daughter is 7 now and it is still hard sometimes, I would never change anything but it is hard, I had no teenage years, no partys, no girls night out, but you are older than I was you are an adult and have the right to have a baby if you want one, good luck with what you decide :)
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DaliciaLynn

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Posted: 08-06-05 20:45pm

I think if you can support a child, and don't look for your parents to support you or your baby then go for it.

I've always thought being a mom at a young age was awesome because you have more energy and etc.

Now i'm 3 months pregnant and I think about the future and it scares me, I know i'll go through a rough time sometimes and I have to give up a lot to raise my baby, but I love my unborn child and i'll love what he or she becomes.

I was on birth control for 6 months before I got pregnant, I guess I was one of the lucky ones!
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