Joined: 05 Aug 2005 Posts: 5 Location: Massachusetts
Misscarriage Posted: 08-05-05 12:35pm
:cry:
even though I felt funny, I didn't believe
I was pregnant until friday july 29th when
I went to my doctor's office and took a
test. I knew something was different,
but i'm 27 and this was the first time, I
couldn't believe it. We were both very
happy about this, I figure I was about 6-7
weeks. Monday night, I started spotting
lightly. Tuesday morning I was bleeding
like a period. Thursday, august 4th I
found out I misscarried. It is
devistating. I don't know how to feel.
I cry whenever i'm alone, and when
someone says "i'm sorry" it is almost
impossible not to break down in tears.
My mate calls me when he's not near me to
make sure i'm ok. It's a beautiful
thing to be so supported, but at the same
time, i'm so sad. It is such a
feeling being pregnant, even though I
wasn't far along, I felt it. I miss
it....
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fatfamily02
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 3050 Location: Georgia, USA
Posted: 08-05-05 14:05pm
I am so sorry--
god bless you
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seksiHily
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Apr 2005 Posts: 1015 Location: MN
Posted: 08-05-05 16:19pm
Im so sorry for your loss..
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abbymae
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Apr 2005 Posts: 20
Apologies... Posted: 08-06-05 07:54am
...I'm very sorry to hear what has
happened. I am not one to tell you 'i
know how it feels' because I don't - but I
do know how it feels to have a loved one
miscarry. My sister miscarried on her
second preganancy. I was the only one she
told. I felt her pain, I felt her anger,
I felt helpless. I do commend your mate
for being so supportive with you as many
do not know how or what emotion to show.
God bless you all and I wish you the best
in the future!
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mamaslyfe
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Aug 2005 Posts: 5 Location: Massachusetts
Posted: 08-07-05 13:40pm
Thank you all for your responses... I
am starting to cope with it finally, i'm
not crying all the time, and actually, I
didn't cry at all yesterday. I know this
doesn't mean I won't cry in the future,
but at least I can deal with it now. And
who knows, i'm sure we'll try again...
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 08-07-05 15:10pm
Hi there! I am so sorry to here of you
miscarriage, I understand what you are
going through, I have been there myself,
it is hell, they should have offered you
help, such as a support group, did they
discuss a d&c with you. I am glad to
hear that you are starting to pull
yourself out of it and that you have
someone to help and maybe you can try
again when you your mind and your body is
ready but that is between you, your dr,
you body, your mate.
The best to you and your mate, hugs to
both of you!
Come here anytime you want to talk about
anything, this is what we are here for!
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askara
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 May 2005 Posts: 229 Location: South East England
Posted: 08-08-05 03:45am
I am sorry to hear for your loss, I know
that there is very little we can say or do
to make you feel any better but know that
others have been though this and come out
the other side ok.
I had a misscariage on december 30th last
year, great way to welcome in the new year
if you ask me! I would say that it took
me a good 4-5 months to get back to
normal, I felt like I was being punnished
cause no mattwe where I looked there were
newborns or hugly pregnant women.
I was 3 weeks late for a period about 4
months after it happened, I was being sick
and had ever so friendly nipples, I never
did a pregnancy test and when I finally
came on it was heavy, I dont want to know
if I was pregnant as this time denial is
far less hurtful.
I am now 2 weeks away from my original
duedate... And I am finding its in my
thoughts again, but whats done is done and
what will be will be, chin up girlie,
there is light at the end of the tunnel.
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fatfamily02
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 3050 Location: Georgia, USA
Posted: 08-08-05 08:26am
askara
wrote:
i am sorry to hear for your
loss, I know that there is very little we
can say or do to make you feel any better
but know that others have been though this
and come out the other side ok.
I had a misscariage on december 30th last
year, great way to welcome in the new year
if you ask me! I would say that it took
me a good 4-5 months to get back to
normal, I felt like I was being punnished
cause no mattwe where I looked there were
newborns or hugly pregnant women.
I was 3 weeks late for a period about 4
months after it happened, I was being sick
and had ever so friendly nipples, I never
did a pregnancy test and when I finally
came on it was heavy, I dont want to know
if I was pregnant as this time denial is
far less hurtful.
I am now 2 weeks away from my original
duedate... And I am finding its in my
thoughts again, but whats done is done and
what will be will be, chin up girlie,
there is light at the end of the
tunnel.
have you been trying to conceive? Do
you want to try again. The only thing
that saved me from all my miscarriages was
the fact that I was preg every 2 months
for 4 years. I had 2 live births in
that time and 6 miscarriages. I dint
try to get preg, actually I used condoms
and spermicides faithfully most of the
time, well on the last 3 miscarriages.
First three was in my 18 year. So,
eventhough I lost I was constantly
expecting something better. It helped
me threw. Like the 4 1/2 month baby
that was born alive--he was the hardest,
but by the time his due date came around I
was pregnant with my girl who I have
today(she is almost22 years old). I did
think of him, but it was easier.
If the last year you left with sorrow you
should bring in next year with
joy---right??
Wishing you both the very best--this too
will pass, I promise. I do know how
hard it is. God bless you both
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askara
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 May 2005 Posts: 229 Location: South East England
Posted: 08-08-05 11:22am
*squishes fatfamily02*
no, we had not been ttc, I had been away
for a month on holiday came back and I
guess we were maybe a little too pleased
to see each other! The result being a
wee one. I only go tas far as 7.5 weeks,
I ran a fever of 103 for 2 days, I could
not get it down, my doctor told me that
basically it fried as it cant withstand
that heat, but I was also told that if I
lost it that early then there was probally
genetic things going wrong and it would
have never survived if I had had it till
full term, tis amazing the things people
tell you to make you feel better!
It was made 10 x worse though as a woman I
work with also fell pregnant at exactly
the same time, we were 1 day apart, so she
will be hatching any day now, I belive
shes at 38 weeks, so seeing her getting
big and round was mental torture as every
time I saw her belly I would see what I
should be like, but what does not kill you
makes you stronger.. Right?
I would say that I am over it now, and its
been 8 months, I dont cry over it any more
and I am sure its a blessing in disguise
as when I do get to start my family I will
appreicate them that much more.
I am fretting at the moment thinking I may
be pregnant again, (every so friendly
nipples and something funky going on down
there) but I wont allow my self to take a
test till the 22nd august, as that was my
due date. If I am it will be a nice
ending.. And begining to it all and if I
am not, well then its just not meant to
be.
But thankyou for your kind words, it means
alot to me, and I am sure it will also
mean alot to mamaslyfe. Any support at a
time like this is appreciated.
