Constantly Single! Never Dating. Posted: 08-08-05 09:13am
I’m 31 years old and apart from the odd
fling never had a girlfriend or a
relationship in my entire life. Maybe I
never quite looked fanciable enough for
any girls, or never acquired the right
flirting skills or gave off the wrong body
language signal or said the wrong things.
I definitely think that my biggest let
down has been to constantly be put into
the “nice guy” category - a sure fire
death sentence on any prospect of coming
across as sexually attractive.
So what you may ask is my problem? Well
lets go through the list of the blooming
obvious.
Q. Do I live with my parents?
A. No. Not for a very long time.
Q. Do I have steady job?
A. Yes. Actually a very good job at
that.
Q. Do I have any previous emotional
attachments or hang-ups?
A. Oh j. Take a wild guess at this one.
I short – no.
Q. Am I short and fat?
A. Not really. Over 6’ tall and good
physical shape.
Q. Do I have 2 left feet?
A. No. I can take the dance floor
anytime I want.
Q. Am I a bit thick?
A. Only if einstein was a bit of
thickie.
Q. Do I look or smell bad?
A. I take a shower and shave every
morning and put on clean smart cloths.
I suppose one reason for being single is
because I became a software engineer.
From my experience the usual response I
face when I say what I do for a living is
one of disgust and rejection. But even
when I studied for and practiced medicine
I was far from drawing the crowds, or even
a single girl in that case.
I could rant on and on about is it this or
that being the problem but after long
years of constant neglect and rejection
the only real truth that I can arrive at
is that I am obviously not good enough for
any girl.
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Flexx
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jul 2005 Posts: 18
Posted: 08-12-05 23:57pm
I very well could be a mirror image of you
in 5yrs. Im just like you, except a
little bit younger. One thing i've
noticed is that the guys who seem to do
well with women seem to be smooth talkers.
They really know how to smooze over any
woman. So if you dont have a silver
tongue, then you're automatically gonna
have a hard time. Then on top of that
there are some girls that wont even give
you a chance if you dont have model looks.
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Atropos
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Aug 2005 Posts: 16 Location: California
Posted: 08-16-05 19:33pm
If you've got all the smarts and you're in
good shape and all that, I can't imagine
why women don't like you. Maybe you
scare them off. Sounds likely. How
often do you ask girls out or for their
numbers and get rejected? Maybe you're
the one making the problem - if you only
go for girls that, as flexx puts it, have
model looks. Maybe your standards are
too high.
In any case, to assume that the reason you
have no steady relationships is because
you're "not good enough" is bs. Well,
then again, maybe you're just not "good"
at keeping them going. Did your 'flings'
end badly? Start badly, even?
By the way, I think software engineering
is much more attractive than many other
jobs, if occupations can be attractive.
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Toiles
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Jul 2005 Posts: 154 Location: Regina Saskatchewan
Posted: 08-17-05 17:48pm
Just go out to clubs and start talking to
people more. I always used to talk to
girls before I got a girlfriend. There
are girls out there that like you, just
keep your eyes opened.
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rainfalls
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Aug 2005 Posts: 24 Location: minnesota
Too Hard On Yourself! Posted: 08-24-05 18:51pm
Well honeslty there is some sick thing out
there with alot of gals where they like
the bad boy and bad boy look. Or the
real nice guy gets caca on by the bad
girl.
I have seen from my own personal
expereince, that the older you get, the
less true this is as women want a stable,
nice guy.
You sound great, so what is the problem?
Hard tosay based on that info alone, but
not to be mean but there must be something
you are doing a little wrong? You are
only human and we all do.
I havent dated for a while but on purpse,
this would be a nice girls who went out
with the oh my god he is so hot guy who
was an well not a nice guy. So now I am
in school for pharmacy and concentrating
on that.
I really do not know what to tell you
except it sucks and there is always a way
to change yourself if you want to, jsut do
not become a jerk or not be who you are,
if that makes nay sense. I know they has
this topic on a talk show once, and this
guy a nice guy wrote a book for nice guys
with little hints in it on how to get a
date, girlfriend etc... By using some of
these techniques, but yet not being an ,
well yeah!
I havent been married either and I am 36,
and I really dont care that I havent been
or what others think.
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snowygirl
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Oct 2005 Posts: 807 Location: hawaii
Hi I Think U Can Try Dating Service Posted: 11-08-05 23:29pm
I think u shouldnt meet girls at clubs, I
think its hard to meet good girls there.
My friend tried dating service and it work
out for her and now she has a bf. I think
u should try it out. Hope u find gf soon
=)
