I Need Relationship Help (been So Depressed And Sad) Posted: 08-08-05 13:27pm
Hi, i've been with my girlfriend for four
months now, and she has been acting
differently, please mind that we are still
young (seniors in hs), but this has been
really bothering me and I just don't know
what to do anymore. First of all, when we
first started dating, we spent a lot of
time together and this was during the
school year. Then during the summer, we
hardly ever went out and she would always
want to play ro (an online game) I would
play with her too but now it feels like
all we did was ro. Well, moving on,
during times from when we first started to
go out until now we got into fights, but I
would always take responsibility for it
and we made up after a day or two. But
this whole week, she just stopped calling
me and stopped the sweet surprising things
we always did (like surprised phone calls,
or sweet talks) and had. I forgot to
mention that she is leaving for a vacation
on wednesday, and we were planning to go
shopping earlier on from this week, and
the next day she totally ignores and
avoids me. Then, when I kept asking her
what’s wrong and what not, she would say
“nothing let me be for a while”, but I
was worried something happened so I kept
pushing her (which now I regret) (i pushed
and pushed because I really didn’t want
her to leave on vacation on a bad note),
but after a few tries I just stopped and
played ro with her. The next day she goes
online and asks me for a guys number and I
get so mad when I find out since she’s
leaving soon, I wanted to see her at least
once before she left, instead she goes out
with some friends (the guy was someone I
knew) but I didn’t know other people
were going yet so I was questioning her
“are you going somewhere?” “why do
you need his number?” etc. And she just
blows up on me with these
“ (11:22:23 am): just leave me alone
(11:22:27 am): u cant even leave me alone
(11:22:32 am): so I can have some room to
myself
(11:22:34 am): n for other ppl
(11:22:41 am): all summer all ive been
talkin to is uuuu!!!!!
(11:22:46 am): everything uuu!!!!!!!!
(11:22:48 am): no1 else
(11:23:02 am): n I have to answer to u
(11:23:05 am): about what im
doing?!?!?!?!!
(11:25:17 am): n ive asked u politely
(11:25:21 am): to let me be
(11:25:23 am): but nooo
(11:25:26 am): u still nag
(11:25:27 am): u still
(11:25:29 am): keep askin
me (11:25:40 am): I know but that was only
because I thought something happened at
home
(11:26:02 am): u keep nagging
(11:26:07 am): u wont even let me tell u
(11:26:11 am): when I want to!!!!!!”
i left out what I said for it’s not
important, well let me explain, first of
all, i’m not forcing her to just talk to
me… and I don’t force her to play ro,
she plays herself. Also, I only
questioned her about what she was doing
because out of no way she asks for a guys
number.... (wouldnt you question
too?)this has really been killing me… I
care so much for her; all i’ve been
thinking about is her and only slept 6-7
hours in the last week. Well, i’ll
leave this at that and see what replies I
get…… please help me, I love her and
don’t want to give her up without a
fight.
Thanks in advance
ps i've spoken to a few close friends
about this and my brother said I shouldn't
give up on her, one of my other close
friends said that I should keep pushing
her to show that I care and she said I
shouldnt give up, and another close friend
of mine said if it was him he would just
break it, because he said that my gf is
just taking advantage of me because i'm
giving her 100%.
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crazygal
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Aug 2005 Posts: 5
Here's Some Good Advice.... Seriously Posted: 08-12-05 13:00pm
Okay, this is coming from a girl... So
take this advice and use it.
If you really care about the girl,...
Simply act like you don't. Do not call
her, let her call you... When she calls
you, act like your busy wait awhile, then
call her back... (wait even a day maybe)
when she thinks your less interested,
she'll want you more, she'll be more nice
to you and you'll have the upper hand...
Trust me on this one... For some reason,
girls like guys who act like they don't
give a crap.... Whatever you do, don't
give in... I mean, don't be mean to
her,... But just blow her off every now
and then.. And do not push her... You
can't make someone like you by showing
them how much you are into them... Don't
ask me why.... I'm still trying to figure
out why guys who have mean girlfriends,
treat them like princesses and the guys
who have good girlfriends, don't treat
them as well......
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Glamorgirli
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 193 Location: Michigan
Posted: 08-12-05 13:55pm
Me and my boyfriend hung out every single
day for about 2 months and I got kind of
sick of him and needed a little space.
Maybe she is feeling a little bit smotherd
by you, and just wants a chance to go and
hang out with her friends without having
to worry about you. I'm sure she still
cares about you but she just wants a
little space to herself. Still care and
be there for her but respect her wishes.
I'm sure she will come around.
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