Joined: 13 Apr 2005 Posts: 5 Location: Hertfordshire, England
Exhausted Almost Any Chance of Finding a Girlfriend Posted: 08-09-05 16:25pm
I'm now at the point where I can't think
of anything else I can do to find myself a
girlfriend for the first time in my near
29 years of existence. I've tried meeting
people at the football, work, while
playing snooker/pool, in pubs/bars. I
joined a 20-30's walking group in the
hopes of meeting some girls to get over my
shyness better but that didn't work
either. I've even tried to think of
places to go where I might be able to chat
to some girls but i'm at a loss now about
where to go or what to do.
The only other option I can think of is
speed dating or one of the various social
events that are held in london through
various websites but I don't think I
either have the confidence or belief that
there would be much point being my failure
to attract any women at all during my
entire lifetime. I am obviously repellent
in some way I cannot control, I don't have
nasty body odour, i've been told I have a
good personality and sense of humour but I
guess it's all down to good looks and not
being too nice/gentlemanly. In which case
i've got no chance - I have no intention
of changing who I am just because that's
what women are attracted to. So staying
single for the rest of my life it is then.
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Atropos
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Aug 2005 Posts: 16 Location: California
Posted: 08-15-05 18:56pm
That's really strange. Are you very
outgoing?
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Webexplorer83
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Aug 2005 Posts: 14
Re: Exhausted Almost Any Chance of Finding a Girlfriend Posted: 08-15-05 22:08pm
madhornet
wrote:
not being too
nice/gentlemanly...
what's wrong with showing a little
chivalry? It may seem silly, but opening
doors and pulling out chairs for women
really does tend to leave a positive
impression. And positive impressions are
what it's all about when first meeting a
person.
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Glamorgirli
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 193 Location: Michigan
Posted: 08-15-05 22:33pm
Hmmmm your from england and that means you
have a british accent, move to the usa and
girls will be drooling over you just by
your voice.
I'm sure there is a girl out there that is
perfect for you, you just havent found her
yet! Have you tried meeting people off of
the internet I met my boyfriend off of
the internet and it's amazing how much we
have in common!
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rainfalls
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Aug 2005 Posts: 24 Location: minnesota
Had to Laugh Posted: 08-24-05 18:56pm
That is true, girls would go nuts over
that accent here.
If I spelled that right.
I dont care how ungly, weird , stinky a
person is even people like that find
someone. So, I doubt you are any of
those by the sounds of it, you are a
typical nice guy, and it is always harder
for nice guys.
Or, do you have that I really want a
girlfriend written all over your face
look? Because I know that turns off most
women as well. Then they know they would
have you in the plam of their hand, women
dont like that either. Well good luck
hope this helps, I am single, no dates
either and I really dont care. I thikn
when it happens, it happens, and dont look
for it.
But then I have only been isngle for six
months so I should probably shut up. I
always get the drunks who want me to take
care of them!
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BPjoe23
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Oct 2005 Posts: 111 Location: dfw tx
Posted: 10-11-05 17:45pm
Please change your mind mentoladey(sp?).
If you think you're not going to find a
girlfriend more then likely you want.
Think about knowing you will find one.
Stop trying so hard to find a
girlfriend,and let the girls come to you.
Learn some dating tips and how to talk to
girls. It's not hard i'll help you.. If
a girl is in a pub alone,and you're use to
the place and you know she has never been
there before. Then go up to her shake her
hand and say hi my name is ______,you must
be new around here, can I recomend a drink
that is good,what is your favorite type of
beer etc etc. Right there is a gate way
in to a conversation with the girl.. You
can even pick up a girls email and number
is 2 mins. How about a girl sitting down
next to a sit at a pub or other type of
place. Walk up to her shake her hand hi
my name is______ is this bar stool
taken,(if she say no, you can have it).
Then reply back and show her you have a
sence of humor with. Oh are you sure, you
wheren't using it as your foot stool where
you? You're not going to charge me a
rental fee are you?
Just try stuff like that and see where it
gets you... It not bad to be nice.
Keep on being the nice guy,and you will
meet the righ girl.
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overlyworried
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Oct 2005 Posts: 52 Location: Texas
Posted: 10-11-05 18:36pm
My name is jennifer, bpjoe23! Oh ...
Ooops! Just took me away with some of
your dating tips, haha! Just kidding!
Don't give up, madhornet. There's
someone very special out there for you and
she's probably searching just as hard as
you are! Think positive and i'm sure
that she will show up when you least
expect it.
Just be friendly and open, don't look all
shy, don't try to hide, just make small
talk and work on being her friend first.
Being a female myself, I hate it when guys
get overly nice (offering to buy
everything for me tends to make me lose my
temper), and I do like it if they just act
like themselves around me. Just be a
little funny, work on having a good amount
of self-esteem, you know that stuff...
Remember, don't force yourself on her :)
there's never any hurry...Oh and, yeah,
move to the states. English accents are
hot.
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