Question About Relationship Posted: 08-09-05 16:42pm
Hey everyone! I'm really upset right now
my bf & mine relationship seems to be
going downhill. For the past 2 wks. Now
we haven't been talking as much as we used
to..He's been yelling at me a lot also,
and that really hurts hearing him yell at
me. We've been together for almost 7
months and I love him more then anything
in this entire world. A few days ago he
was talking about engagement & how
he's ready for it..So he's not waiting any
longer but I really don't think he's ready
for that. Last night he was supposed to
call me at 9 & he sent me a txt msg
saying he was going to the movies..And he
would call me after he got done. Well he
call's me at around 1:30 am and of course
I was really upset cause I was getting
scared that maybe something happened..Well
he was at his friends house. So this is 5
days straight that we haven't been talking
much really. I talked to him a lil bit
ago & he said he was sorry and that he
is going to try to change is ways. But
he's been saying that for so long and
nothing is happening yet. For the longest
time he thought I hated him..And that I
wanted nothing to do with him..Now last
night he realized that i'm the way I am
because I care about him so much & I
never want to loose him!!! I worry about
him when he doesn't call, i'm upset when
he's upset..I love him..So much. I want
to stay with him for the rest of my life
but I don't know how much longer I can
take this kind of stuff. The begginning
of our relationship was great, I don't
know what happened. Also I told him last
night that my problem was that I cared to
much and that I would just back off a lil
bit and I think it kinda upset him..But
what else do I do?? Advice plz? Thanks..
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 08-09-05 17:05pm
I know that this is hard to hear but the
reason that is seems like you cant live
without him and his feelings were so
strong one moment and then off then next
is because your young. I mean when I was
15 I was in the same exact situation. I
loved this boy more then anything and he
loved me and then one night he just called
and said it was over. I mean it sucks
but it happens. Teenage boys are really
hormonal and as hard as it is its best for
you to know that it is probably over.
Your young and you will find someone new.
But after hearing this I would really
advice you from getting pregnant because a
baby will not make your relationship
better. It will break it. Having a
baby is tough enough on a healthy
relationship among adults let alone
teenagers. I wish you luck and am
telling you that you will find someone
else.. Dont put up with his crap. You
have so much time to find someone who will
treat you like a princess. It is very
rare that we find who we are going to be
with for the rest of our lives when we are
15. This is nothing against you, I am
just telling you from my personal
experiance. Also you should date around.
15 is your time to get out there and
date, have fun, go to parties, live it up.
Once your married thats over. By
dating you can take all the good qualities
in boys you meet along the way to know
what you want in a husband. I believe no
relationship is a waste of time, you learn
from every relationship you are in. My
advice is to move on, and appreciate what
you two had. Dont let it get bad, talk
to him and tell him your concerns and ask
him. .. And hey its like they say let
him go and if it comes back it was meant
to be.
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~baby~g~
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Joined: 08 Jul 2005 Posts: 221 Location: Ohio
Posted: 08-09-05 17:29pm
Thanks for the advice! See the thing
is..We've broken up twice along the way
& we always ended up back together.
I've told him before that maybe we should
just take a break & see what
happens..He always refuses to. He's been
there for me through a lot of the hardest
time of my life so far..I know i'm only 15
but I really think him & I are meant
to be. Everything seems to fit
together..Like god sent him to me &
maybe this is just a test to see how
things will work out. I want to stick
with him..But I don't really even know
anymore..He used to treat me sooo well!!
Like I was the best thing on this earth..I
don't know what happened! I understand
that he's going through a lot in his life,
I don't think he understands that i'm here
for him..And I always will be. I also got
a voicemail the other night from some girl
saying she's having sex with my boyfriend
and this n that..Then a few mins. Later
he called..So I don't know if it was just
a condience (sp?) or if he really is
sleeping with another girl. He says he's
not and he's even broke down and cried to
show me that..With everything else going
on I want to trust him but then again I
don't know what to believe. I know
there's always those people that try to
mess up every relationship, so who knows.
Also his temper..I don't have the greatest
temper either but when he gets mad he
yells, then feels bad about it later. He
hasn't been doing that as much as he did
but he still does every once in
awhile..And last night he was acting
really weird when I was talking to him
omgsh it was freaking me out. I mean he's
not the type to do drugs or drink alchol
soo maybe it was because he was around his
friends..Idk..He say's i'm his number 1
priority and he would do anything for me
but who knows what's going on with him.
Thanks a lot for the advice though..You
seem like one of the few people that care
on here & the pregnancy board!
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 08-09-05 17:39pm
I totally care because I have been there.
And you know what I married the guy I
started to date when I was 16, I mean it
does happen. But I also know that I
broke it off with my boyfriend (then
husband ) for a summer because he was not
treating me like I deserved to be treated.
You know what happened during that
summer, I had the time of my life with my
friends, I went to concerts and met all
sorts of new people. By the end of the
summer I had dated other guys and I
realized how much my boy had ment to me.
He realized the same and we got back
together 3 months later. Ever since hes
treated me great and we were married last
august. Sometimes you just have to clear
your heads and be apart for a while.
This was really important to us and I
believe that it was the best thing we ever
did. Just my experiance (oh and by the
way this was a different guy then the one
who broke it off with me one day)
good luck girl, things have a way of
working themselves out.
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auboy7979
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 May 2005 Posts: 14
Posted: 08-09-05 17:46pm
Just my honest opinion here, but it sounds
like he is telling you everything that you
want to hear. If he was genuine about you
being his number one prority, then he
would back that statement with actions.
People will tell you a whole lot of stuff,
but its what he isnt saying that is
sometimes more important. I'd really
confront him about that whole cheating
thing too, sounds like that may be a
possibility.
No matter what happens though good luck to
you!!!!
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babysqueeze
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Joined: 20 Aug 2005 Posts: 8 Location: los angeles
Broken Hearted Posted: 08-20-05 15:55pm
Guys are like that when u show them that u
love them too much, just back of for a
while and he will come running to u. I do
that to my bf and it always work. Good
luck.
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confused comrade
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Aug 2005 Posts: 7 Location: london
Posted: 08-24-05 17:49pm
I have this girlfriend right but shes
being really horrible to me, she's saying
stuff like I dont care about her anymore
which I do and I have shown it but theres
this other guy involved and shes saying
that he cares about her more than I do and
its getting me really worried that smthing
might happen between these two can someone
please help me and give me som advice on
what to do?
