Well....Not really good at this talking
thing...But i'll give ya a lowdown real
fast of what's up with me. 21, senior in
college, got a part time job that works me
at least 4 days a week, had about 15 s.H.
Of classes this semister, no current gf,
and lots of unexpected things happening.
But i'm miserable....I've failed all but 1
class this semister.....My social life is
kinda lacking...When stress built up, I
turned to lots of video games...But that
in turn killed my classes......I tried a
social life over the summer...Went to
"parties"...Met people I thought might be
friends...But it was all superficial, and
I realized that that was the reason that I
never clicked with those things in
hs....I'm not the one to just want to get
drunk all the time..I find more purpose
then that with life...
But I get lonely as caca...It's been
months since i've had a gf *almost a year
actually*...And those never actually last
for me...My roommate has a gf, and at
least someone to talk to...But I find it
really hard to open up to anyone like
that, cause I get hurt.......Nights are
long..Cause I use to suffer from insomnia,
but now all I do is sleep all the damn
time...Sleep too much for that
matter....Life seems monotous.....Material
thigns really don't make me very happy
anymore...I don't really want any material
things anymore......I look to make new
friends, but I keep running into brick
walls...Noone to really spend time with or
talk to...And yes that includes lonliness,
cause it would be nice to have someone
around
with medical problems in my family, that
added to the stress this semister, so i've
been overwealmed with stress recently.
So I was wondering what I could do? If
anyone could help. I use to post on
another message board for my college...But
most of the people there are superficial
a*******s....Not really open minded..Not
really willing to listen......I know that
when stress built up it killed my classes
cause I stopped going...Got
insomnia...Fell asleep...Put to much time
into games etc........I'm thinking this is
all a form of depression...Most likely
is....But I was wondering if anyone else
had any ideas on how to make this better.
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qt3
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Nov 2003 Posts: 264
If You're Willing to Work At It...... Posted: 11-24-03 21:15pm
Give cognitive behavioral therapy(cbt) a
try as it usually cures depression and
anxiety including panic disorder in just
12-weeks. Relaxation techniques may help
you out as well but it treats the symptom
instead of the cause of the problems. If
you want lasting relief and are willing to
invest some work in yourself give cbt a
try. I played a ton of video games in
college too and it did relieve the
depression and get in the way of studying.
Many universities have cbt programs you
can enter free of charge so you may want
to look into that at yours too. Good luck
and keep us posted.
Q
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MonkeyChow
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Nov 2003 Posts: 2
Posted: 12-05-03 02:10am
Well, I think i've been doing much
better....I've been trying relaxation
techniques like you've suggested, and it's
getting a little easier.....At least I
think......But i've still got alot of
things in my head that keep going in and
out.
I'm seeing more of my friends more
often...But I still feel empty....It's
still hard for me to find someone to
relate to..Someone that just will talk to
me intellegently for a little while.
I've been trying to date again, maybe come
upon someone that might be willing to at
least give me the time of day.......Is it
bad to feel that kind of lonely? Bad to
wnat someone that wouldn't mind spending
time with me at these late hours of the
night when everyone else goes to sleep?
Everyone always seems to busy for me....I
thought at first maybe it's just me....I'm
not attactive enough, i'm too boring cause
I all I do is movies, video games,
bike...*well..I do alot of stuff*....But
that's just it...I don't do anythign
different from anyone else, so I don't
quite get why I can't just find someone
who I can just make a good
friend...Someone that is willing to try to
figure out my messed up head...And maybe
has the possibility of understanding me
better than most people do......
I know what you're probably gonna say, is
that's what my friends are here now
for....And they are...Sorta...But they
have their own things to attend to
too......My one rooomate has his
girl....My other just sleeps and plays
videogames all the time
*antisocial*....And some of my other
friends are art students, and out all the
time or working.....
So what do I do about that?...Cause that's
part of what depresses me alot of the
time.......I'm doing what I can now to fix
work and school.........Getting that back
under control.......*still not good with
teh material stuff though...I really don't
want anything still*....But i'm still
lacking in this department...Any more help
you guys can give me?
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qt3
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Nov 2003 Posts: 264
Posted: 12-08-03 13:25pm
Monky,
glad to hear that you are doing a bit
better and that the relaxation techniques
are of use. I think you need to be more
patient with yourself and things will
begin to just start falling in place (i
know this is harder to do than it is to
say as I was there once myself). I would
again urge you to see if your university
has a cbt program or group you can try as
I think this would teach you the tools to
deal with all the stuff going on in your
head and free up a lot of your energy.
Hang in there and keep in touch!
