Joined: 12 May 2005 Posts: 153 Location: Australia
Am I Just Bashing My Head Against a Brick Wall? Posted: 08-11-05 09:42am
Ive been with my partner for 17 months we
moved in together after just 5 days
everything was great for the first year
then all of a sudden everything changed I
knew it would but I thought it'd happen
over time but just one day I realised we
hadn't slept together for 3 weeks we
hardly kissed or cuddled and well baraly
spoke so I brought it up with him and it
made it worse he's changed his mind about
having children and wants to wait 3-4
years though now I may not be able to have
them. Our relationship now is just sad I
cant even ask him to pick up his cup
without getting my head snapped off sex
isn't too good we have it about every 3
weeks it used to be everyday and when we
do its not good for me he goes before I
even get warmed up he doesnt make me feel
good anymore in anyway except sometimes
brightening my day he doesn't care for my
feelings and everytime I speak to him
about it he yells at me
someone please help me is it going to be
worth all the pain?
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 08-19-05 16:32pm
I dont think it would be. I honestly
have sort of gone through the same thing
with my husband. The first year of us
living together was awesome. We got
along so great and were really happy.
Just lately we have been fighting a lot
and he has not been sleeping in our bed
(he says he cant sleep and goes out to the
garage or to a friends and come back
around 4 to finally go to bed) it is
really frustrating and to be honest I dont
know exactly what to do. To be
completely honest with you, if I were not
his wife I would have broken up with him a
while ago. I mean now that were married,
I wont because I do not believe in
divorce. If I were in your shoes id at
least take a break. This is usually a
good inductor of how things will work out.
If you both miss each other then youll
probably will end up back together, if not
your better off. I know that sometimes
guys need the harsh reality of whats going
to happen if they treat you like sh*t.
Sometimes we need to make sure our boys
arent getting to comfterble. They need
to realize that it can end, and they can
lose you. As hard as that maybe,
sometimes that is the only answer.
Good luck to you.
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jesticle
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 May 2005 Posts: 153 Location: Australia
Posted: 08-20-05 00:49am
Thank you
i suggested a break the other day and he
got worried and things have been a bit
better since he's really supportive now
when I wana talk (which I do alot due to
health issues) and im not too worried
about the sexual part of our relationship
coz I cant do it anyway it hurts.
But thank you very much for your opinions
take care
