Hopeless, And Giving Up. I Dont Know What to Do. Posted: 08-11-05 10:53am
Im 17 and never had a girlfriend. Never
even been kissed. My whole life is kind
of like one big, really sick joke.
The few girls that ever seemed interested
in me end up being with my friends. Im
not sure if its because im ugly or if I
just have terrible luck, but its really
taking a toll on me.
Recently I started talking to a girl who I
work with. I liked her for a long time
but never said anything at school because
I didnt know her. I was with my friends
at a park a while ago, and her and a
couple of her friends were there. She
noticed me and said something, so we all
went over by them. A couple of us were
sitting on a bench and the rest were
standing nearby. I was sitting down, and
she sat down next to me, said I smelled
good or something, and said she was going
to talk to me at work the next day. We
talked a little bit there but they had to
leave after about 10 minutes. I ran into
her a bunch of places after that which was
strange. One of those times she offered
to give me her phone number and told me to
call her later. I did and a few days
later I met her somewhere and we ended up
driving around and talking for a long time
by ourselves. I knew it was stupid for
me to get my hopes up for anything, but I
couldnt really help it. Things seemed to
be going so good and she acted like she
liked me. Anyway after that we ended up
meeting my friends somewhere where we were
all drinking. She wasnt drunk or
anything but she was still being really
nice and was sitting next to me and stuff.
I drove her home later and we talked
some more, and it seemed like she liked
me.
I called her the next day and she came and
met me and my friends somewhere. Pretty
much the same thing as the night before
happened, except I didnt drive her home.
There were a couple times in between these
days where she called me at lik 2 in the
morning.
Then yesterday I called her and she was
already at one of my friends' house. I
went over there, and she seemed completely
uninterested in me and was aggressively
going after my friend. She acted like it
was the most normal thing in the world and
hardly even acknowledged my presence at
all. The only time she talked to me was
when she asked for gum. Im sure they
could all tell that I was really in a bad
mood, and I ended up leaving by myself
when everyone else was there. I wouldnt
tell any of them where I was going, even
though they asked, and when I was driving
around by myself she didnt bother calling
me or anything. She never offered any
explanation as to why she was acting like
I wasnt there or why she was all over my
friend right in front of me.
Things like this always happen whenever I
make any serious effort to get to know a
girl. I saw this whole thing coming a
mile away but I still (like a person) let
myself get my hopes up, just because she
acted like she liked me. She didnt just
talk to me or anything, she acted like she
liked me. And then this doing it thing
happens.
Given my history, and that I was sort of
depressed in the first place, this has
really hit me hard. I cant sleep and all
ive done since ive gotten home is cry
constantly and break various things.
I dont know what the hell im gonna do,
because if shes hanging around my friends
a lot now its just gonna be more painful.
Its just so doing it disappointing
because I got my hopes up so much. I
feel so doing it helpless now and I cant
get my mind off of it.
Im open to any sort of advice right now.
Thanks
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Glamorgirli
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 193 Location: Michigan
Posted: 08-11-05 12:32pm
Now i'm only 18, but my bf is 19 and im
his first everything! He used to think
he was worthless he tried for so long and
every girl he would ask out would turn him
down and laugh at him in his face. I
think those other girls were stupid
because I found the most wonderful guy in
the world! In the end he says it better
that he didnt have any girlfriends.
Relationships are full of drama. Yes
they have there good times to but at 17
you have so much stupid bullcrap to put up
with, rumors at school, ect.....High
school is not the time to have
relationships. Just wait till you get to
college there are a ton of girls i'm sure
out there that will be drooling over you!
With that girl: you cant lose what you
never had just one less chick to put up
with.
Don't worry the day will come when you
find some amazing girl that will knock
your socks off! Just remember things
happen when you least expect them to.
Just stop trying and the girls will come!
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Flexx
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jul 2005 Posts: 18
Posted: 08-12-05 20:01pm
Dude, you're only 17. Wait till you get
to be about 30 and in the same situation.
It's a whole nother ballgame then. Things
could be a lot worse for you. Consider
yourself lucky... You still have your
youth on your side.
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truckstophero
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jul 2005 Posts: 84 Location: alabama
Posted: 09-05-05 20:30pm
A friend of mine was a virgin and had
never kissed a girl until he was 23 years
old. Then he met his wife to be.
This guy played in a hugely successful
band too but just wanted to wait for the
right girl. Thats awesome.
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JASMlNE
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Sep 2005 Posts: 29
Posted: 09-09-05 19:21pm
Don't feel bad dude. Yes, you are just in
high school. You should wait til you get
to college. There's so many people in
college than there is in high school.
You'll also be dorming and you'll meet
ladies in your hall. You're young,
there's so many opportunities for you.
Also, you seem shy, I think. Be a little
more aggressive. And no, don't stop
getting your hopes up. We all go through
knock downs, (i've had my few shares)...It
just lets us learn and when we finally get
that one person. We really appreciate
them and give them our all. Just hang in
there. And it'd be cool if you updated us
on when you have a gf. Yay for you.
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Eternal
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Sep 2005 Posts: 38
Posted: 09-16-05 18:32pm
Well i'm 17 (nearly 18) but i'm in
college, university next year (how
different is your school system from
britain) and i've never even had a
relationship, it just seems impossible for
me to connect to anyone in that way, since
I (probably like you too) am not the sort
of person to fall in love with anyone who
seems "fanciable" for some sort of casual
relationship. In a way i'm not too
disappointed because I have never met
anyone I am interested in either, but I am
starting to see my youth as irrelevant, as
if I haven't been able to connect now,
what's to say the same won't happen for
the rest of my life? I also believe that
if one is young, it does not necessarily
mean a long future - I would never assume
that certainty - so you can always talk to
me, because I find that if you are young,
people do not tend to take feelings
seriously, due to such "hormonal effects"
or "having a long time to go yet". In
fact, experiencing such feelings at a
young age can be worse - at a time when
self confidence and complete identity are
still in formation, and feelings such as
low self esteem and lonliness can mutilate
these forms of development.
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Tony Williams
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Oct 2005 Posts: 52 Location: UK, Liverpool
Posted: 10-30-05 14:36pm
Hit like a nail!
Ask her! ... It's the only way, ask her
(next time you are speaking) does she like
like your friend if it's a "no" work on
her.
