Well if you penetrated then you had sex even if you didn't cum. And yes she could have gotten pregnant. There is pre-cum. You may or may not feel it come out, most men don't even realize that it pretty much always happens because they didn't feel it.
Pre contains just as much sperm as the main load does.
Has she taken a pregnancy test yet? It's been long enough (3 wks) she could take one.
Exhaustion is one of the main symptoms.
Good luck! Neither of you should stress until your certain cause it only makes things worse.