Dont Know Where to Go!!

I am a guy and I am 100% straight.

There is nothing wrong with being gay. It would still make no difference since you are the only one that will decide. Are you 100% percent sure though?

I really suggest you to talk to your parents. Good luck.

No way .. I live in a family where they could kill me (literaly)for being gay and in a land where being gay is so shameful that they wont approve of u and do smthin bad... U dont wanna know.....!

But yeah I am sure that im gay and I try to b atracted to females but im just not attracted to them at all .....Plz help
i dont need any1 tellin me its ok I need help on how to turn straight??!!
I wanna get married , have a family and be normal and give my parents grandchilderen and make them proud and hopefully go to heaven.....And a lot of other reasonsy I cant b gay.....
So some1 plz rescue me ... I need help!!
Thnx anyways for tryin darkcatt but thats not what I need.
Plz help
thank u

If you are serious just ask god for help. Say "god help me" he knows what you need. That will be the beginning.....

Did that already..... Im doin everythin.
And im dead serious.
If I got help from god I wouldnt've came here...
Maybe this is the answer ....Maybe god lead me here... After all I did find this site by coinsidence.....
Plz help... Anyone...

You can't force yourself to not be gay. Just accept the fact that you are a homosexual. You can't just change that. It's who you are.

U dont understand im the only son of my parents and the eldest of three sisters and my father died and now im the "man of the house" nad I have a religien and my mom dedicated her life to me , after my parents got divorced and my father died she got a lot of proposals but she refused for my sake and the least that I could do is make it worth it and I dont want to b gay an I already mentioned that I live in a country and a culture and a religion where homosexuals are so shameful that its ok to kill them and besides I have a legacy to carry on ... And .... I just cant.... I dont think ull understand . But I need .. I repeat need to be straight .... I dont need a person telling me that its ok cuz thats not gonna change anything... I need help on how to turn .... And homosexuality is not natural and its not who I am iits not genes .. Its just the cicumstances that I lived in and a glich in the way I was raised .......
Plz help
i really need it
thnx 4 replying anyways

First off i'm not gonna tell you being gay is alright,
i have nothing against gay/lesbians, but I agree it's not right.

Well i'm am straight, and, it's not just like I can turn gay. You know?

But one thing that is the problem is you have just women around you.
People who grow up w/ just women or sisters, turn out more girlish, cuz I have friends who just have sisters you can tell.

Do you have any guys friends? You need to get more of them and hang out with them more than you do, or as much as you can. That should help you out a little bit.

I don't know what country you are in, but try to look at some form of pornography, and tell yourself you are attracted to women. Or just look at women on the street and tell yourself that you like them.

I don't have any experience w/ gay people or gay friends, but I hope I helped you out.

Maybe you just connect more with men than women for some different reasons, maybe you should try to look for more attractive traits in women, that you would normally see in men, what you like and dont like...

Have you thought about meeting with a (christian) counselor? They would be able to help you through this.

Okay, i'm a psychiatrist and i'll be honest and blunt.

First, praying to god won't do jack caca for your situation. Second, do not tell your parents unless you feel comfortable doing so. Third, you can't just stop being gay. It's not something you can turn on/off. Here's my advice for now. At this point in your life, don't worry about about being gay/straight. Just be you. If you think gay t houghts and get hard, go jerk off and keep your feelings to yourself. If you can, start looking at female porn and see if it helps turn you on. If it doesn't, then for now, just focus on school, getting into college, etc. In time, you'll start to feel more comfortable with your feelings.

Another thing: don't force yourself to date girls or act straight. Don't try to force sex on girls either to prove you're straight. There is a condition called ego dystonic homosexuality, which means you freak out from being gay so much, you start to rape girls, beat up gays, and act like an problem to prove your manhood. Don't do that. Just sit back and look at it coldly, logically, and objectively. If you're turned on by guys, just jack off and don't let anyone know about it. No one will find out unless you a) get caught with gay porn or b) tell someone or c) hit on a guy. If you don't do those things, no one will know.

I think as you get older, you'll become more comfortable with your feelings and can decide what you want to do. Also, your parents sound like closed-minded suckers.

First off, i'm gonna ask you straight out: are you a christian? By asking I am in no way implying you aren't I just wanna be sure, because alot of people have the wrong definition of what it means to be a christian. Going to church does not make you a christian. Being "a good person" does not make you a christian. The only thing that makes you a christian is trusting in jesus christ as your lord and savior. If you haven't already, confess your sins to him and accept him into your heart. I'm dead serious about this, if you are not trusting in jesus for your salvation you are not a christian.


I understand you're praying. That's good, keep it up! God often doesn't answer prayer immediately, so persevere, don't give up! Giving in to your homosexual feelings is not the way to go. God makes it very clear in the bible that homosexuality is wrong. Persevere in prayer, and i'm confident god will "turn" you. If god can save people from all sorts of other sexual sin (porno addiction, adultery, etc...) he can certainly save you from homosexuality.


Oh and see a christian conselor, i'm sure that would be very helpful. Make sure you see a born-again christian though (one who's a christian according to what I said above). There are alot of people claiming to be believers out there who aren't.


By the way i'm 17 too :). I'll be praying for you man.

I'll try to dig up some verses to back up what i'm saying and (hopefully) give you some comfort :)

god bless.

Well, i'm not gonna say that being gay is ok, because nobody can be sure of that, but if it wasn't then why would there be gay people? Anyways its not your fault that you are gay so don't feel that way, and the chances are that it is not something that you can change... As far as making your parents proud and having a family, maybe you could try finding a woman who understands and have a family that way. After all, nobody says that you have to be physically attracted to somebody to have a relationship with them, as long as you love them. As far as your problem goes though, the thing I cannot stress more is that its not your fault you are who you are, and its ok to accept yourself. If you do not want to take part in homosexual acts because you find them to be disgraceful then you don't have to, but you will find that you will have the best results if you do accept yourself for who you are.

I hope you find some of this helpful, and if you do decide to try having a relationship with a woman just make sure she knows what shes getting into, and make sure you do love her, and she loves you.

Hi, I have had a lot of experience with this topic. If you think you might be gay, you most likely are and you should accept that. There is no way to change how you feel and what you are sexually attracted to. There is nothing wrong with being gay. While it may seem abnormal in our society, go to greece most men there are either gay or claim to be bisexual. Humans are sexual beings, and should be able to please themselves in ways that they enjoy. Sex should be enjoyed by all, and when you are forced into having intercourse with a sex you arent attracted to its not as enjoying. According to scientific studies, there is no such thing as a bisexual male. Bisexuality of men is a direct result on how the american society treats homosexual men. So if your thinking you might be gay, I am sure you have a good reason. You most likely are, and the only way to find out is to experiment. Americans need to open their minds up a little, and try something new!