My Story (and How My Mom Took the "baby Fever" Out Posted: 08-15-05 16:16pm
When I was sixteen, I wanted a baby.
Badly! When my mom heard about it, she
found one of those dolls that are used in
sex-ed (the ones that cry all day and all
night.....) and gave it to me. Her words
were:
"you wanted to have a child, so here she
is." she made me use all of my earnings
from my job to "pay" for diapers for my
baby (doll), bottles, formula, clothing
and doctor's visits. Sometimes, she'd say
as I was waking up in the morning "gabi is
very sick, you must take her to the
doctor." so, I had to get up at five in
the morning and sit in the doctor's clinic
(whom she had called before I left home.)
for three or four hours before I was
"seen". I remember the tears that I had
when gabi would start "crying" at 1am and
then again at 1:30, then 2am and then 4am.
When gabi was "sick" I had to stay home
to "take care of her". My mom wouldn't
babysit, saying instead "you have to watch
your own child. It's not my job." I never
went out with my friends anymore. In
fact, a lot of my friends stopped hanging
out with me after I "had" gabi.
All the while, my mom kept asking "do you
still want to be a mother?" I actually
didn't feel that it was unbearable for the
first few months. After a year of this, I
finally screamed that I had had enough!
Believe me, after that experience, I
didn't even want to think about having sex
or even having kids until I was thirty!
I was homeschooled, and the entire
experience counted for a unit of health
credit. The money used to "pay" for baby
necessities, was put into my college fund.
Much as I hated my mom at that time for
what she did, I finally have looked back
on the experience and recently thanked her
for turning me around.
I'm almost done with college now , i'm in
a serious relationship with a great guy, I
have my own apartment and I run a
successful business.
(i'm 21 by the way)
please wait to have children! Please
enjoy your younger years. Believe me, the
first time that you have to pay utilities
and pay the rent, you will want to go back
to the days where your parents did
everything for you and all that you had to
do was take care of a few chores and go to
school.
For those who already have children or are
pregnant now, I applaud you!
Being a mom is definitely one of the
greatest joys of your life and also one of
the hardest things to do and do well.
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neeko177
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Feb 2005 Posts: 427
Posted: 08-19-05 01:27am
Thats nuts
ur mom is nuts and so r u for going along
with it for a year..
Your mom's amazing! She did a wonderful
job evidently.
Congratulations!
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vanessalouanne
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Posted: 08-19-05 16:19pm
More moms should do what yours did.
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neeko177
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Feb 2005 Posts: 427
Posted: 08-19-05 22:40pm
Im not saying its a bad thing... I mean
it makes sense...
Just most people her age wouldnt do it for
so long with a doll.. Its different if
you have no choice and have a real live
baby.. But id go nuts taking care of a
doll for that long
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aviva_dawn
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Aug 2005 Posts: 6 Location: California
Posted: 08-19-05 22:57pm
Oh, I tried resisting.....But my mom said
that if I had decided to go against her
wishes, i'd be out of a roof over my
head....(basically: you are in my house
and whatever wishes and requests and rules
that I decide to enforce are what goes.)
so, I really had no choice but to go along
with the "baby experience" which calls it
now....
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jesticle
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 May 2005 Posts: 153 Location: Australia
Posted: 08-20-05 01:07am
I think thats awesome I too wanted a child
young when I was 15 i'd already moved
outta home and had a friend livin with me
she had a 7 month old she was a horrible
mother she was on drugs and would never
feed her or bath her so after 2 weeks of
noticing all these horrible things I took
over the job I did it for 6 months! I was
doing my yr10 and then college and found
it very hard catching a bus with a bub and
pram 2 bags and all my books I was alowed
to have her at school which helped but I
still missed alotta work and spent alot of
money and endless nights sleep once her
mum got her act together she got her own
place and believe me I was relieved I soon
changed my mind about havin children that
young! But 3 months later I was pregnant!
I lost my son but now im ready for the
whole lot I think that it is important for
young people thinkin of it atleast look
after a baby for a week and see how you
feel after it and same here if you have a
child or are pregnant I too congratulate
you your strong! I couldn't have done it
that young
