Do you think that being gay is by default
(i.E. You are born gay), or is it a
choice?
Reason i'm asking is because I think I am
gay but I dont want to be :?
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KellyR
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Aug 2005 Posts: 90
Posted: 08-27-05 00:50am
I think being gay or not is only up to
you...It doesn't matter what other people
think, whether we think you are born as
such or you have a choice...It only
matters what you want and how you
feel...
Maybe talking to a gay person who isn't in
the beginning will help you clear your
mind. I think you need to talk to someone
who has been through this as well and has
already made a choice and lived with
it...
Good luck!
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DJF985
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Joined: 18 Sep 2005 Posts: 7 Location: RI
Poll Posted: 09-18-05 14:33pm
Being gay , in my opinion is not a thing
people pick. It is something that you
are born with. Im gay, I didnt choose to
be that way, its just a part of who I am
and im happy with that.
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RGLwantababy
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Joined: 30 Sep 2005 Posts: 14 Location: USA
Re: Being Gay Posted: 10-02-05 14:50pm
forbsey
wrote:
do you think that being gay
is by default (i.E. You are born gay),
or is it a choice?
Reason i'm asking is because I think I am
gay but I dont want to be
:?
i think that people are born gay. In
this day and age who really wants to be
gay with all the hate in the world. So
many people commit suicide because they
can not deal with the pressure that the
world put on them for being gay. I feel
that to each its own. If being gay makes
you happy then so be it. I also question
myself sometimes.
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krick14
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Joined: 31 Oct 2005 Posts: 4 Location: Massachusetts
Poll: Being Gay Posted: 10-31-05 23:00pm
I think there are those that are born gay
and then those who are gay by choice. I
have friends who are both. In the end,
you are the only one that needs to look at
yourself in the mirror. I guess it is
whatever makes you the happiest.
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RGLwantababy
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Joined: 30 Sep 2005 Posts: 14 Location: USA
Posted: 11-02-05 15:25pm
I really think that when it comes to being
gay by choice that those are people who
have had suppressed feeling about their
sexuality and since there really is no
need to hide it anymore, they are now at
the point where they don't really care who
knows. My friend is gay but she tried
to deny for a very long time that she has
had these feelings. Her excuse was that
people always thought that she was gay so
she acted on it. I don't think so.
In my opinion I feel as though most people
worry about what their friends will think,
and whether or not they will still be
excepted by their peers. And last I
think they fear the most of hurting their
parents whereas they hide their true
sexuality.
i think there are those that
are born gay and then those who are gay by
choice. I have friends who are both.
In the end, you are the only one that
needs to look at yourself in the mirror.
I guess it is whatever makes you the
happiest.
i think you're born gay.
I know a lot of ppl who are gay....Love
them with all my heart! I don't think
anyone chooses to be gay. I just think
there are ppl who try and play a "role" of
what society makes them out to be.
Every year we have the gay pride parade...
It's great to be proud, but there's
something negative to say about men/women
who think showing their genitals off is
pride in any way shape or form!
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SoulReflections
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Joined: 13 Oct 2005 Posts: 4 Location: DC Area
Posted: 11-07-05 06:35am
I'm gay, too... And I can say with
certainty I didn't choose to feel the way
I feel. I do choose, however, to be
honest about it - with myself and others.
:d
i'm gay, too... And I can
say with certainty I didn't choose to feel
the way I feel. I do choose, however,
to be honest about it - with myself and
others. :d
good for you! :)
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forbsey
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Posted: 11-07-05 19:59pm
soulreflections
wrote:
i'm gay, too... And I can
say with certainty I didn't choose to feel
the way I feel. I do choose, however,
to be honest about it - with myself and
others. :d
there is no way I could tell my family.
They are all very homophobic. I really
don't know what to do, either tell them
and risk them disowning me or spend the
rest of my life living this secret double
life.
there is no way I could tell my family.
They are all very homophobic. I really
don't know what to do, either tell them
and risk them disowning me or spend the
rest of my life living this secret double
life.
be proud of who you are.... Never feel
guilty, bad, evil or embarrassed!
You have no reason to feel this way.... I
know it's hard but ignore the ignorance :)
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jezz
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Joined: 13 Nov 2005 Posts: 7 Location: south africa
Being Gay Posted: 11-13-05 10:34am
Hey
look im gay, I did not choose to be, I was
born that way. This is the life that has
been destined for me and im cool with it,
the only reason I think you aint cool
wioth the whole idea is that society makes
us look like sick people, we arent. We
are perfectly normal, actually,, whose to
says whats normal and what is not? If you
are gay, you cannto run away from it.
Take time out and actually think about it.
All I know is that it is with you 24/7,
rather then running away from it, embrace
it.
Hope all works well
jezz
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Dianegirl85
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Joined: 11 Nov 2005 Posts: 28 Location: Fort Smith, Arkansas
Posted: 12-25-05 20:56pm
I never heard gay is born. I didn't mean
I just want to being nice to you about
gay. Is that two women are together in
one life. And so one woman got pregnant
with woman born gay? Thanks.
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fatfamily02
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Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 3050 Location: Georgia, USA
Posted: 12-25-05 21:48pm
I do not believe that we can be born gay,
but I do believe that there is some kind
of hormonal imbalace in pple that makes
them more pre-disposed to become gay.
Take depression for example--it is proven
to be a hormonal im balance--but without
meds we can learn to get our minds around
the symptoms. We can convince ourselves
it is not a certain way, and pull our
minds out of the negative, and anxiety
involved with the depression, we can
choose to get outta bed, we can learn to
do good things for ourselves. If we
choose to!!!!
I feel the same about pple who "feel" they
are gay.
And some pple do not have that much
control over their minds and need some
kind of hormones(or drugs) to make them
feel right--gay pple included.
That is what I believe---sorry I dont want
to offend anyone. I love gays just like
anyone else. I know .God loves you all
just the same too.
It is like the mur/derer or rapist--if
they could control the symptoms of their
mental disease I dont think they would
choose to kill or rape, right. Some pple
can control it and some pple cant. But
isnt it still a choice????
".God made them male and female, that the
female would be a help mate for the man."
First joanna lets stop referring to .God
about everything. God can't "fix" them!
Why don't we just drug them :roll:
i know so many ppl who are gay and if were
given the choice they would "choose" not
to be...... Because of the stereotype
placed on them.
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fatfamily02
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Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 3050 Location: Georgia, USA
Posted: 12-25-05 22:24pm
michelle1981
wrote:
first joanna lets stop
referring to .God about everything. God
can't "fix" them!
Why don't we just drug them :roll:
i know so many ppl who are gay and if were
given the choice they would "choose" not
to be...... Because of the stereotype
placed on
them.
how dare you talk of .God in such a
manner!!!!
And for your information--.God is my
everything, and without .Him you are
nothing. I can refer to .Him if I
like and who are you to tell me I
cant????
And if a person needs drugs to feel and
behave "normal" then they need
drugs!!!!!
And I could be like the older religous
teachers and just rebuke all of you--for
being gay and for befriending them---but I
have understanding and compassion for
every one, and sick and tired of being
told how to feel and how to be, by you
self righteous pple.
And if you have nor more respect for me
than that---dont call me by my name.
And for your information--.God is my
everything, and without .Him you are
nothing. I can refer to .Him if I
like and who are you to tell me I cant????
And if a person needs drugs to feel and
behave "normal" then they need drugs!!!!!
And I could be like the older religous
teachers and just rebuke all of you--for
being gay and for befriending them---but I
have understanding and compassion for
every one, and sick and tired of being
told how to feel and how to be, by you
self righteous pple.
And if you have nor more respect for me
than that---dont call me by my
name.
you have understanding and compassion???
Sure is that why you stated "and if a
person needs drugs to feel and behave
"normal" then they need drugs!!!!! Ya i'd
say very understanding :roll:
god, you are so annoying!!!!
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fatfamily02
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Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 3050 Location: Georgia, USA
Posted: 12-25-05 23:21pm
michelle1981
wrote:
fatfamily02
wrote:
how dare you talk of .God in
such a manner!!!!
And for your information--.God is my
everything, and without .Him you are
nothing. I can refer to .Him if I
like and who are you to tell me I cant????
And if a person needs drugs to feel and
behave "normal" then they need drugs!!!!!
And I could be like the older religous
teachers and just rebuke all of you--for
being gay and for befriending them---but I
have understanding and compassion for
every one, and sick and tired of being
told how to feel and how to be, by you
self righteous pple.
And if you have nor more respect for me
than that---dont call me by my
name.
you have understanding and compassion???
Sure is that why you stated "and if a
person needs drugs to feel and behave
"normal" then they need drugs!!!!! Ya
i'd say very understanding :roll:
god, you are so
annoying!!!!
what are you talking about--why is that
annoying--cuz I dont "think" like you.
I say it is my opinion, and I know there
is no "normal" that is why it is in
parenthesies.
Well I atleast I give a person the benefit
of the doubt. Do you want me to tell
you really how it is????
everything
in this world: disease, sickness, hate,
anger, satan worshipping, mental illness,
drug abuse, homicide rape, gay and
lesbians, marriage breakers, adulterers,
oppression, depression, possession.
Anything "contrary to:" the word of .God,
goodness, truth, love, peace, holyness, or
a good report. Is all from demon
activity. And they all just need the
demons rebuked. Atleast I say "give
them the traditional method (drugs) so
they can realize it is a choice," and if
they realize that then they can make the
choice and once they "resist the devil he
will flee from them"
we all have a free will .God cannot and
will not take that from us, cuz he dont
want us to serve him if we "have" to.
The devil cannot take our free
will either. For it is a choice
whether we serve god and do the right
thing, or if we fall for the trap of the
devil and do his things. That is it.
Now, if a person chooses to believe the
lies, whatever they may be, that it what
he will become, and what he will follow.
Or a person can believe the truth and
follow .God and become what .God wants him
to be. It is a choice. But to that
man who has given into the lies and
followed them, to him it seems like he has
no choice demons have manifested and taken
over they are controlling him, but
he can still choose to say no to it.
And then .God will come in and give him
the power to overcome it. A man can
still say no until he is dead, he still
has the choice. Even when it dont feel
like it to him.
i was
tryin to be gentle, but this is the
truth
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shelly27
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Joined: 14 Nov 2005 Posts: 9
Posted: 12-27-05 12:25pm
This is in reply to fat family
posts,firstly you do not have a clue what
you are talking about ,being gay is
nothing to do with a chemical imbalance.\
you simply are attracted to the other sex
or your own,and it is defenetly not
someting you choose! We are all on our
own journeys here and some of us is gay
and some of us is straight.
Frankly I find your posts down right
ignorant
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fatfamily02
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Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 3050 Location: Georgia, USA
