This woman has gone through alot in the
last few days.
I think an administrator should just erase
this topic completely, let sxcgirl_me
mourne with her family, and let everyone
else on here forget about what has just
happened. You've seen the pics...What
other proof do you need? It's over with.
If you believe it or not is your own
personal choice.- keep it at that
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mommy of 1
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Jul 2005 Posts: 291 Location: traverse city michigan
Posted: 08-17-05 19:11pm
Well said, I agree
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fatfamily02
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 3050 Location: Georgia, USA
I Repeat I Lost 18, 19 Week Went Home In One Hour.... Posted: 08-17-05 19:17pm
All I remember of my child is the back of
his head, the crack of his butt and feet
about 1 inch long--this was 23 years ago
and they said it was better for me not to
see him. What I did see looked just like
full term color wise and
everything--except he was smaller. He
was born alive and no memorial no dressing
him nothing just went hoome without him.
He could not survive in that hospital for
they dint have the facilities to care for
him they told me. And refused to let me
see him or hold him--i fought but they
dint budge. Its better for you this
way--so I remember his crack of butt!!
Id much rather remember his face. He was
totally normal just came out early.
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mommy of 1
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Jul 2005 Posts: 291 Location: traverse city michigan
Posted: 08-17-05 19:20pm
You said you have been preg 10 times, how
many kids did you actually have?
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3kizz
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jun 2005 Posts: 308
Posted: 08-17-05 19:23pm
It s not just the pictures, it the mere
fact that shes on here spilling her guts
to all of us. Listen and think for
amoment, would you or anyone you know come
on here and post a notice that she lost
her twins. I for one know that if lost my
children no one would see me much less
have the energy to go on the computer to
do what she did and further more give in
to someone because they didn't believe her
com' on please. Thats not grieving that
advertisment. She seriously needs to talk
to someone to guide her through this
otherwise shes going to crack
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fatfamily02
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 3050 Location: Georgia, USA
Posted: 08-17-05 19:32pm
I have 3 children and had 6 miscarriages
one as old as 18 19 weeks, dont know for
sure. One was partial mole--placental
degeneration--baby dies--mass looking like
grapes grows--cancer cells in blood. My
blood was cleared after got preg already
with the one I carried to 18 19 weeks,
think that is why I started bleeding and
passing clots. Trying to clean me out.
He tried to run away from blood flow I
felt him. I felt him move right be4--and
heard his heartbeat the day be4.. Like I
say he was born alive.
To the other posts, some pple have to put
a bandaid on the pain and just keep going
that is there way to deal with it. I
went back to work next morning and just
kept living. I cried everytime I thought
of him and every time I talked about him,
but god came in one day and healed me
enough to be able to share it now without
any pain. I wish I could have held him,
dressed him and I would give anything to
have a picture of him.
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3kizz
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jun 2005 Posts: 308
Posted: 08-17-05 19:39pm
fatfamily02
wrote:
I cried everytime I thought of him and
every time I talked about him, but god
came in one day and healed me enough to be
able to share it now without any pain. I
wish I could have held him, dressed him
and I would give anything to have a
picture of
him.
this is true but would you post it on the
internet? And then post pictures of your
children. Think about it.
Don't get me wrong I feel for this woman,
but she needs to speak to someone, I think
thats what shes trying to accomblish, but
she needs to do it in private with someone
who can guide her
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sxcgirl_me
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 372 Location: Sydney - Australia
Posted: 08-17-05 22:36pm
Im feeling a little better today,
its just so hard not knowing what to do
afterwards.
Its just hard to believe that they were
such perfect babies.
I prefer to talk over the net than in
person because talking to someone face to
face I just start crying.
Dont call my girls disturbing because they
are beautiful, they were born with 10
fingers, 10 toes, a nose and a mouth, they
were perfect, just so tiny.
For the person who asked, the reason they
were so red was because of they're
condition (twin to twin transfusion
syndrome)
which was limiting their blood supply.
Ps seksi, get a life, have u ever been
through it?
I was at the hospital from 10am to about
4;3- pm so yes I was there half the day
and yes I saw councellors, and no they
weren't gonna do tests because the babies
were so premature and because the doctors
and I already knew that they're condition
caused the preterm labour, because thats
what it does.
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mommy of 1
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Jul 2005 Posts: 291 Location: traverse city michigan
Posted: 08-17-05 22:38pm
Everyone deals with these things
different,not all understand that I guess,
do what you need to do to help yourself
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El
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Mar 2005 Posts: 476 Location: Melbourne, Australia
Tragedy Posted: 08-18-05 02:45am
Oh sxcgirl, i'm so sorry.
I haven't been ion the forum for a couple
of weeks, I didn't even know you were
having twins.
All I can say is I feel just sick for you,
I really do- and to all those nutcases who
were sick enough to accuse you of making
it up, or then, after seeing your picks,
judge you for not beein "too sad" to write
on the forum get some f@*king help. Or at
least some doing it sense.
Naturally, if you've been on the forum
since you found out you were pregnant,
making connections with other mothers, and
talking things through- where else would
you go to talk about your loss???
Also- for the inbelievers, a personal
friend of my own in melbourne also lost
her twin girls two weeks ago, at 19 weeks
and she was given some time with them, and
a memory pack thing also- they called her
babies stillborn too. They didn't have
the same disorder, but they shared a
placenta, even though they had seperate
sacs. One of the twins developed a hole
in the wal of the sack, and my poor friend
leaked amnionic fluid for about two weeks-
all the while knowing she would lose at
least one twin- untill she finally went
into labour and delivered both of them.
Its trajic.
Any loss is trajic.
Have a heart.
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sxcgirl_me
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 372 Location: Sydney - Australia
Posted: 08-18-05 03:00am
Thank you so much el,
i think people just dont understand that
this is a support forum or maybe they are
just too young and dumb on here.
I have had people show me pictures of
their babies when they have been stillborn
but caca I dont go on saying how
disgusting it is.
I gave birth to these girls and im not
disgusted by them.
I will grieve the way I want to grieve and
I just so happen to like getting my
feelings out on a support forum than
talking to some strange councellor I dont
even know face to face being a blubbering
mess.
If you dont like that, then stop reading
my messages
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3kizz
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jun 2005 Posts: 308
Posted: 08-18-05 08:04am
I'm sorry for placing judgment on the way
you grieve. Please forgive me...
I won't say anything else. I'm sorry for
your extreme loss. I guess just one
other thing. Keep talking to ever will
listen, to help you through this. You're
right this is a support group over the net
and there are some ppl here that can be
harsh in their ways of communication. I
also saw the pictures and any mother can
appreciate how beautiful they were.
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nikki22
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Aug 2005 Posts: 25 Location: bridgeport,ct
Omg Posted: 08-18-05 09:06am
I am so sorry for your loss. :(
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melgto
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2005 Posts: 79 Location: west sussex
Posted: 08-18-05 12:10pm
Just seen the pics, I am so sorry for your
loss, the pic bought tears to my eyes,
:cry: once again sorry, and I hope you get
through this ordeal as best you can, I
think I can say for most girls on this
site who are not selfish and can help
other people in times of need,
our hearts go out to you x
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mayhi
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Mar 2005 Posts: 455 Location: Halifax, NS Canada
Posted: 08-18-05 12:25pm
I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet
little girls. My heart goes out to you.
*hugs*
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Kate917881
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Jul 2005 Posts: 113
Hi Posted: 08-18-05 15:34pm
Hey sxcgirl_me I am sorry to hear about
your lose, your right , you gave birth to
two very beautiful little girls. Most
people would look at the pictures and say
it's disturbing, but to the mother, they
are two very beautiful little angels. So
I congradulate you on having to beautiful
angels who were given to god, and for
being so strong.
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sxcgirl_me
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 372 Location: Sydney - Australia
Posted: 08-18-05 20:20pm
Thank you.
Im so happy this weekend is here. I can
keep myself occupied and my boyfriend wont
be working. Im always so much happier
when he is at home.
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dande1122
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Aug 2005 Posts: 3 Location: New York
Posted: 08-18-05 22:18pm
Oh my god I feel horrible ,,,,,,,,,,,,,and
im sooooo sorry for ur loss but I think
that posting the pics was in bad
taste,,,,,,,,,give them some dignity