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Q: Dont Know Whats Going On...

asked by: askara on August 19th, 2005

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Ok

i had my last propper peroid on july 14th, I had sex with my partner several times in the 2 weeks up to when I would be ovulating, and from what I seem to remember some time around the time I would be ovulating.
We use the withdrawal method, I know its not the best method, but thats neither here nor there!

10 days before my period was due I had issues with my lady bits, they became itchy and sore, peeing was fine but wiping was a night mare and it just felt all gritty.
About 7 days before I was due I had very friendly nipples, my boobs proceeded to get larger it seemed and became tender.

Veins appeared in both boobs, all around my nipples and areola.

On sunday I got some mild cramping, thought nothing of it as I just presumed that I was wrong about all the above and it was my monthly starting, early sunday evening I had some spotting .. And then nothing again till monday morning.

Monday was the date I was due to start and it did, I would say I had a meduim flow which wasnt out of the ordinary for me.

Tuesday morning it had stopped and was nothing but brown stuff, tuesday evening there was a little more, and since then its been onand off but so incredibly light that its almost not worth wearing a pad for.

This is very unlike me, normally its there.. Bleed heavly for 5 days.. And stop. None of this assing about!

My boobs have quit being tender, they are fine now, the veins are still there and if I poke them I still get saulted.

There are these little white specks on my areola that I can see and feel.

I was sick yesterday, it was only a small amount but this was probaly bause I hadnet eaten anything that morning, I felt sick most of the evening but wasnt sick again

my bowel motions have changed alot, normaly I go once a day thats it. At the moment I am going more than once a day and its soft and alot looser than it normaly is.

After brushing my teeth today I had to sit for a good 10 mins as my mouth was watering and tummy squirming gagging, but I managed to conrol my self enough that I wasnt sick.

I am shattered, I am sitting here with my eyes closing, once this is dont I am gonna go take a nap!!

I keep on feeling like I need to pee, I dont go as its not a urgent feeling but its a niggling feeling that says.. "you knwo you wanna!"

i am having to sleep with a fan on as I am getting too hot.

I did a test 4 days before my period was due and it was negative, I did ont just now and again it was negative.

I spoke to my doctor and shes just said I have bled, its too early as I would only be 5 weeks to be feeling sick or have tiredness, but to be sure (and to keep me happy I guess) told me to do another test in 2 weeks.

I really dont know whats going on. I dont know what to think.
I keep on getting something thats a fine line between nausa/butterflies/hunger or something in my belly.

When I push on my belly there are areas that are tender and if I push any harder it hurts. Then again I do tend to get backed up and I can also feel where this is.

So yeah.. I have no idea whats going on, if my dr just being a ass.. Or what. Something.. Anything...!!
I doubt I could go to the drs now and get a blood test.. As shes now convinced I am not.

And on that note.. I feel the need to go hug my toilet!

Replies(43)

Pocket Angel

replied on August 19th, 2005

Experienced User

I am going to ask for more info if you dont mind!

So you have been to the doctor? I know you have previous posts but just figured I woudl ask her. Did she give you a blood test? Are the hpt's coming back negative?

I just wanted to let you know, that just because you got your period, doesnt mean your not pregnant. My sister had her period for 2 months, then she missed the 3rd one... She went to the doc and she was 3 months pregnant.

Do you feel pregnant? Alot of the time, your own instinct will lead you in the right direction. Is your tummy harder than usual?

askara

replied on August 19th, 2005

Experienced User

Aww thank you so much for replying!!

I havent been to the docs, we have a system where we call, they call us back, if they feel that they need to see you they will give you a appointment.

She feels no need to do a blood test due to the fact that I have had a period. Even tho to me,, its the weirdest damn one I have ever had, as I said before normaly they start, bleed, and stop. Heavly and thats it.
This time it was just enought to annoy me but not a major bleed, just so incredibly light.

I have done 2 tests, both have been negative.

But I was pregnant in november last year, I only got a positive at 7 weeks, but sadly lost it at 7.5 weeks due to a fever, 2 days at 103 didnt do me any good.

I am in 2 minds about how I feel, I think about the signs and how I really am not my self and I think yes I am. But then I go in to denial and that its all in my head due to the fact that this week was my oringinal due date.

When I lay on my back my belly feels diffrent.. But I cant place what.. But normally its all squishy but there are definate areas of firmness.

Another thing is that I am so tearfull. I am not a majorly tearful person, but I drove to my dads the other day and as I was gettign otu the car I heard him saying how I was the last person he wanted to see.. I got straight back in my car and drive home crying most of the way.. Now my dad has said far worse to me in the past so thats nothing that would normally bother me.

The thing is, I knwo my diet is not the best and if I was pregnant I reaally should be taking vitamins and if anything I hope I am cause my dr has just come back off maternity leave.. And is adiment if it didnt happen to her.. It doesnt happen.. So getting sickness this early is impossible. If anything.. I want to prove her wrong.

But I knwo one thing.. Something aint right!

Pocket Angel

replied on August 20th, 2005

Experienced User

Well, I really think you need to look into finding a new doctor! If you feel like you need a blood test, you get one! Your the one paying for it, not your doctor. Getting a new doctor will help you now and in the future... She doesn't seem very reliable!

Like I said above, just because you have a period, it doesnt mean your not pregnant. It is pretty sad that us moms on here know that, and your doctor doesnt!

I am suspected to be 7 weeks pregnant (my first doc apt is on the 2nd) and I started getting sicks at 5 weeks. That is pretty early from what I hear, to be getting sick, but it does happen!

Go with your instinct, find a doctor that will treat you the way you deserve and you can rely on!

fatfamily02

replied on August 20th, 2005

Extremely eHealthy

You are pregnant I would bet my life on it. The last normal period was july 14 then you would be 3 weeks past ovulation and 5 weeks past period right?? This past thursday 5 weeks past period. So drs would call it 5 weeks since they start the counting from the last period not the ovulation cycle.

My daughter and I had to wait until 3 weeks after the missed period to get pos urine test. (drs call it 7 weeks preg.) this past weeks bleeding was not your period so from the 11th you would count 3 week, and by then you will get the pos test if not be4. By the first of sept you will know for sure by urine test. You could go to the dr be4 then and get blood test, and like I say it might come out sooner for you than it did for us. But dont give up on the urine test until 3 weeks past.

askara

replied on August 20th, 2005

Experienced User

Well I am in england so its all on the nhs (national health service) so I dont pay for it unless I go to a private doctor..

Semi-unoffical peroid ended yesterday and this morning my partner and me had sex and dear lord it hurt. I am sitting here with cramp like feelings or something.. Who knows.. I know hes not a little boy but still.. This isnt normal for me!

I am very restless at night and although I am so tired I am finding it very hard to atcually fall asleep, just cant get comfy.

I think half the problem with this is that as much as I want to think.. Yup.. I am right, I am pregnant and the dr is wrong.. I dont want to set my self up for being dissapointed. I lay there last night thinking of all the things that have happened.. That arnt typical of me.. And thinking.. Ok.. What could have caused them other than pregancy. I kinda drew blank.. And now I am here with these niggling cramp type thing which dont impress me much and I am more and more inclined to think.. Atcually I am. But then the part that says to me dont.. You will only be dissapointed when you find out it was all in your head.

I kinda worked out a way to tell last night, I always know when I am ovulating because of the change in the dishcarge, it goes all stringy and I am super soggy for a day or so.. If that happens in a week then I can presume that I am not cause logically you arnt going to be ovulating while pregnant.

Only down side to this is that I have had almost a constant headache for a few days now, if not longer, but I wont take any kind of pain killers if I am pregnant. Atleast not ones that I know will do any harm.

But thanks for your responses.. It takes the edge off knowing that I am not talking to my self!

fatfamily02

replied on August 20th, 2005

Extremely eHealthy

For the first few weeks I had the headache. Then in 2 trimester I think its also common to have the headaches. When I was miscarrying I learned if you are bleeding do not have sexual intercourse. But pains in vagina and cramping after is also common in early pregnancy. Dont worry it will be fine. Im sure you are pregnant.

askara

replied on August 20th, 2005

Experienced User

You 2 say so sweet things that make me smile!

And I really do hope your right!

;)

annarella

replied on August 20th, 2005

Experienced User

Can't believe it, i've just wrote a really long reply and cancelled it all by mistake :shock:
anyway basically I had said that what u are going through, is the same thing I went through 2 months ago, I had taken a hpt 2 days before period was due because I had sore boobs, back ache, and some really strange spotting for bout 1 week before it was due (never ever happened), even some headaches etc, which I never suffer from, anyway hpt came out negative and sure enough period day arrived and it came but it was lighter then usual for 2 days and then it tailed off, which was strange,

anyway didn't think any more of it before my boobs and back felt better etc afterwards plus I know that if it comes (even if lighter etc) the day its supposed to its classed as a normal period,

2 weeks after that me and my hubby decided to try for a baby which actually coincided with the time that I should ovulate, so we started doing it like rabbits for about the 10 days. About 1 week into the jiggy jiggy phase (bout 10 days before period was due) I started to feel strange again, straight away I knew something was different!, but I was determined not to think bout it, telling myself that I can't go through every month of trying imagining these symptoms and be disappointed every time. But deep down I knew I was pregnant, in fact day by day I noticed new symptoms, back ache and sore nipples returned, then about 4 days before period was due I noticed alot of discharge when I wiped and it was pink for 2 days, the veins came up on my boobs, and I felt like a butterfly sensation in my stomach, it was really strange.

Anyway being impatient like I am :d , I did a hpt the day before period was due and nearly fainted when it came out positive, and not a tiny faint line! It was a bfp!!! (big fat positive), I had expected that I was pregnant but certainly didn't expect a positive so early, and definately not such a strong .

Anyway being over in italy, I had my first scan at 7 weeks, and doc asked me about 3 times if my periods were regular to which I answered yes (not thinking to mention bout the last month, as I was just tooooo nervous and overwhelmed at seeing my likkle white blob on the screen hehe)
got my next scan 1st sept, will be just under 12 weeks, and i'm half expecting for the doc to turn around and say that i'm further on then what I think and that that last period wasn't a real period, as I don't think the doc has hearing probs :d , think he would have heard me say 3 times that periods were normal, but I suspect he suspects that i'm further on.

Anyway again i've just wrote a long reply!! :d , I just ramble to much, I just want to follow your instincts!!!, I think u know deep down if u are or not!
When was your last normal period and when was that bleeding?
Anyway sending you loads of baby dust all the way from italy!!!!!
Xxxxxxx keep us posted

annarella

replied on August 20th, 2005

Experienced User

Btw I also felt a bit weepy every now and then, I mean, I started cheering then blubbering after hearing the announcement on radio 1 that london had won the olympic bid :d hahaha , thats when I started to worry ( I was all alone in the shop :d) , I felt like a right fool,
anyway thankgod thats passed now, as i', 9 weeks 5 days gone

good luck again!!!!

askara

replied on August 20th, 2005

Experienced User

:d

you just made me laugh so much!!!

I am still not sure what to think, but eh.. What will be will be. I am going to go to a family planning thing sometime next week and ask if they will do a blood test for me cause as I said before.. Its the not knowing that is killing me!

But I know something isnt as it normaly is.

After this mornings activities I had pain in my lower bits, had cramps.. But really mild ones.. Which I dont ever get unless I am just abotu to bleed again.. And I still have this damn headache.

I tell you this much tho.. If I am.. I will cry.. For several reasons.. One being that one of the few perks to being pregnant is that you dont have to deal with a period.. And I dont even get that perk!!

N.N

Pocket Angel

replied on August 20th, 2005

Experienced User

You know, I can really relate to annarella's post!

I am waiting for my first doc apt on september 2nd. My last period on june 30th though, was very abnormal. I bled a little heavy for a few hours, it stopped in the evening and overnight, then I bled lightly for 2 days, so 3 days total. I always bleed heavy for 4-5 days during my regular menstrual periods.

So although I am using that last "bleeding" as my lmp, instead of 7 weeks, I could be 10 - 11 weeks, going by my last regular period on june 2nd! Only the ultra-sound shall tell haha.

Askara, I went to a family planning center. I took a urine test there. They said theirs was alot more sensative than the home pregnancy tests. Maybe they have the more sensative ones at your familly planning center? I sure hope so!

As for your symptoms, I agree with fatfamily. In early pregnancy it is very common to have cramping of the vagina and of your abdonimal area after sex. Sex is a bit more uncomfortable for me!

I also had the headaches, they started two weeks ago and I haven't had one in a few days, thank goodness! But I also have a really hard time sleeping at night, my legs will ache really bad. And although I could be dead exhausted, its like my body doesnt want me falling to sleep! Last night I had by far, the worst back aching I have had in a long time. I was actually dreaming that I was getting a back massage, by someone who didnt know what they were doing in, therefor causing pain lol!

I am sitting here right now with some mild cramping in my abdomen. I havent experienced it in a few weeks, but it started this morning and has been on and off, pretty constant, all day. I guess in a way, its a good feeling! Sometimes without being able to feel the baby, I start to panick and think I am not pregnant! Haha

chances are, if you are pregnant, which I think you are, that you wont have your next period. When is that one due?

askara

replied on August 20th, 2005

Experienced User

Lets see... 32 days from the 15th.. So around the 17th of september. Something like that anyway!

I have been out for a bike ride today to get some air, follow my partner as hes training for the london marathon.. Knwo whats funny.. If I am pregnant I will be due the day he runs! Talk about a big day!

But I cycled along him while he runs in hopes for some fresh air and to get rid of this headache.. But no luck, it just wont shift. Ce la vie!

annarella

replied on August 21st, 2005

Experienced User

I still have cramps, I find it veryyyy reassuring, as they say that it means that the babys growing, and the uterus is expanding, so although its annoying it gives me peace of mind. But I have to tell u this, being pregnant is magical but i'm so bored already of all these symtoms, headaches, nausea, boob ache etc etc :shock: . I was one of those people that never gets sick etc, the only time i'd feel crap was if I drank to much the night before :d , but now it seems that I have a permenant hangover (not that its that bad allll the time) just wish I could go back to being on top form every now and then to get a break from being tired etc.

Am basically living on the hope that I won't be one of those unlucky women that have these symptoms right till birth, am sooooo hoping I will regain my energy and appetite etc after the 3 month mark!!

Anyway am keeping fingers and toes crossed for u, as soon as u find out something, write us a msg!!, am sooo curious to know if u are preggers or not ! Hehe god i'm terrible, not only am I impatient with myself am patient to find out if others are pregnant too lol tsk tsk :d

anyway baby dust baby dust baby dust!!!!!!

askara

replied on August 21st, 2005

Experienced User

Dont you worry! You lot will be the first to know... And then I will somehoe think up a plan to tell my partner..

Although we dont use any form of contraception other than the pull out method we are not activly trying, mainly because of the money situation and I have a new job on the horizon, so I am not sure what will happen if I find out I am. Several reasons, I think it unfair to a new employer to take me on and then only to loose me for 6 months afterwards. The job is for a nanny for a little girl with special needs so its not like someone can just jump in and take over with ease. But I know I will love this job and will definatly want to go back to it.. Not only that but is a 10k payrise for me.. Which will sort out our issues with lack of money.

I dont know if this is because I am possibly pregnant.. Or just bad luck but I seem to be getting a number of spots on my face int he last few days, I normally only get them a few days before I come on.. And these monsters hurt!!! I am finding it hard not to pick them!!

But out of curiousty I know fatfamily is in her 40's, 42 I belive, but how old are the rest of you and your partners.
I am 21 and my snoring counterpart is 31, been together nearly 3 years but feels like a lifetime, I would be utterly lost with out him! (not to mention I cant find my way out of a paper bag and he somehow knows where he is no matter how lost we get!)

fatfamily02

replied on August 21st, 2005

Extremely eHealthy

Ha ha ha

mine snoring counterpart is 46 I am 43 be 44 in dec.

Yes, how old are you ladies??

Pocket Angel

replied on August 21st, 2005

Experienced User

I am 21 and my fiance is 21. We were planning a wedding before the pregnancy haha, but now the pregnancy has taken over! We still hope to get married next september.

Askara, money is also the only thing I stress out about. I just got a new job too, it starts september 6th, and it gives me benefits woo woo! Lol. It couldn't be more perfect of timing... But I also didn't tell anyone I was pregnant until I definitely got the job. I work at a school... Also for special needs kids. I love it there!

askara

replied on August 21st, 2005

Experienced User

You guys make me grin!!

This new job wouldnt start will october.. So if I am.. I will be 3 months by then.. And I would feel really bad about it.. But I need that new job cause wih otu it we are screwed money wise.

But I would love this job so much, this little girl is 4, a complete doll, has cerebal paulsy and her brother is a gem! I have been called back for a second interview so I am crossing all crossable things that I get it!

Me and my snoring counterpart are plannign on getting married.. But again he wants to do it perfectly! So I guess I gotta act like a lady for a day!

Fatfamily a lady where I currently work had 2 kids when she was 17 and 19, she raised them the best she can.. And when she was 41 she found out she wa spregnant, and she was told that she would never have any more kids.. Tis funny as her youngest son is younger by a few months than her grandaughter! But she still cant decide which was easier being a young mum or being one whos a bit longer on the tooth!

askara

replied on August 21st, 2005

Experienced User

... I have peed 6 times since waking up...

If I aint.. Then my bladder has officially shrunk to the soze of a small mexican jumping bean!

Thought I would share

annarella

replied on August 22nd, 2005

Experienced User

Hahahahahaha :d

thanx for sharing that askara hahaha

who knows? How far past are you now from your last normal period?? 1 week?, might be worth a try doing a test if u are around 1 week late, just in case u are, so then u can start taking folic acid etc, if u wait till sept, u will have already missed a month of valuable vit taking hehe.

Anyway like I said, i'm impatient when it comes to this things, I certainly wouldn't be able to wait so long lol

i see we're talking bout ourselves a bi, well, i'm 24, hubby of 2 1/2 years had just turned 30, we've been together for 6 years, i'm english but have been living with him in italy for the 6 years we've been together.
Don't know what else to say really :-)

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