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ddjones

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I Need to Talk to Someone Posted: 08-20-05 01:37am


I'm 15 i've been having a lot of problems with my friends lately. They never call me or invite me to do something with them and I am constanly excluded. I don't think they really give a damn about me. My "best friend" didn't invite me to her birthday party last year and she said it was because she didn't have my phone #. At that time we had known each other for 9 years. I think I suffer from depression but I don't know. Yah I have had suicidal thoughts and yah I have tried to kill myself but then when the moment comes I just freeze...What is wrong with me? I always think about what would happen if I were dead. My older brother suffered from depression. I never knew until my parents told me and I broke down crying. I always used to cry about things like that but now...I just bottle up my feelings and shut myself in my bedroom wondering which would be the best way to kill myself...Overdose on pills...Hang...Drown. I don't know why I do this but I don't like it and I want help :cry: :cry: :cry:

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Hope This Helps
Posted: 08-20-05 09:25am

ddjones wrote:

i'm 15 i've been having a lot of problems with my friends lately. They never call me or invite me to do something with them and I am constanly excluded. I don't think they really give a damn about me. My "best friend" didn't invite me to her birthday party last year and she said it was because she didn't have my phone #. At that time we had known each other for 9 years. I think I suffer from depression but I don't know. Yah I have had suicidal thoughts and yah I have tried to kill myself but then when the moment comes I just freeze...What is wrong with me? I always think about what would happen if I were dead. My older brother suffered from depression. I never knew until my parents told me and I broke down crying. I always used to cry about things like that but now...I just bottle up my feelings and shut myself in my bedroom wondering which would be the best way to kill myself...Overdose on pills...Hang...Drown. I don't know why I do this but I don't like it and I want help :cry: :cry: :cry:

if you freeze you don't want to do it!! If the feeling becomes unbearable think of what good in your life in my case my parents. You sound alot like me when I was your age!

I think what really woke me up was when my brother rang me up crying to say goodbye to me!!! The next 24 hrs were the longest of my life so far!! I now know what it feels like to be on the other side of the scale. I felt hurt and angry at him because I have felt like doing it as well but I never succumed to the temptation!! I love my parents, b/f, siblings too much to put them through so much pain!! That is what keeps me stable now!!

Your "friends" don't seem like they care about you babe!! I know they are very important at your age but if possible could you find another, nicer, more caring group to be apart of?? My motto is "friends may come and go but it is your family that is there forever" so it doesn't worry me that I don't have any friends.

I suggest that you go to your doctor! Most likely they will give you a perscription for anti depressants and suggest you talk to a councellar. It can be slightly embarrassing the first time but trust me its the best way to let it all out, there are no biased oppinions and you walk out and the weight that you've been carrying around will slowly driffed away!! So no more bottling all your emotions up!!

Last thing get plenty of fresh air, exercise and the most important part when you feel like your having a shitty day get dressed, do your hair, makeup etc and walk out your front door with your head held high!! Because your not going to let it beat you!!

Hope this helps!!

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Can I Help...??? Posted: 08-20-05 22:40pm


Hi... It's so difficult for me to read your post. My heart goes out to you but what you are feeling is so much more common than you may know. I am a university student studying to be a psychologist, so i'd love to help people who are feeling "not quite right with themselves". I am not saying that I have all the right answers but I can lend an ear if someone needs it...Even if it is across the world and over the internet. I've felt how you are feeling several times in my life and this goes without saying that others feel that way all the time, some of the time or just once in awhile... Happens to the best of us. I am assuming that your friends are around the same age as you, and with high school students, friends are hard to come by. If you can count on your fingers of one hand the number of true dear hearted friends that you have, then you are a very lucky person :) during our teenage years several different drivers cause our minds to make us react in situations. This is a time of growth,expoloration and decisions. I am not saying what your friend did is "right" but she/he may not have even known the harm that the decision caused you. Teenage years are selfish years. We do things for ourselves hoping for the best, even if it may be unconscioulsy. Talking about how you feel on the situation is the best solution. Bottling up your feelings for some time is okay (we all need time to recollect ourselves and straighten our paths) but in the long run it is better to express how you feel. If you are thinking about suicide (which light heartedly passes over peoples minds as the easy solution) then you should definately reconsider what your motives are. Would you want to do it to hurt others? I am most positive that there is at least one person who loves you so much right now that this very moment they are thinking of you and how much you mean to them. Try journaling. I always find that it is a way of getting my thoughts and feelings across in a manner that is organized and where I can let everything I am thinking flow onto the page without hiding anything. Also, you can go back and see the progress you've made. If you continue to feel the way you have been I would not feel afraid to seek some help from a clinician. Certified doctors can be of much help and insight. Just remember, people feel in all different ways. What your friend has done may not have been a big deal to him/her (or they would not feel hurt if it had happened to them, see?) but express how you feel, how you are hurt that you are not involved and let them know that their friendship is valuable to you and that you'd like it to grow with interactions. Trust me...As you grow older it is so difficult with friends...Dilemas all the time...But you only get mad at those you love and only those you truely care about can make an impact on if they hurt you or not...Right??? Sarah

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Posted: 08-20-05 23:31pm


If your bestfriend doesn't have your number, you have some real problems beyond depression or suicide. If you freeze when suicidal, you're not suicidal. Have you ever thought about being a homicidal maniac? It sure beats suicide, and you can get back at your so called friends. Off one, or maybe one of their parents and you'll be having a blast while they're crying and guess what? They might remember your phone number then! Of course, your friends could just be imaginary, and then you would be in a whole different world of trouble. Just cut loose, let the axe swing, and remember that there are movies like haute tension and psycho for a reason. Remember this, if you ever get the gonads to kill someone, it shouldn't be yourself. Off someone else.

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Posted: 08-21-05 07:20am


Hightension ur advice isnt very helpfull and your making fun of ppls serious problems?? Thats a bad go...

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You Are Not Alone Posted: 08-25-05 20:35pm


Hytension should keep comments to herself. I urge to to talk to your mom about you feelings. You should not be ashamed for feeling this way and more importantly you should not bottle them up inside. Kids in high school can be so mean. One day you are going to look back and have a difficult time remembering who they even were. Most of the girls in my high school who acted so insensitive became involved with drugs, got pregnant, failed to continue on with their education etc., and to this day struggle. Now, who do you think they idol? Believe it or not I hated high school so much I dropped out. And, those mean girls received their high school diplomas. I did not talk to my mom and there was no internet to use for an outlet so my feelings remained locked up inside. To this date I have a college education, career, husband of 14 years live in a very expensive home and have a thirteen year old daughter who still attends private school. I can honestly look look back at my awful experiences in high school and say it has made me a better person and a really good mom. I make sure I communicate with my daughter. In fact, most days she tells me more than I think I can even bare. My 13 year old shares with me these same kinds of problems. Believe it or not so are her friends. It is an unfortunate period in which young ladies seem to experience meanness. I would really like to hear from you 5 years from now. I am sure you will forget as will they. Soon all of this nonsense will be a fading memory. Hang in their kid!

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Posted: 08-25-05 22:39pm


I have mild depression too :( about your friends if they make you feel like your nothing, then dont be friends with them, and find sumone else to b friends with.. :( if they make u feel bad they obiously arnt your real friends, why hang out with them? You deserve better, you should tell them how you feel and how they make you feel second best and if they change thats fine but if they keep on making you feel depressed you can ditch them and move on.:) dont let anyone make you think you mean nothing.

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I Hope This Helps.......... Posted: 08-27-05 19:57pm


Lets take your problems one by one: 1. I'm 15 i've been having a lot of problems with my friends lately. They never call me or invite me to do something with them and I am constanly excluded. I don't think they really give a damn about me. I want to ask you a question, forget about your friends and if they really give a damn or not for a minute..... What do you feel about you? In order for you to attract the attention of your friends and any other people, you need to shine, and to shine you need to get some things done. Do whatever it takes. Believe in yourself. Get a book and write down all your achievements you have ever had, from age 4 or 5, maybe when you first learned to ride a bike, or you looked after gran when she was sick, or helped your mom with some shopping, all this is special things you did. Now write down your personality charateristics, what kind of person are you - kind, loving, gentle, happy,considerate, helpful. Read through what you have written and be proud of who you are. Don't look back; always look forward. Learn from yesterday and plan for tomorrow and just enjoy today :d death comes to quickly for all of us, we all die sooner or later, so lets rather focus our thoughts on living. Take a walk, barefoot, kick your shoes off and look at the birds in the tree singing happily, not worrying about where their next meal is coming from, watch the little ants rushing around merrily gathering food for their family. Take time to really look at the things in your world around you. Close your eyes and listen to all the different sounds you hear- children laughing, birds singing, car going by, etc.... Think to youarself, you are the most precious person and you love yourself, and you will attract others to you because you will gain confidence and glow. Read all your achievements every day and add to them. Every day say.....I am getting better and better and I love myself more every day, and I am going to do one good thing today for someone. I hope I have helped you a little.................. :)

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Posted: 06-18-07 06:27am


hey guys... You know we all go through depression no matter what age you are, I am 20 and i live with my boyfriend,i have so much finacl issues that its effecting my relationship with my boyfriend,that we live in the same house and we dont even talk anymore...i love him ...what do i do

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Think Positive Posted: 06-21-07 02:18am


Don't look for explanations or excuses! Look on the bright side. Pray for those that are not near. We are lucky, to boast! So stop coasting................. Good Luck!

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