Long Distance Friendship, He's Getting Married. Posted: 08-20-05 20:51pm
Well, before he did get engaged- we would
talk everyday, for atleast 4 hours- I
would go out of my way just to talk to him
and stay up way late and end up like a
zombie in my classes and at my school
activities (sports and stuff, not sleeping
doesn't really help.). We've been talking
for everyday, or atleast every other day,
4 hours a peice for a whole year. I think
he truly relied on me in an emotional way,
and just because i'm two states away, it
took away alot of the pressure of talking
to someone face to face. Thats why I
think we connected the way we did.
He drifted away from me after she came in
the picture, I totally understand and am
thrilled for him. He never really put a
good effort in contacting me after that,
or staying in touch... But then again,
he had problems with his ex's, his future
wife, and his buisiness. But he always
said, we should still be friends, and
we'll always be cool, that it would be his
closure. I cant have him, I wish I was
older so I could- but I can't, and I
accept that- although I don't like it.
Now, after a few weeks of not talking, he
comes back and says "someone asked me if I
was still talking to that girl, and it
just made me think of how we were." I feel
pretty influenced on the fact that he
needed someone to remind him of me so he
would approach me- after all, I tried
countless times to reach him, and it just
wasn't fair for me. I hate him for
messing with my head like that, but I
truley have moved on, but everything seems
to remind me of him.
Should I still keep in contact with him
for occasional hi's and bye's, or just be
done with it? If I had a major problem,
I know that he would be there as a
shoulder for me to cry on, but then again
he'll be married, and there is only room
for one major girl in his head, friend or
wife...
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vanessalouanne
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Joined: 31 May 2005 Posts: 2269 Location: ,
Posted: 08-23-05 15:10pm
Ok my first question, if you dont mind me
asking is how old you are and how old he
is. I was in a similar relationship
with a guy except I was the one who
married. I had been talking to this guy
for like 3 years and then I got married.
We had a great relationship and got along
well. The only problem is that he lived
in canada and traveled the rodeo circuit
and I live in cali. In ended up not ever
being anything between us and we still
talk on occasion but I appreciate the
relationship for what it is.. A great
friendship. Sometimes you just have to
accept things for what they are.
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