Mother In Law Has Made My Wife Jealous. Posted: 08-22-05 13:59pm
My wife and I have been married for eight
months, and my mother in law has been
trouble from the beginning. In fact,
several of my wife's family just like to
gossip about everyone and not get down to
the truth. I'm strange in that I actuall
will confront someone, to their face, and
get to the bottom of a situation. Not the
in-laws! They will phone everyone and
gossip without talking to the person in
question.
Here is the current problem. My wife's
sister and her husband (x and y) were
over for a barbecue, as well as my wife's
brother and his wife (a and b). Later on,
I overhear my wife complaining to her
sister (x) that b spends too much time
talking to me, staring in my eyes
(apparently) and flirting. Naturally,
this was all unknown to me. I'm a
sociable guy, but wouldn't dream of
flirting with anyone, let alone an in-law.
When I asked my wife about this, she said
that it started three months ago when her
mom (who just plain dislikes b, for no
real reason) brought it up.
Apparently,ever since, my wife has been
really jealous whenever b talks to me and
doesnt want a and b over. [sorry this is
a bit soap-like! But that's my
in-laws...] now b's name is unmentionable,
I have to avoid her like crazy so I don't
'lead her on' or 'enjoy the attention'..
It's just ridiculous.
There's no way b likes me more than anyone
else. My wife is blowing this out of
proportion and all because of her mother's
gossiping.
I really want to confront my mother in law
( I already talked to x and she's totally
on my side) and tell her to quit gossiping
about the family because of the
destructive potential (my wife and I had a
rough arguement about this one). But I
don't want to stir things up.
Should I phone up mother in law and let
her have it, or let sleeping dogs lie?
[pun intended]or just wait until the next
time I see her?
This is driving me nuts. I think my blood
pressure is high even as I type! :s
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babycat03
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Joined: 10 Sep 2005 Posts: 21 Location: michigan
I Would Posted: 09-13-05 17:06pm
I would call her up and ask her why she
would say such things that are not true.
Dont let her get away with this, its not
fair to you or your wife. Good luck.
Just try to be nice and calm when you talk
to her. And make sure your wife knows you
are going to talk to her about it.
Take care and good luck
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jahberoo
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Oct 2005 Posts: 1
Rules of Engagement Posted: 10-20-05 01:43am
Sounds like you and you wife need to spend
more time and effort building up trust
between the two of you. It may be your
mother-in-law doing the damage today but
tomorrow it could well be someone else
telling your wife untrue things about you
and other women. So long as your wife is
unfamiliar with how you respond to other
women and doubts you can withstand the
onslaught of predatory female behaviour
(yes, female predators are out there!),
you'd always have trouble on your hands.
Since you're still in your honeymoon year,
it'd be good to spend time discussing and
setting guidelines on how each of you are
to behave and interact with members of the
opposite sex. Yeah, I know rules can be a
drag but hey, a good baseball game is one
where people know the rules and play by
the rules, so what more a good marriage.
